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Rut Elisa-LMSW- Holistic Coach, Cleveland, OH (2025)

04/29/2025

Why did I allow them to abuse me?

I can’t set boundaries.
I can’t leave that painful relationship.
I always end up with people who hurt me.

Does this sound familiar?

You’re not alone.
It’s not that you like pain.

Maybe it was programmed into your nervous system.

Living through painful experiences in childhood leaves internal imprints that carry serious consequences into adulthood.

For years we’ve asked:
Why do we tolerate the intolerable?
Today, we have the answer.

Our nervous system in trauma is the key.

Your nervous system controls all your behaviors and reactions.
Experiencing trauma programs your system to repeat, in adulthood, the same patterns it experienced in early life.

If your system learned pain and survival…
Guess what? As an adult, it will seek the same:

Pain and survival.

Every time you find yourself in painful patterns, it’s not random. It’s something deeper.
It’s familiar. It’s what your system recognizes as “normal.”
This is a trauma response.

It’s not that you like pain or being mistreated.
It’s that if pain was imprinted in your nervous system, it became a norm—
A program your body unconsciously repeats.

The more it repeats, the deeper it gets ingrained, and the more your body seeks it.
This is Polyvagal Theory.

That’s how trauma works:
Repeat, repeat, repeat the program.

Setting boundaries feels dangerous.
You’re afraid of being alone, being abandoned, or rejected.

Abuse has become so familiar, that being treated well doesn’t feel “good”—
It feels like too much.

In fact, positive and safe experiences may trigger your alarm system.

I work with women—like myself—who had to break the addiction to normalizing pain, to tolerating the intolerable, to not being able to protect ourselves.

Healing the nervous system is the key to real change.
It means clearing the pain-based program and creating a new one—
One that’s rooted in love, peace, and self-respect.

You don’t have to know everything or do it all alone.
You can give yourself permission to ask for help today

04/21/2025

Acerca del Evento
"Beautiful after 40"
No puedo estar más agradecida, por haber compartido en estw evento que me lleno de tanta emoción al ser la primera vez que comparto un speach en Ingles.
Gracias a@MIGHTY Magazine por la invitación.

04/21/2025

After my participation as a speaker at Beautiful After 40, I realized something profound:

Healing didn’t just change my life…
It was the best investment I ever made for myself.

At 40, many of us believe it’s too late.
But what actually arrives late is the awareness that we’ve spent decades carrying wounds we mistook for bad luck.

I lived it.
42 years of missed opportunities, broken relationships, financial chaos, self-sabotage…
Years telling myself “this is just my fate,” “I have such bad luck,” without realizing it was trauma speaking through me.

Today, at 48, I look back and feel the pain of having lived from a wounded place.
Because time can’t be recovered.
No amount of money will give me back those 42 years trapped in trauma, repeating painful patterns simply because they felt familiar.

There are no refunds for suffering.
But healing? Healing gave me a return.
A return in the form of resilience, clarity, emotional autonomy, and a new way of living.

Money is just a tool. It can be earned back.
Time can’t.

And if you’re reading this, afraid to invest in yourself…

Ask yourself these questions honestly:

— How many years of pain has it cost you to avoid seeking help?
— How far have you really gotten on your own?
— How much is your silence, your inaction, your fear truly costing you?

If you could put a price on all the pain you’ve been through…
Would that money bring back your joy, your lost tears, or the weight you still carry without knowing what to do?

I chose to stop losing time.
And today, I know my next 48 years will be different—
Not because I just hope so, but because I’m taking action.

Lost years hurt.
But what hurts more is feeling hopeless because nothing changes—simply because we don’t change.

Are you ready to stop postponing your healing?

01/04/2025

Who’s in Charge of Your Life: Your Inner Child or the Adult You Are Today?

Many people live controlled by their inner child, that psychological part of them that didn’t fully develop because their emotional needs weren’t met during childhood. As a result, we become adult-children, reacting from unhealed wounds.

But how can you start recognizing who’s truly running your life?

The Internal Dialogue:

The Inner Child Says:

•”I can’t do this; I’m helpless.”
•”I need someone to calm me down; I’m scared and don’t know what to do.”
•”It’s not my fault; others are responsible for what happens to me.”
•”My parents (or someone else) should come rescue me.”

The Conscious Adult Responds:

•”I can face this; I have the ability to learn and move forward.”
•”I know how to regulate my emotions; I can calm myself and take care of my needs.”
•”I am responsible for my actions; no one else has control over me.”
•”I have the internal resources to rescue myself when I’m scared.”

The Actions:

The Inner Child:
•Throws tantrums, gets angry easily, and acts impulsively.
•Struggles to manage emotions, leading to a loss of control.
•Doesn’t consider consequences and reacts in the heat of the moment.

