Dr. Tartaro Intimacy Coaching

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I offer services to individuals and couples to create the connection you crave and the joy you know is possible.

The final episode of Season 1 is live y’all! I’m so excited for you to meet Hazel-Grace & Nico, who I interviewed for Ep...
03/25/2026

The final episode of Season 1 is live y’all! I’m so excited for you to meet Hazel-Grace & Nico, who I interviewed for Episode 3 of “We Too: Real Life Stories with Real Life Couples”. They revealed…a lot…in our hour long discussion. It’s worth it to watch until the end.

Hazel-Grace & Nico are both teachers in their fields. But for this candid interview, they intentionally took off their teaching roles…and most of their clothes! 🤭

You just have to see it to understand.

Almost ten years ago, I began my first collaboration with Dr. Hazel-Grace, a fellow relationship coach. With this interview, we are finding a new version of collaborating, in this case, in celebration of healthy, real partnership. I couldn’t be happier for the love they have found with Nico.

As you listen to this month’s episode, keep in mind some of the larger, socio-economic forces that shaped this couple:

Hazel-Grace identifies as a White, non-binary, pansexual entrepreneur with graduate education and financial autonomy. They were raised in what they said was both a loving and a violent home and describe struggling with anxiety and depression as an adult. Nico identifies as a White, bisexual and cis man who grew up in Canada in a working class, loving family. He has a high school education and reports current financial instability.

No couple with resilience like theirs shows up in a vacuum.

It’s especially important to name that this couple took me play-by-play through two episodes of significant, recent conflict for them which they have since resolved. It’s huge that they were willing to share this with the world.

If you are curious what conflict can look like between a couple that is committed to both authenticity and healthy repair, this interview is gold.

I am excited for you to enjoy the brave, conversation I had with this beautiful couple.

Video link in comments below. 👇🏼

“The longer we are in relationship, the more we are in love. That feels like the special sauce.” - Nico from Season 1 Ep...
03/20/2026

“The longer we are in relationship, the more we are in love. That feels like the special sauce.”

- Nico from Season 1 Episode 3, “ We Too: Real Life Stories from Real Life Couples”

I have the best job. Recently I had the honor of interviewing friend and colleague Hazel-Grace Yates and their partner of 7 years, Nico, for my monthly couples spotlight, “We Too”. Full interview coming out next week!

Similar to the coaching I do with couples in my private practice, for “We Too” I get to listen, get curious and go on the journey into the beautiful, the hard and the real life moments of lovers’ relating.

The difference here - between coaching and interviewing - is that I record the conversation for the world to hear.

In a week, their hour-long interview will be live on my YouTube channel. Sign up for my newsletter to have the interview delivered to your inbox! Link below.

In this conversation, Hazel-Grace and Nico not only share their techniques for keeping the spark sparky as time goes by in their relationship but also, two highly revealing and very detailed accounts of conflict between them, how they got triggered and what they did to clean it up.

It was my hope in launching “We Too” that couples or singles who watch these interviews would end up saying , oh yeah, we go through that! Here’s proof that we are not the only ones!

In this interview, especially, I think you will get that chance.

I hope you will sign up for my newsletter - link below 👇🏼 - and stay tuned on my social media to hear and see the beauty, love, and realness of this brave couple.

Season 1 Episode 3: Hazel-Grace & Nico💕

Check out Ben Wilson’s beautiful review of “We Too: Real Life Stories with Real Life Couples”. Thank you Ben! And then c...
02/26/2026

Check out Ben Wilson’s beautiful review of “We Too: Real Life Stories with Real Life Couples”. Thank you Ben! And then click the link in the comments below to watch this month’s video and be inspired too!💕

👌🏼 Shared with permission

The second episode is here! Get ready to meet Annie & Craig, a delightful couple from Seattle who I had the privilege of...
02/24/2026

The second episode is here! Get ready to meet Annie & Craig, a delightful couple from Seattle who I had the privilege of interviewing for “We Too: Real Life Stories With Real Life Couples”, my monthly couples video spotlight.

Link in comments.

