Tim Quinn, MFT

03/24/2026

A brilliant short little video between Esther Perel, and John and Julie Gottman, about the central role of repair in happy relationships. 

03/19/2026

03/15/2026

I’d love to be THEIR marriage counselor 😂

Seriously, my understanding is that they’ve got a great relationship, they’ve just learned the knack of seeing things differently and finding humorous ways to navigate them. 

03/13/2026

“Fear is a universal experience. Even the smallest insect feels it. We wade in the tidal pools and put our finger near the soft, open bodies of sea anemones and they close up. Everything spontaneously does that. It’s not a terrible thing that we feel fear when faced with the unknown. It is part of being alive, something we all share. We react against the possibility of loneliness, of death, of not having anything to hold on to. Fear is a natural reaction to moving closer to the truth.”

“Only to the extent that we expose ourselves over and over to annihilation can that which is indestructible be found in us.”

03/06/2026

I’ve never heard it said better about conflict. Conflict is inevitable, and it’s the vehicle for getting closer, depending upon how a couple handles it. Conflict is a couples attempt to become closer, and sometimes it’s clumsy, and then it’s necessary to go back and make a repair. This is a major determinant of whether or not a couple can be happy together. 

03/04/2026

Denmark is taking a major step by moving to end the “cry it out” method for babies after a nationwide study revealed potential harms. Over 700 psychologists warned that this sleep training practice could negatively impact brain development and parent-child attachment. The findings emphasise the importance of responsive caregiving during the early stages of life for healthy emotional and cognitive growth.

The study examined the effects of letting babies cry for extended periods and found links to elevated stress levels and possible long-term impacts on brain function. While some parts of the U.S. continue to recommend the method, Denmark’s decision reflects growing concern among experts about the risks versus the benefits of this approach. Advocates of alternative sleep strategies stress nurturing and gradual methods to promote better sleep without compromising developmental outcomes.

This move is sparking viral attention globally among parenting and health communities. It highlights a shift in understanding early childhood care and the need for policies informed by psychological research. Parents and caregivers are now encouraged to explore safer, evidence-based sleep strategies that support both healthy brain development and secure emotional bonds with their children.

03/03/2026

"What I advise you to do is, not to be unhappy before the crisis comes; since it may be that the dangers before which you paled as if they were threatening you, will never come upon you; they certainly have not yet come.

Accordingly, some things torment us more than they ought; some torment us before they ought; and some torment us when they ought not to torment us at all. We are in the habit of exaggerating, or imagining, or anticipating, sorrow."

“There are more things … likely to frighten us than there are to crush us; we suffer more often in imagination than in reality.”

02/27/2026

02/23/2026