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10/23/2025

We’ve been taught to wait until the “breakdown “– the stress is a crisis, the overwhelmed is a flood, or the anxiety is a panic attack – before we ask for help. But imagine doing that with a leaky pipe or a car engine. You wouldn’t wait for that catastrophe, right?

Your mental health is the same way.

If you feel that tiny knot of stress in your test, if you catch yourself snapping at loved ones, or if that overwhelming feeling last for more than a day: that is your first sign, and it is enough.

You don’t need a medical emergency to warrant a check in. Seeking support at the first flicker is the most proactive, powerful, and intelligent thing you could do for yourself.

The first sign is your permission slip. Use it. Book a consultation, or check in with your mental health provider. Early intervention is self-care, not weakness.

Take that step today

10/22/2025

“Resentment is a chain that binds the wrong ankle. “

“Resentment is a double-edged sword.”

“Resentment is a sign of weakness in itself “

You’re carrying a HEAVY weight– memories of old hurts, slights, judgments, and unkind words. You walk through life, your shoulders hunched, your breath shallow, exhausted, constantly filling the weight of resentment. And you carry it because you believe that by holding onto it, you are somehow punishing the person who wronged you.

But look around. That person is walking free, completely unaware of your struggle. They don’t feel the heaviness of your burden; only you do. They’re not thinking about you, the way you’re imagining they do. You have imprisoned your own heart and surrendered your peace to something in the past.

The act of forgiving or simply letting go, is not a gift you give to them. It’s an act of self – liberation. It’s you, finally, looking down at the heavy weight, choosing to untie the knot, and dropping it where it stands. You do not need to forget the lesson learned, but you need to release the pain that is no longer serving you.

Choose to walk unburdened. Your freedom, your future, your hopes, your dreams are far more valuable than holding a grudge. 🗣LIVE!!!!!

If you are struggling with letting go or holding resentment, please reach out.

10/21/2025

It’s cold as heck today!!! As autumn starts to paint the world in hues of red, orange, and brown, trees, teach us one of life’s most profound lessons: the art of letting go.

Those leaves, once so essential, are gently released. They don’t cling to them with anger or resentment, even when the season changes in the winds get colder. They simply… Shed. 💁🏾‍♀️ They make space for new growth, for rest, and for the promise of spring.

Imagine if we approached our grudges, anger, pain and fear with the same wisdom. Holding onto resentment is like trying to keep dead leaves clinging to a branch in the middle of winter. It takes immense energy, blocks new life, and eventually, the branches become brittle.

Just like us. When we hold onto these things we not only live in the past, but we hinder our growth… in every aspect.

This fall, let’s take a clue from the trees. What “leaves“ of anger, old hearts, or past grudges are you still clinging to?

It’s OK to knowledge the past, but true strength lies, in the courage to release what no longer serves you or your growth. Shed the weight. Trust the process. Make space for peace, forgiveness, and new beginnings.

if you are struggling with past hurt, disappointments, or trauma please reach out!

10/20/2025

Did you read all that and you’re still wondering if someone’s “attention – seeking“ or if it’s a bit more? And can attention-seeking really be a diagnosed mental disorder? Let’s break it down

Histrionic Personality Disorder (HPD): It’s Blike every day is an audition for a Broadway show that never ends. They genuinely feel uncomfortable if they’re not the main event. Their emotions are on a roller coaster going 100 mph but only 2 feet off the ground, (dramatic, but shallow!), and they think that the dude who held the door for them is basically their soulmate after five minutes. It’s not a choice; it’s just how their internal script runs!

Regular attention seeking: that’s most of us sometimes! Posting a thirst trap, telling a slightly exaggerated story to get a laugh, or wearing a killer outfit, hoping for compliments. You want a specific kind of attention, in a specific situation, and you can totally chill when you don’t get it. You know your coworker isn’t your soulmate, even if they liked your selfie.

