12/24/2025
๐ง๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐บ๐ฎ ๐ฝ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ป๐ ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ปโ๐ ๐๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ต๐ผ๐น๐ถ๐ฑ๐ฎ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ณ๐ณ... ๐๐ฆ๐ข๐ด๐ด๐ฆ๐ด๐ด ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ ๐ฃ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ฅ๐ข๐ณ๐ช๐ฆ๐ด ๐ข๐ฏ๐ฅ ๐จ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฏ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ณ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ง ๐ข๐ค๐ค๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฅ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ๐ญ๐บ.
So youโve gone to therapy with a ๐ฃ๏ธgood therapistโฆ youโve done your healing the workโฆ you do your homework assignments (did you do your therapy homework ๐)โฆ and youโve learned how to self reflect, analyze ๐๐ก๐ correct your own destructive/maladaptive patternsโฆ
It ๐๐พ doesnโt ๐๐พ mean ๐๐พ everybody ๐๐พ else ๐๐พ has ๐๐พ!!! One of things I like to prepare my clients and consultees for in this season, is that just because youโve done your work doesnโt mean everyone and everything around you changes. Anddd ๐โฆ just because youโve changed, donโt think you donโt still have work (how to apply what you learned) to navigate environments and people that are still the same.
This is the one and only time Iโm going to tell you to ๐น๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฒ๐
๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ ๐ฏ๐๐ ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฒ๐
๐ฐ๐ต๐ฎ๐ป๐ด๐ฒ, ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฏ๐ผ๐๐ป๐ฑ๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ถ๐ฒ๐. Special times of year and special days donโt trigger โhealednessโ in people havenโt put in the work. So to prep you, Iโm going to give you 5 quick tips on how to raise your boundaries & keep your power (and mental wellness) in your hands.
1๏ธโฃ Practice saying your boundaries out loud. Literally rehearse saying "That doesnโt work for meโ or โI choose not to participate in this conversationโ in the mirror or car before events.
2๏ธโฃPlan your exit strategy before you get there. This includes physical AND emotional exits!
3๏ธโฃYou donโt have to attend every argument youโre invited to. Decline with grace.
4๏ธโฃNo is a complete sentence. Donโt feel pressured to over explain your boundaries.
5๏ธโฃHave a safe person on speed dial to text or call... Someone who โgets itโ when you need a reality check or just need to vent mid gathering.
And while this is posted during the holiday season, donโt forget this applies ALL ๐๐พ YEAR ๐๐พ LONG ๐๐พ!
๐๐ช๐จ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ฅ,
๐๐ฉ๐ฆ โ๐ธ๐ฆโ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ธ๐ข๐ญ๐ฌ๐ช๐ฏ๐จ ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ต๐ฉ๐ฆ ๐ด๐ฉ๐ฐ๐ฆ๐ด ๐ฐ๐ง ๐จ๐ฆ๐ฏ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ข๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ข๐ญ ๐ต๐ณ๐ข๐ถ๐ฎ๐ข ๐ฐ๐ท๐ฆ๐ณ ๐ฉ๐ฆ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ฏ๐ฐ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆโ ๐๐ฐ๐ถ๐ฏ๐ด๐ฆ๐ญ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