Heart and Soul Healing Essentials

02/03/2026

Ever changing ebb and flow that alters our edges.

The Discomfort of Outgrowing the Role You Were Loved For

One of the strangest forms of growth is not learning who you are. It is realizing that the version of you people loved most was also the version that kept you smallest.

We rarely talk about this, but many relationships are built around roles. The responsible one. The easygoing one. The listener. The helper. The one who never causes trouble. These roles can feel like love, because they bring approval, stability, and belonging. People come to trust us in that shape. They know what to expect. They feel safe around the version of us that does not surprise them.

But then something changes.

You begin to need different things. You start setting boundaries. You stop laughing at what used to hurt. You become less available, less agreeable, less eager to prove your worth. Not because you are becoming cold, but because you are becoming honest. And that is where the discomfort begins.

Because growth does not only free you. It also disrupts the story others have been telling about you.

When people are used to you being the calm one, your anger feels like betrayal. When they are used to you being the strong one, your tiredness feels like weakness. When they are used to you being the generous one, your limits feel like selfishness. Sometimes the moment you change, you discover that what others loved was not only you, but the convenience of you.

This is why outgrowing a role can feel lonely. You are still the same person, but you are no longer performing the part that kept everyone comfortable. And the painful truth is that not everyone will celebrate your growth. Some will miss the old you, not because you were happier, but because you were easier to handle.

The real question becomes: are you being loved for who you are, or for who you have been trained to be?

Outgrowing a role does not mean rejecting the past. It means refusing to live inside it forever. It means allowing yourself to evolve, even if it confuses people, even if it costs you some approval, even if it forces you to be misunderstood for a while.

Because sometimes the most painful part of becoming yourself is watching who prefers you when you were smaller.

Painting: 'Stańczyk', 1862 by Jan Matejko

02/02/2026

Sound and Meditation Group.
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01/25/2026

Václav Havel is saying something simple and very true about human nature. He thought that inside every person, there is a quiet, good heart. It is a natural instinct to be fair, to help, and to cooperate. But life often teaches us to ignore that instinct. We get tired, we become cynical, or we are told that being good is for fools. That good heart doesn't disappear. It just goes to sleep. It becomes dormant, waiting for someone to remind it that it is okay to wake up.

That is exactly what Havel is doing with this quote. He is giving that quiet heart permission to beat loudly again. He is telling people, plainly, that being decent is not naive. Helping your neighbor, telling the truth, and playing by the fair rules are not silly ideas. They are the most sensible and practical things we can do. They are the basic glue that holds a family, a town, or a country together. Without that glue of simple goodwill, everything else falls apart. He is not dreaming of a perfect world. He is giving us the instruction manual for building a real one.

01/24/2026

Great winter recipe!!

Root Vegetable Gratin with Sweet Potatoes, Parsnips, and Beets

Ingredients:

2 medium sweet potatoes, peeled and thinly sliced

2 medium parsnips, peeled and thinly sliced

2 medium beets, peeled and thinly sliced

1 tablespoon olive oil

1 tablespoon fresh thyme leaves

1 teaspoon salt

½ teaspoon ground black pepper

2 tablespoons butter, cut into small pats

Directions:

Preheat oven to 375°F (190°C) and lightly grease a 9x13-inch baking dish with olive oil or butter.

In a large bowl, toss the sliced sweet potatoes, parsnips, and beets with olive oil, thyme, salt, and black pepper until evenly coated.

Layer the vegetables in the prepared baking dish, alternating colors for a visually appealing presentation. Dot the top with butter evenly.

Cover the dish with foil and bake for 35–40 minutes until vegetables are tender. Remove the foil and bake for an additional 10–15 minutes to allow the top to brown slightly.

Remove from oven and let sit for 5 minutes before serving. Garnish with extra thyme leaves if desired. Serve warm as a comforting side dish.

Prep Time: 15 minutes | Cooking Time: 55 minutes | Total Time: 1 hour 10 minutes
Kcal: 210 kcal | Servings: 4–6 servings

01/24/2026

Powerful message!!!

Same posture. Two very different journeys.

