Dr. Tartaro Intimacy Coaching

Dr. Tartaro Intimacy Coaching I offer support to individuals and couples to practice vulnerability and create nourishing connectio Call me a free consultation today!

I offer services to individuals and couples to create the connection you crave and the joy you know is possible.

I’m giving the second half of an online, free talk tonight on how to mend and tend relationships when there is conflict,...
01/28/2026

I’m giving the second half of an online, free talk tonight on how to mend and tend relationships when there is conflict, so that we grow and deepen in connection.  “How to Compost Rupture Into Relationship”.

There’s still time to sign up!

This will be a skills based evening, so come prepared with a notebook and ready to do partner exercises.

These are  the kinds of practices that deeply benefit from practicing in community. Come practice these humbling, helpful and critical tools with us in a loving safe environment.

Conflict in relationships is inevitable. Whether or not we can come back to connection through conflict depends on  our skills and resources. Come,  let us resource together tonight.

If you can’t make the talk, you will get the recording afterward.

Register at the link below! 👇🏼

I am thrilled to share with you Episode 1 of “We Too: Real Life Stories with Real Life Couples” and its debut today! Cli...
01/27/2026

I am thrilled to share with you Episode 1 of “We Too: Real Life Stories with Real Life Couples” and its debut today! Click links in comments to watch videos (full length + a lovely 10-minute clip).

I interviewed Renee & Neil, Port Townsend, WA, about their 24-year long marriage and how alive they feel in connection to one another all these years later.

Their vitality as a couple is no accident – they work at it, every single day!

When you watch and listen to our conversation, you will hear how they nurture their relationship, including through their communication, their s*x lives and their conflict tending.

And you will feel it too. Their happiness is infectious.

This interview is a refreshing inoculation to the news cycle right now. It’s a gentle, smart, engaging, funny, and tender romp with a couple who work diligently on their love. I found myself belly laughing with them. I imagine you might, too, when you tune in.

So many of us are looking for ways to create a better world right now than the one we see around us. It is vital that we not only track what is not working but that we anchor our energies around what is. This interview is one deeply inspiring example.

Keep in mind as you listen that healthy adult relating depends on larger socio-economic and demographic intersections as well. Renee and Neil are both White and cisgender, with stable income and housing, higher education degrees and some generational wealth. These supports have contributed to the journey of their relating in countless ways and with their permission, I am sharing this part of their story too.

Maintaining healthy relationships in our families, across our friendships, in our professional groups and even across political differences demands skill. May listening to this interview fill you with beauty, settle the churning inside even for a few moments and empower you to grow in creativity and wisdom for responding to the world.

Links below to tune in and watch! 👇🏼🎥 ❤️

And now time for a little beauty, to let our weary nervous systems catch a breath. 😮‍💨Ahem. As of January, and in my ste...
01/15/2026

And now time for a little beauty, to let our weary nervous systems catch a breath. 😮‍💨Ahem. As of January, and in my steady comeback to creative projects since parenthood, I started a video series, a monthly spotlight on couples! First episode comes out next week!

It’s called, “We Too: Real Life Stories with Real Life Couples”. As in, we too - all couples - have ups and downs, beauty and travesty, and no one is alone in this.

An idea born years ago and just now getting off the ground, “We Too” is my contribution to help lessen the isolation and shame around couples who genuinely struggle because come on, adult intimacy is hard. So let’s open up the doors that keep the real life stories silenced and start to get out loud about what helps couples as well as what challenges us, both.

I must say myself, this first episode is extraordinary.

I asked Renee Baribault and Neil Harrington months ago if they would be my first guests because they are one of those couples about whom people say, how do you do it?  How do you keep the magic alive all these years later?

As you will hear when the episode drops next week,  it’s not an accident that they still have such a fresh, alive love 24 years and two grown children later. They *practice* love, including  through big and small daily touch points that they describe in detail in the interview.  They take a really creative approach to their s*x lives, something they prioritize, which is so inspiring to hear. And the way they talk about conflict is very tender, something you will see at the tail end of our hour-long conversation.

I joked at the end of my time with them that I looked forward to going home to my husband afterward because I felt like I was inspired by their stories to be a much better wife!

