02/20/2026
Part 5 of “Why We Do What We Do When We Date” 💛
This week is all about regulating before a date 😮💨
Especially if first dates leave you feeling activated, anxious, or dysregulated
If this sounds familiar, here are a few grounding reminders 👇
🧭 Set an intention
Before the date, ask yourself:
“What am I here to learn about how I feel?”
Not “How do I get them to like me?”
Giving your body one clear intention helps calm anxiety and attachment fears.
🌿 Regulate your body first
Your body and emotions are connected.
Breathing exercises, grounding, movement, or something warm and comforting (like tea ☕) can help your nervous system settle before you go.
🎯 Lower the stakes
The more pressure you put on a date to go well, the harder it is to trust how you actually feel.
If your only goal is to notice your experience, anything beyond neutral is a win.
And if the date doesn’t feel good?
That’s still useful information.
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Part 6 next week ✨