Dr. Tartaro Intimacy Coaching

12/09/2025

Stronger Together: Join Me for A Season of Support - https://mailchi.mp/drjessicatartaro/a-full-hearted-august-specials-and-more-17337588

12/04/2025

Class is full y’all❗️❗️We got our final sign up just now for our February “How to Village Well” workshop and I drove over to Grace’s house so we could attempt a video (this one is hilarious 😂 ) to share the news.

(And yes that’s totally my mom hat hair 🧑🏽‍🎤🤦🏽‍♀️. Grace you look so groomed!).

👉🏼We are starting the wait list TODAY for folks who are still interested - be sure to sign up as cancellations do happen closer to the date.

🌱 Then stay tuned with us for an exciting spring series to go deeper into the skills we have introduced in these last three courses.

🌟Thank you for all your enthusiasm for learning how to village well! It is giving us hope. 🌟 — with Grace Karissa Bryant.

12/03/2025

After a long post-partum hiatus, I’m slowly coming back to teaching again y’all! And l’m very honored to be offering a two-part guest lecture in January for the Northwest Grief Tending speaker series on Tending Conflict.

📅 Wednesday, Jan 21 & 28 at 6:30 - 8:00 p.m PT. Free by donation. Mark your calendars and join us! Link in comments.

🌱 “How to Compost Rupture into Relationship” 🌱

When you read the word, "conflict", what arises? For most people, it's a sour taste in the mouth and painful memories.

Few of us in modern culture were offered examples of conflict tended well and consequently, avoid any sign of relationship tension.

Yet conflict tended well - with skill, love, courage and support - is a key pathway to the mature, healthy communities many of us are endeavoring to create.

Grief tenders have an especially important opportunity to befriend conflict. Conflict is the rupture that calls forward the grief; conflict work and grief work are inextricable frontiers for growth.

Sobonfu Some taught about the wisdom of conflict and the importance of holding it well. Spiritual teacher Deborah Jones, describing Sobonfu's message, writes:

“In the villages of Africa, conflict is seen as a timely gift sent by Spirit to clear obscurations in their lives. The villagers would say that conflict arrives to crack open hidden thoughts, interpretations, and stuck energies...In the true spirit of community, the way conflict is approached and resolved is a barometer measuring the state of maturity of its members and the community itself." (Full article in comments).

In this 2-part session, Dr. Jessica Tartaro will help grief tenders explore their relationships to conflict, introduce the possibility of welcoming conflict rather than avoiding it, and guide participants through exercises to "approach and resolve" conflict in brave ways through tools that can be applied immediately.

When approached with skillful receptivity and communal support, conflict offers the potential to deepen the impact of all our other healing work, including grief work.✨

10/03/2025

“I also just wanted to let you know how absolutely skilled you are at coaching. Truly I am honored to be working with you. I appreciate your directness, coupled with gentle compassion. Holding two in a container is also quite difficult. Thank you.

I know that our journey with you will bring my husband and I more intimacy, as well as allowing me to be better in all my other precious relationships. Thank you, Jessica”.

- Melissa A.

🖌️Sometimes I ask my clients for testimonials. Sometimes they just come spontaneously in the midst of really hard work that opens new doors. This one was the latter. Shared with permission and a whole lotta reverence.

🌱Dr. Tartaro Intimacy Coaching accepting new clients. Website below.

📸 Photo credit https://unsplash.com/

08/15/2025

Grace Karissa Bryant and I have walked many miles together. Teaching together again this September is so exciting. We are both moms - Grace has a four year old son, my daughter is almost three - and our busy lives haven’t converged enough. This class - How to Village Well: A Day of Connection Games with Jessica Tartaro & Grace Bryant - is bringing us back together.

What you will get when you come to this workshop isn’t polished teaching from us, even though both of us are very capable of that. We have a bigger priority with this class.

At “How to Village Well”, you will get from us transparency about how *damn* hard it is to make healthy relationships work inside of the collapse that is modern community, from both our professional and personal perspectives.

You will hear our hopes for small but mighty steps we can take together to grow relationship skills that bridge where we are with where we need to be as a culture.

And you will be invited to help guide the unfolding process of this class. This is a very unique way to run a workshop and most facilitators won’t do it. We are. Each participant will be asked to share what skills you believe are necessary for doing village in healthy ways. Where have you been harmed and what skills were missing? Where have you been held and what skills were intact?

We - Grace and I - will be using your answers to design in real time - as in,  during the workshop itself - the skill building and trust building we will do together on Friday September 19th.  What will unfold will depend entirely on who is in the room.

Sign ups have already started coming in. We have room for 22 folks in this class. Is this the kind of collaboration you feel called to join? Are you too yearning for honesty about what doesn’t work in modern community relating? Do you as well have a vision for something better and more beautiful?

If so, I hope you will join us. At our last planning meeting, Grace and I both kept saying, “ I want to take this class!” It’s going to be something special.