When is deep, always – on personality pattern that causes real distress or drama. The other is just waiting to shine in the moment (which, let’s be real, is fun!)

Stay fabulous, know the difference, and maybe don’t faint at your next work meeting unless it’s a really good reason.

If you’re unsure please reach out. We can help you decide if you need mental health counseling or just someone to give you the nod on those thigh high boots!!! Either way we’re here to help!

Talk to you soon!

10/13/2025

If “White delusion “is the collective and systemic denial of racial privilege and harm, our current political climate often functions as its loudest confirmation. When denial becomes policy, it transforms from a personal coping mechanism into a pervasive mental health stressor for marginalized communities.

White delusion is the mental framework that insists the system is fair, the playing field is level, and that any continued racial disparity is simply a coincidence or a matter of individual effort. It’s the deep, subconscious need to believe that we, as a nation, are fundamentally good, which allows us to instantly deny any evidence that contradicts that self – flattering narrative.

Think of it as a constant, low-grade racial gaslighting at the national level.

Resilience refers to the profound, psychological, emotional, and cultural strength developed by black individuals and communities in response to navigating and enduring pervasive racial oppression. It is not an inherent trait. For decades, it has been the necessary, sacred response to delusion. We’ve had to be twice as good, twice as smart, just to maintain our dignity while shouldering the silent tax of stress and chronic invalidation. But we can’t afford to keep exhausting our souls fighting a lie.

🗣RESILIENCE IS NOT THE SOLUTION!!!

To create generally safe and therapeutic spaces for everyone, we must move beyond simply celebrating resilience and address the root stressor: denial. Giving voice to the truth is the most powerful way to move forward.

The heavy lifting of dissolution cannot fall solely on the people with harms. It requires people to choose accountability over comfort.

If you are struggling with denial or you are overwhelmed with the weight of resilience please reach out.

10/13/2025

10/10/2025

Disappoint them, it’s okay. You have been disappointing YOURSELF because you don’t want to disappoint OTHER people. Every “ yes “when we mean “no” chips away at who we are. It may not seem like a big deal, but it is.

It’s an anxious, people-pleasing reflex: the fear of disappointing someone. We’ve been taught that saying “no” is selfish, and that our worth is tied to how happy we make others. This cultural programming often leads us to make commitments. We can’t keep, take on burdens that aren’t ours, and ultimately, prioritize, external validation over internal well-being.

But true self-care requires a fundamental shift in perspective. Think of your emotional, physical, and mental resources like a limited supply of fuel. Every time you over, extend yourself, accept an unreasonable, deadline, or attend a draining social event out of obligation, you’re running your tank on empty. Learning to disappoint others is simply the act of setting a boundary. A boundary isn’t a wall built to keep people out; it’s a guardrail you erect to protect your core self.

Disappointing, others isn’t about cruelty; it’s about choosing your own stability. Your mental health is a resource only you are responsible for. The momentary discomfort of saying, “I can’t do that right now,“ is a small price to pay for your peace, your energy, and self-respect. Choose the discomfort of disappointing someone over the slow, corrosive drain of disappointing yourself. Your self preservation is a form of integrity.

If you are struggling with setting boundaries, please reach out. We can help.

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10/09/2025

Fear, especially in the context of mental health, is far more complex and debilitating than the fleeting “fun “or “thrill “we seek out in haunted houses and horror movies during Halloween. While a rush of adrenaline from a jump scare is deliberate, contained experience that we willingly sign up for, pathological fear is an unwelcome, persistent, and destructive mental state. This chronic fear is not a form of entertainment; it’s a profound disruption of life, manifested in conditions like Generalized Anxiety Disorder (GAD), Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), and phobias. These conditions trap the mind in a constant loop of perceived danger, hijacking the bodies, essential survival mechanisms and forcing the individual into patterns of avoidance, distress, and isolation. Understanding fear as a serious mental health concern – a “forever fear“ rooted in trauma and biology – is the first step to compassionately, addressing the unseen battles fought long after the holiday decorations are packed away.