There’s just something about orienting our attention to what works - rather than so many examples of what’s broken in relationships and in the world - that feeds the spirit, brings hope, and gives viable pathways for growing.

I believe this first episode especially offers all of that and more. I hope you will watch!

To get this content delivered to your inbox, sign up for my newsletter, link below. I will be posting videos on YouTube as well as announcing on social media as well.

Are you in a couple and would you like to be interviewed for “We Too”? My 2026 calendar is filling up! Fill out the application, which I will link in the comments below, to be considered!

Finally special thanks to my video editor Gabe Van Lelyveld of Whaleheart Productions who has been patiently guiding me through the pre-production process and helping me ensure we have a beautiful finished product  that does justice to these brave couples.

Thank you for your support of healthy adult intimacy -  and the generations of children nurtured by healthy, happy parents - by tuning into this free program this year! Again, sign up for my newsletter below. 👇🏼

Y’all, I did a thing! Aliko Weste aka Mountain, creator of “For the People” podcast, just interviewed me for an hour abo...
01/08/2026

Y’all, I did a thing! Aliko Weste aka Mountain, creator of “For the People” podcast, just interviewed me for an hour about my work with couples, about my experience of being a mother, and about my vision for how to create more relationally intelligent, cooperative communities to support parents, children and all relationships. Phew!

You know, I spend so much time with toddlers that I was seriously worried for a minute that I wouldn’t be able to string an intelligent adult sentence together! 😬

I’ll say I got a few out in the end but truly with the help of this loving sweet being who put me right at ease from the start.🙏🏽❤️

We had a flowing conversation about love, about the gaps left in our collective emotional education, and about a couples program I am about to launch that challenges the notion that adult relationships need to happen behind closed doors.🚫🤫

It was a joy to swim in deep waters with you today, Mountain. Thank you for believing in me. 💦

🎙️ Episode airs in February! Stay tuned!

Y’all, I did a thing! Aliko Weste, creator of “For the People” podcast, just interviewed me for an hour about my work wi...
01/07/2026

Y’all, I did a thing! Aliko Weste, creator of “For the People” podcast, just interviewed me for an hour about my work with couples, about my experience of being a mother, and about my vision for how to create more relationally intelligent, cooperative communities to support parents, children and all relationships. Phew!

You know, I spend so much time with toddlers that I was seriously worried for a minute that I wouldn’t be able to string an intelligent adult sentence together! 😬

I’ll say I got a few out in the end but truly with the help of this loving sweet being who put me right at ease from the start.🙏🏽❤️

We had a flowing conversation about love, about the gaps left in our collective emotional education, and about a couples program I am about to launch that challenges the notion that adult relationships need to happen behind closed doors.🚫🤫

It was a joy to swim in deep waters with you today, Mountain. Thank you for believing in me. 💦

🎙️ Episode airs in February! Stay tuned!

12/04/2025

Class is full y’all❗️❗️We got our final sign up just now for our February “How to Village Well” workshop and I drove over to Grace’s house so we could attempt a video (this one is hilarious 😂 ) to share the news.

(And yes that’s totally my mom hat hair 🧑🏽‍🎤🤦🏽‍♀️. Grace you look so groomed!).

👉🏼We are starting the wait list TODAY for folks who are still interested - be sure to sign up as cancellations do happen closer to the date.

🌱 Then stay tuned with us for an exciting spring series to go deeper into the skills we have introduced in these last three courses.

🌟Thank you for all your enthusiasm for learning how to village well! It is giving us hope. 🌟 — with Grace Karissa Bryant.

After a long post-partum hiatus, I’m slowly coming back to teaching again y’all! And l’m very honored to be offering a t...
12/03/2025

After a long post-partum hiatus, I’m slowly coming back to teaching again y’all! And l’m very honored to be offering a two-part guest lecture in January for the Northwest Grief Tending speaker series on Tending Conflict.

📅 Wednesday, Jan 21 & 28 at 6:30 - 8:00 p.m PT. Free by donation. Mark your calendars and join us! Link in comments.

🌱 “How to Compost Rupture into Relationship” 🌱

When you read the word, "conflict", what arises? For most people, it's a sour taste in the mouth and painful memories.