To register, fill out the application form in the comments below and let us begin answering these important questions together.🧡

08/06/2025

Gifts Inside From My Humanity to Yours 🎁 - https://mailchi.mp/drjessicatartaro/a-full-hearted-august-specials-and-more

08/01/2025

When I signed on for a video session last week with one of my long term clients, she took one look at me and said, with a mix of relief and fatigue in her voice, “Oh Jessica, thank you for always showing up”.

Wow. I was taken aback. I am privileged to receive gratitude often in my private practice as an Intimacy Coach. But something about the simplicity of her appreciation disarmed me, and I told her so.

Showing up is such a big part of what I offer my clients. As someone who has spent a lifetime continuing to heal from my own intimacy wounds, I deeply get that trust is everything in this work.

As my own therapist reminds me, wounding happens in relationship. So the mending must happen in relationship as well.

In my work as an Intimacy Coach, I strive to create the kind of steady, safe, playful, welcoming and non-judgmental foundation for the singles and couples I serve from which we can explore all the scary things about connection.

Most people at some time in their lives struggle to have the depth of connection they long for. But not everyone seeks out an Intimacy Coach.

Now is such a powerful time to invest in the healing and skill building that create healthy connection, whether you are currently in a partnership or not.

In the month of August, I am offering in person Exploratory sessions at my downtown Port Townsend office for local folks, and video sessions for non-locals. These are complementary (no charge) sessions for exploring whether or not my coaching is right for you.

🌟Curious? Contact me today with questions and to schedule and I’ll get you on my books for August!

🌿 Website and contact info in comments below.👇🏼

07/23/2025

Every week in my private coaching practice, I guide couples and singles towards healthy intimacy.

Each session, one more steady step away from loneliness towards connection. Away from shame towards safety. Away from sexual and emotional illiteracy towards empowered communication.

It’s an honor to accompany my clients on these brave, steady journeys.

But there is no greater teacher for this Intimacy Coach than my daughter. Lifting her full weight up - the weight of her wild creativity, the weight of her fierce attentiveness, the weight of her unabashed enthusiasm and the weight of her bottomless sensitivity - is building muscles for love and connection in me I never knew possible.

Child, you make me a better healer of relationship, truly.

💞Dr. Tartaro Intimacy Coaching
🌟Accepting new clients
🌱Couples & Singles
🪷Sliding scale and package discounts
💜 Complimentary Exploratory Session

📸 Photo by Rebecca Storm

02/03/2025

Join us next Monday for a women’s circle to speak openly about our bodies, our desires and our reactions to the recent movie, “Baby Girl”. The world changes when women claim our sexuality! Cis, NB and trans women welcome. Space limited.💫

FB link in comments. 👇🏼

01/08/2025

Big announcement here y’all. 🎺 🎺🎺💨💨💨

After five long years of seeing my Intimacy coaching clients by video since the pandemic, I’m back!

Live and for an unlimited time, I’ll be seeing singles and couples from a beautiful suite above Imprint Bookshop in downtown Port Townsend. Woohoo!

Over the new year I sealed a sub-lease with the most kind, fabulous and fellow coach Oceanna Van Lelyveld. Thank you, friend, for coming back into my life at just the right time.♥️

More about my practice: Intimacy coaching is for anyone who realizes we don’t do this relationship thing by ourselves. Who realizes that relationships kick our proverbial butts harder than most any other life challenges do. And who want to take the stress, disappointment, and frustration of rocky relating and learn, grow and wildly improve from it.

It {IS} possible.

That said, after 13 years of practice, I’ve seen that my coaching tends to be a fit for you if:

- You are creative/artistic in some way
- You are sensitive or you are highly sensitive
- Being in your body is a thing to you, like maybe you dance or do yoga or walk in nature or just know that your body is important even if you don’t know how to inhabit it all the time
- You might be heady or extra smart and are challenged by getting vulnerable or into your heart
- Spiritual matters matter to you either explicitly or kind of secretly
- Due to any of the above, you have struggled to feel met by conventional mental health services and/or dominant culture at large

If any of this resonates, or if you’re just curious about this work, I’d love to hear you. For the next month, I am offering my complimentary initial consultation in person (rather than by phone). Come visit me above Imprint Bookstore! Let’s talk about how connection is going in your life and see if I may be a fit to help it go better.

I see singles and couples and celebrate different relationship styles, gender expansion and queerness of all kinds.

Check out the link below to read the “Behind the Scenes” story of this move plus nearly 50 other blogs, over 60 podcast episodes and testimonials from clients I have had the privilege of coaching over the years.

Thank you for celebrating with me. I hope to hear from you soon!♥️🧡💛💙

(Ps. I get a lot of referrals from people who know me who refer friends in need of relationship coaching. Please think about who in your life might need extra support and consider sharing this post with them! Tagging friends and colleagues below.👇🏼)

01/07/2025

Live Coaching Sessions Are Back! - https://mailchi.mp/drjessicatartaro/live-coaching-sessions-are-back

12/24/2024

Rock the Boat to Save Your Relationships 🚣‍♂️ -

Last week, my husband and I finally had the “come to Jesus” talk. Our daughter turned two recently - a truly joyous milestone - but also a marker of how long our marriage has gone untended. Rather than any major issue coming between us, we’ve had a hundred thousand little moments of disconnect...