04/13/2026
I must admit, I had a hard time with the following statement when I first heard it. I didn't truly understand what it meant and thought I was failing as a person. However, it was a reminder, not a punishment, a guide, not an accusation.
"Learn to Love yourself and you will Love others. You just will. If you hate any part of yourself, you will hate others because you do not know yourself."
This statement is talking about our true form of Divine Love, our Spirit. Come to know this and you will know true Love - unconditional, gentle, genuine.
This is one of the hardest lessons in life. To genuinely love ourselves and others despite what is happening, despite the circumstances, outcomes or otherwise. Many of us have a skewed concept of what Love is and it's due to our experiences that shaped us. There is no blame in this, only understanding.
Truly learning to love yourself includes self-compassion, kindness and forgiveness within your heart for yourself and others and going within your own heart and mind to heal what needs healing. We are all on a journey of remembering our innate true form of Divine Love.
We are not our emotions, beliefs, thoughts or circumstances. We are Unlimited Divine Love in a human body to experience emotions, beliefs, thoughts and circumstances. Spiritually speaking, there is no right, wrong, good or bad, only experience.
With this in mind, we can walk more gently through life, flowing rather than charging, chasing or forcing, but instead, allowing. Allowing things to be as they are, while intentionally choosing what fills you up, what brings you passion, joy and love and letting go of what doesn't serve you or drains you.
It can be challenging to work through things we dislike about ourselves, or past experiences we didn't like or even to be an observer of horrible events happening around the world. But, it is possible.
Healing what we are resisting, tucking away or ignoring is the path to freedom from fear, doubt, worry and anxiety. To face fear and look at it in the face in your own way, in your own time, will help you see the truth of it. Fear isn't real. Our mind is so powerful in spinning tales, distorting truth and misunderstanding that we often create a tale worse than the reality. Our minds can project all possible outcomes and worst case scenarios with ease leaving us feeling drained and exhausted before anything actually happened.
So, how do we work through this? Begin by noticing the thoughts in your head, the self-talk, the worry, the repeating patterns. Just notice, become aware. Then, ask yourself if that is what you believe, or does it align or resonate with you? If it doesn't, consciously choose what does align with you. Ask your Soul Family, Spirit Guides or whatever speaks to you, for help in healing the situation that the fear or thoughts have arisen from. And lastly, learn to trust your inner wisdom and intuitive guidance to help move you in the direction of what aligns with you.
When I come across someone or something that doesn't align with me, I send them love. Sending love to what we disagree with or dislike doesn't mean we align with it, agree with it or condone the actions, but it comes from a higher perspective of allowing what is happening to unfold for the highest good of all. Each of us are here learning our own lessons and they can overlap and intertwine, make us feel uncomfortable or uplifted. We are all witnesses to each other's growth with no one being behind, late or ahead of another.
Some people have chosen to follow their inner wisdom and to live in Mind, Body and Soul. While others continue to choose to live in Mind and Body only.
The choice is yours.