One sits in stillness to get something
—peace, power, success, healing, validation.
Meditation becomes another ladder.
Spirituality becomes another ambition.
The ego simply puts on calmer clothes.

The other sits in stillness to let go.
No checklist. No manifestations.
No desire to become special, awakened, or “more evolved.”
Just presence. Just honesty. Just seeing things as they are.

🧘‍♂️ This is the subtle difference most people miss.

You can meditate every day
talk about chakras, reiki, enlightenment
quote scriptures
post spiritual content
and still be deeply attached to outcomes.

Buddhism never promised more.
It pointed to less.

Less craving.
Less clinging.
Less resistance to reality.

The Buddha didn’t teach meditation to upgrade the self.
He taught it to see through the illusion of the self.

🌱 True awakening is not about adding:

More success

More powers

More identity

More spiritual labels

It’s about subtracting:

The constant wanting

The need to prove

The fear of not being enough

The idea that peace lies somewhere in the future

When desire drops, peace doesn’t need to be chased.
It’s already here.

✨ Same posture. Different paths.
One feeds desire with spirituality.
The other allows desire to fall away.

And in that falling away…
there is freedom.

01/17/2026

Such a great visual and practical explanation.
Loops 🔁 are fueled by energy, cellular memory, unhealed trauma, beliefs we are attached to and the very hormones in our bodies.
It’s hard work to break the loops ➰ and it’s doable!

We can be happy and free.

Most people don’t realize that life doesn’t repeat because of fate — it repeats because of loops.

This image shows two very different cycles we can fall into, often without noticing.

At the center of both is INTENTION.
Not the intention we say we have — but the intention we act from when things get uncomfortable.

🔁 The Victim Loop

This is the loop of unconscious living.

Something happens. A situation triggers discomfort.

Instead of facing it, we:

Ignore what hurts

Deny our role

Blame circumstances or people

Rationalize our behavior

Resist change

Hide from truth

And then… the same situation shows up again.
Different face. Same lesson.

The Victim Loop feels safe because it protects the ego.
But safety comes at a cost: stagnation.

Nothing grows here. Nothing heals here.
Only stories do.

🔁 The Accountability Loop

This is the loop of conscious growth.

The same situation arises — but this time, we choose differently.

We:

Recognize what’s really happening

Own our response, not the story

Forgive ourselves and others

Self-examine without self-attack

Learn the lesson

Take action, even when it’s uncomfortable

This loop doesn’t feel easy.
But it feels free.

Because every pass through it makes you wiser, lighter, and stronger.

⚖️ The Truth Few Talk About

Both loops begin with the same situation.
The difference is choice.

You don’t escape the Victim Loop by blaming less people.
You escape it by telling yourself the truth.

And you don’t enter the Accountability Loop by being perfect.
You enter it by being honest.

🌱 A Gentle Reminder

Accountability is not punishment.
It’s self-respect.

Forgiveness is not weakness.
It’s clarity.

Growth doesn’t happen when life gets easier —
It happens when you get braver.

Ask yourself today:
Which loop am I feeding — and which one is feeding me?

Because the moment you change your loop,
your entire life trajectory shifts.

01/15/2026

Vibrational Physics
Watch the documentary Pyramid Codes!

01/13/2026

988 if you need to talk ..

There are days when you don’t want to live, and you don’t want to die either.
You just want to disappear for a moment —
to see if the world would notice that it hurts.
And not out of whim, no — but because enduring everything in silence for too long eventually exhausts you.

You broke a thousand times without saying a word,
and no one saw it.
Yet it took just one misstep, one look a little too tired,
for you to be judged without mercy.

That’s how life works.
It demands strength from those who are already trembling at the edge of the abyss.
And yet, you’re still here —
with a soul in pieces and a heart without guarantees,
but standing.

Because even if no one notices it,
your very existence is an act of resistance.
Perhaps even the bravest one of all.
To keep going despite everything, without even knowing how to take the next step.
And if that’s not proof of strength, then tell me what is.

No, you are not alone.
There are many of us walking this fragile line,
hiding our wounds so as not to worry others.

So today, if you cry, don’t blame yourself.
Because crying is also a way of saying:
“I’M STILL FIGHTING.”

[Robin Williams]