Few of us in modern culture were offered examples of conflict tended well and consequently, avoid any sign of relationship tension.

Yet conflict tended well - with skill, love, courage and support - is a key pathway to the mature, healthy communities many of us are endeavoring to create.

Grief tenders have an especially important opportunity to befriend conflict. Conflict is the rupture that calls forward the grief; conflict work and grief work are inextricable frontiers for growth.

Sobonfu Some taught about the wisdom of conflict and the importance of holding it well. Spiritual teacher Deborah Jones, describing Sobonfu's message, writes:

“In the villages of Africa, conflict is seen as a timely gift sent by Spirit to clear obscurations in their lives. The villagers would say that conflict arrives to crack open hidden thoughts, interpretations, and stuck energies...In the true spirit of community, the way conflict is approached and resolved is a barometer measuring the state of maturity of its members and the community itself." (Full article in comments).

In this 2-part session, Dr. Jessica Tartaro will help grief tenders explore their relationships to conflict, introduce the possibility of welcoming conflict rather than avoiding it, and guide participants through exercises to "approach and resolve" conflict in brave ways through tools that can be applied immediately.

When approached with skillful receptivity and communal support, conflict offers the potential to deepen the impact of all our other healing work, including grief work.✨

“I also just wanted to let you know how absolutely skilled you are at coaching. Truly I am honored to be working with yo...
10/03/2025

“I also just wanted to let you know how absolutely skilled you are at coaching. Truly I am honored to be working with you. I appreciate your directness, coupled with gentle compassion. Holding two in a container is also quite difficult. Thank you.

I know that our journey with you will bring my husband and I more intimacy, as well as allowing me to be better in all my other precious relationships. Thank you, Jessica”.

- Melissa A.

🖌️Sometimes I ask my clients for testimonials. Sometimes they just come spontaneously in the midst of really hard work that opens new doors. This one was the latter. Shared with permission and a whole lotta reverence.

🌱Dr. Tartaro Intimacy Coaching accepting new clients. Website below.

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Grace Karissa Bryant and I have walked many miles together. Teaching together again this September is so exciting. We ar...
08/15/2025

Grace Karissa Bryant and I have walked many miles together. Teaching together again this September is so exciting. We are both moms - Grace has a four year old son, my daughter is almost three - and our busy lives haven’t converged enough. This class - How to Village Well: A Day of Connection Games with Jessica Tartaro & Grace Bryant - is bringing us back together.

What you will get when you come to this workshop isn’t polished teaching from us, even though both of us are very capable of that. We have a bigger priority with this class.

At “How to Village Well”, you will get from us transparency about how *damn* hard it is to make healthy relationships work inside of the collapse that is modern community, from both our professional and personal perspectives.

You will hear our hopes for small but mighty steps we can take together to grow relationship skills that bridge where we are with where we need to be as a culture.

And you will be invited to help guide the unfolding process of this class. This is a very unique way to run a workshop and most facilitators won’t do it. We are. Each participant will be asked to share what skills you believe are necessary for doing village in healthy ways. Where have you been harmed and what skills were missing? Where have you been held and what skills were intact?

We - Grace and I - will be using your answers to design in real time - as in,  during the workshop itself - the skill building and trust building we will do together on Friday September 19th.  What will unfold will depend entirely on who is in the room.

Sign ups have already started coming in. We have room for 22 folks in this class. Is this the kind of collaboration you feel called to join? Are you too yearning for honesty about what doesn’t work in modern community relating? Do you as well have a vision for something better and more beautiful?

If so, I hope you will join us. At our last planning meeting, Grace and I both kept saying, “ I want to take this class!” It’s going to be something special.

To register, fill out the application form in the comments below and let us begin answering these important questions together.🧡

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Intimacy Coaching: Is it right for you?

Let's face it. Intimacy can be tough.

I have dedicated my life to teaching about healthy relating, and I assure you, every day I am still humbled by how hard it is to stay connected!

As an Intimacy Coach, this is what I have learned.

Intimacy is not about mastery - it's about practice. And that's what I help you do. When you sign up for my services, you and I work as a team to practice and improve your ability to connect.