If you are struggling with fear, please reach out for help.

10/08/2025

Body dysmorphia is not vanity; it’s a severe mental health condition for individuals are obsessively preoccupied with perceived flaws in their appearance, flaws often minor or invisible to others. This internal battle, when layered with unique societal pressures, faced by young black women, creates a potent cocktail that can tragically steer them towards cosmetic surgery rather than self-love.

The tragic consequence is that instead of learning to embrace their unique, natural beauty – a legacy of strength and diversity – young black girls are being conditioned to believe their bodies are projects to be perpetually altered. They are trading their authentic selves for an idealized image, often fueled by an underlying disorder that surgery cannot fix. Studies show the individuals with body dysmorphia rarely find lasting satisfaction from cosmetic procedures; the preoccupation really shifts to another perceived flaw.

We must teach our young girls to critically analyze media images, recognizing the role of filters, Photoshop, and plastic surgery, in creating unrealistic beauty standards. Let’s intentionally uplift and showcase a wide range of black beauty – all skin tones, hair textures, body shapes, and facial features – in media, art, and everyday conversations.

By rooting, our young girls in a foundation of self love, mental wellness, and an unshakable appreciation for their authentic selves, we can empower them to embrace their natural bodies, not erase them. Their resilience lies in their ability to see past the noise and recognize the masterpiece they already are.

If you or someone you know is struggling with signs of body dysmorphia or body image issues please reach out.

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10/07/2025

The question “do black men hate black women?“ Is a painful one, often whispered in private, debated in online forums, and sometimes shouted in moments of frustration. It’s a question one from real experiences of hurt, disappointment, and complex dynamics within the black community, amplified by societal pressures and historical wounds. It’s embarrassing, disappointing, and just hurtful. I am not here to answer that question, but to explore the layers of this narrative, acknowledge the pain, and encourage pathways toward healing and understanding.

This question isn’t theoretical; it stems from lived experiences: relationship challenges, colorism and texturism, perceive lack of protection and support, and public narratives… for BOTH black women AND men. It’s crucial to validate these experiences. The pain is real, and it’s OK to feel hurt, angry, or confused by dynamics that suggest a lack of appreciation or even animosity. These feelings are not a sign of weakness but a natural response to challenging situations.

While individual instances of disrespect or harm or undeniable, framing the issue as “black men hate black women” is a broad generalization that can be unhelpful and inaccurate.

Navigating these complex questions requires intentional self-care and a focus on your well-being. Prioritize your healing, define your non-negotiables, cultivate self-love and self-worth and seek out positive representations.

We can help!!

10/02/2025

We take “fresh starts” in a lot of things and while a fresh start is generally viewed as a positive opportunity, a repetitive cycle of constantly “starting over“ can become toxic by fundamentally undermining, long-term progress and self-worth.

Here are several ways this pattern can be harmfull:

1. Create a cycle of failure and shame. The constant restart and creates a pattern where the initial burst of motivation is always followed by abandonment, leading to feelings of failure, self criticism, and decreased self-efficacy.

2. It prevents deep-rooted change. The excitement of a fresh start provides a motivation boost, but this relies on external temporal landmarks (New Year’s, a new week, a birthday) rather than discipline, habit building, and addressing underlying issues.

3. It hinders momentum and long-term vision. It means a loss of momentum, time, and energy invested. You perpetually remain in the initial, beginner stage, never reaching the compounding benefits of consistent effort.

Instead of a fresh start, sometimes you need to keep going, and except that progress is not linear. When you skip a day or stumble, practice self-compassion, analyze what went wrong, and immediately get back to your routine. Don’t let a slip up become an excuse to quit entirely, throw away your progress, and start from the beginning. Remember we’re here to help!

10/01/2025

Our monthly dose of mental wellness is out!! This month focuses on keeping your inner peace as the seasons change. Check your inbox for practical tips on managing stress, boosting your mood, and thought provoking articles.

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