Annie & Craig practice polyamory and as you will hear, prioritize creativity, community and a good dose of zaniness in the path they walk as a couple. There were moments of this interview when my eyes popped in amusement - and frankly, awe - at their stories.

The world is filled with reasons to be anxious and scared right now with our nervous systems paying the price for the intensity. It’s a critical time to get involved in creating the just world we want. It’s also a critical time to be tracking and tending to our well-being and feeding our systems with signs of hope.

This interview is an invitation to do just that.

Both Annie and Craig identify as White and cisgender. Annie has a graduate degree (from ASU like me!). Her parents are still married, she has inherited wealth, owns her home and lives with ADHD and generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), which she bravely shares at the start of our conversation. Craig was born into a poor-medium income family, does not have higher education and maintains stable housing in the intentional community he co-founded. Each of these factors plays its role in shaping the people you will meet in this episode.

Towards the end of this interview, you will hear how community support and witness is a vital resource for the health of Annie and Craig’s partnership. They close with a wish for all couples to be reminded by the web of friendships - “We all go through it” - when times get tough.

“We All Go Through It” could be the motto for this series!

That’s my hope, that these interviews will be a strand in a web holding you in your intimate relating, normalizing your challenges, inspiring you to grow and reminding you that you are not alone.

I hope you enjoy, from our hearts to yours.
Link to full interview in comments. 👇🏼

How to Repair Well: A 4-Week Couples JourneyHI y'all. Quick question: what do you do in your intimate partnership when o...
02/17/2026

How to Repair Well: A 4-Week Couples Journey

HI y'all. Quick question: what do you do in your intimate partnership when one or both of you has hurt the others’ feelings? Do you have like an actual process for cleaning it up?

I ask because, after almost 15 years of working with couples, one thing I have seen is that the couples who find ways to apologize, take responsibility and mend after breakdowns get closer over time.

And the couples who let hurts pile up and just move on, don’t. Like really don’t. Like ultimately lose the glue of their bond.

My name is Dr. Mama Jessica Tartaro. I am a mom, wife, Intimacy Coach and dancer. Starting in March, I’m offering a new program for THREE couples who are interested in a 4-week, low cost pathway to skill-building your repair process. “How to Repair Well” will be part personalized class, part coaching and part deep dive into a personal healing process. More info below.

To level with you, I'm not myself in a perfect marriage. My husband and I have been together for 7 years, married for 6. And we have conflicts! Usually low level spats. Occasionally big blow outs.

One thing I will say that I am very proud of is that we clean up well. It means that our conflicts become less like bombs and more like turning points in our life cycle that teach us things we needed to know.

A mentor of mine told me years ago, "It's not IF you make messes. It's HOW you clean them up that matters!" A truth that has rung loudly in my own marriage and my work with couples in my private practice.

For the month of March, I have room for THREE couples to do a 4-week journey with me. Called, "How to Repair Well," this will be a skills based coaching and educational program inspired by the work of Dr. Susan Campbell, author of the book, 'From Triggered to Tranquil'. Couples will meet with me weekly for 1-hour sessions as well as do homework in between sessions.

While this program is open to everyone, I am prioritizing couples with children of any age. As a parent myself, I have a big heart for how hard it is to invest in healthy adult intimacy while juggling the endless demands of parenting. If that is you, I would love to hold a space for you in my schedule.

This program is for you if:

•You are committed to your relationship as a pathway to growth

• You two have many foundational tools in place in your relationship

• You have conflict in some form, either low level reactionary moments, bigger fights or all of the above

• You may have a tendency just to let things blow over rather than really resolve them

• You would like to evolve rather than continue to repeat patterns

• Bonus if you are also parents (but not required if you are still interested)

Cost of the program is $500. Payment required to hold your place.

If you think this is for you, let me know by filling out the application in the link below which includes more information about the commitment. I will be in touch to confirm your registration and get you booked!

I've been studying and teaching about conflict tending for the last several years, including training to be a mediator, teaching community courses on conflict tools as well as working with grief teachers on conflict tending in grief work. It would be my pleasure to share what I have learned with committed couples, so that more of us in loving long term partnerships can deepen and grow through conflict - a healthy part of relating - rather than be knocked down by it.

Let me know if you have any questions or just fill out the application below and I will be in touch!

As some of you know by now, my family is packing up soon to head to Austin, Texas, for a one month sunny getaway in Marc...
02/11/2026

As some of you know by now, my family is packing up soon to head to Austin, Texas, for a one month sunny getaway in March! This is mama’s big dream, a grand leap and truly an experiment in relocating our lives with a toddler.

Part of what is making this possible is that by some magical stroke, we were able to enroll Joya in a very special South Austin preschool that happened to have an opening. Everything else has been the details after that, though I must say I deeply exhaled when we found housing last week! So many moving parts.

Last night, Joya said to me with great seriousness, “Mama, I am not going to need you to stay with me when I am at Bloom School. But if you need me for anything, just call. And I will be sending you love”.

I blinked back tears.

Our family’s original plan was of course for us all to travel together. But in the end, Rich will only be joining us for a long weekend; he is needed back in Washington for his business. I’ll be solo parenting for most of the month while attempting to see clients during Joya’s school hours. I trust Joya and me to figure this out, but also, I’m nervous.

And I think my child realizes this.

That she wanted to reassure ME melted my frazzled heart. She also showed me yesterday that she can buckle her car seat by herself. And she had her first spend-the-night-out last weekend without us.

Oh Joya, your blossoming independence is upending the world as I’ve known it. I’m so excited to spread our wings together soon and discover us in flight.

“For our third date we were going for a walk through volunteer Park and I said something off hand like, “Oh I straighten...
02/06/2026

“For our third date we were going for a walk through volunteer Park and I said something off hand like, “Oh I straightened my hair for you today.” And he was like, “Whoah whoah whoah just so you know, that will never matter to me.” And I remember him touching my heart space and saying, “It’s what’s in here that I care about and that’s what I want to get to know”.

- Annie

I had the enormous pleasure of interviewing Annie Gustafson and Craig Michael Ivey this week for Episode 2 of “We Too: Real Life Stories with Real Life Couples”. It was a joy.

That quote above from Annie is just one of many that will give you a peek into their love affair and the creativity and authenticity that infuses the path they are taking. 

Be sure to sign up for my newsletter (link below) to get the full video of our interview when it drops by the end of the month! 👇🏼

I’m giving the second half of an online, free talk tonight on how to mend and tend relationships when there is conflict,...
01/28/2026

I’m giving the second half of an online, free talk tonight on how to mend and tend relationships when there is conflict, so that we grow and deepen in connection.  “How to Compost Rupture Into Relationship”.

There’s still time to sign up!

This will be a skills based evening, so come prepared with a notebook and ready to do partner exercises.

These are  the kinds of practices that deeply benefit from practicing in community. Come practice these humbling, helpful and critical tools with us in a loving safe environment.

Conflict in relationships is inevitable. Whether or not we can come back to connection through conflict depends on  our skills and resources. Come,  let us resource together tonight.

If you can’t make the talk, you will get the recording afterward.

Register at the link below! 👇🏼

“I also just wanted to let you know how absolutely skilled you are at coaching. Truly I am honored to be working with yo...
10/03/2025

“I also just wanted to let you know how absolutely skilled you are at coaching. Truly I am honored to be working with you. I appreciate your directness, coupled with gentle compassion. Holding two in a container is also quite difficult. Thank you.

I know that our journey with you will bring my husband and I more intimacy, as well as allowing me to be better in all my other precious relationships. Thank you, Jessica”.

- Melissa A.

🖌️Sometimes I ask my clients for testimonials. Sometimes they just come spontaneously in the midst of really hard work that opens new doors. This one was the latter. Shared with permission and a whole lotta reverence.

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Intimacy Coaching: Is it right for you?

Let's face it. Intimacy can be tough.

I have dedicated my life to teaching about healthy relating, and I assure you, every day I am still humbled by how hard it is to stay connected!

As an Intimacy Coach, this is what I have learned.

Intimacy is not about mastery - it's about practice. And that's what I help you do. When you sign up for my services, you and I work as a team to practice and improve your ability to connect.