The Conscious Adult:
•Pauses, reflects, and responds with self-control.
•Handles emotions with maturity and avoids hurting others with reactive behavior.
•Thinks before acting and considers the consequences of decisions.

The Key Question:

Who is making the decisions in your life?
Recognizing the dialogue between your inner child and your adult self is the first step toward healing. Healing doesn’t mean silencing your inner child, but learning to care for them through your conscious adult.

Reflection:
1.What situations trigger your inner child the most?
2.How can you respond from your conscious adult next time?
3.What resources do you need to develop to be your own support system?

Remember: The journey toward well-being begins with self-awareness and the daily practice of nurturing yourself from your adult self.

12/30/2024

"Reflect and Close the Year with Intention"

📖 A guide to connect with yourself and your emotional healing journey.

1️⃣ What emotional wounds did you identify this year?
Think about the moments when you felt pain or discomfort and how they helped you know yourself better.

2️⃣ What concrete steps did you take to heal your nervous system?
From mindful breathing to somatic therapy, reflect on the self-care tools you used.

3️⃣ What relationships helped you heal, and which challenged you to grow?
Consider how your environment influenced your healing process.

4️⃣ What predominant emotions did you experience this year, and what did they teach you?
Sadness, anger, joy… each is a teacher. What lessons did they bring you?

5️⃣ What limiting beliefs were you able to transform this year?
Reflect on the mental patterns you broke and how that shifted your reality.

6️⃣ What areas of your life still need healing?
Be honest with yourself and acknowledge what remains unresolved.

7️⃣ How did you care for your inner child this year?
What actions did you take to provide love, safety, and validation to that part of you?

8️⃣ What changes have you noticed in your energy and the way you experience life?
Think about the small and big changes in your day-to-day life.

9️⃣ What gratitude can you express toward yourself and your healing process?
Thank your body, mind, and heart for accompanying you on this journey.

🔟 What intention would you like to set for next year in your emotional healing?
Write a clear affirmation or intention that inspires you for 2025.

✨ Close the year with love and clarity
If this post resonates with you, share it with someone who is also on their healing journey. ❤️

12/24/2024

✨ Christmas Lives Within You ❤️‍🔥

I could wish you all the happiness in the world, but the truth is, you are the only one who can create it.

Was this year tough? Dark? Don’t worry. Life’s process cannot be changed, but you can overcome it through understanding, acceptance, and love.

What’s inside of you blossoms on days like today. Christmas has no power over us—only the power we give it through our intention and focus. You can resist and fight what has happened, or you can learn and grow from it.

The key is to stop fighting.
When I stopped resisting and started accepting, I found something beautiful: hope in the midst of darkness. I learned to embrace every emotion, every experience, even the pain, because behind every battle lies a lesson and an opportunity for transformation.

You are Christmas.
May the divinity within you bloom. Let this season remind you not only of what was hard but also of all you can be grateful for and everything you can become.

✨ Today, choose gratitude.
✨ Today, choose love.
✨ Today, choose to bloom.

With all my heart,
Rut ❤️

11/29/2024

"Are You Blocking Your Own Opportunities?"

(Discover how to break free from stagnation through responsible action)

Have you ever felt stuck, as if your efforts aren’t yielding results?

In my 24 years working with people and 5 as a coach, I’ve seen the same pattern over and over: many remain in pain because they refuse to take action.

Why does this happen? Ignorance of our own behaviors is the root of stagnation.

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👉 The Cycle of Inaction:

We want to reap rewards magically, without supporting our desires with aligned actions. This keeps us trapped in anxiety, failed relationships, health problems, and most of the issues you’re suffering from.

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👉 Specific Examples:

Anxiety and Emotional Management:
You’re tormented by your emotions, praying for divine intervention, but you don’t seek tools or education to change. You speak about how miserable your symptoms make you, relying solely on biblical quotes and prayer, yet you do nothing to change your environment or understand your emotions.

Toxic Relationships:
You blame others but refuse to work on yourself to break the cycle. You keep changing partners, thinking it will fix the problem. You only complain, victimize yourself, and avoid love as if it’s the issue. You don’t address your fears or traumas to attract something different—you simply hope your luck will change without changing within.

Health and Habits:
You know your eating habits harm you. You consume inflammatory foods that worsen your health issues, yet you pray for a health miracle while your actions do the opposite of taking care of yourself. The only effort you make is contributing to your body’s stress and inflammation.

Parenting and Raising Children:
You cry over your children’s behavior but don’t invest time in learning how to connect emotionally with them. You’re always “too busy” with your own matters. They don’t respect you, and you don’t know how to fix it—but you don’t seek help to learn healthier parenting models.

Financial Struggles:
Your relationship with money is poor. You live in fear, feeling undeserving or afraid to succeed. You can’t create a better work environment for yourself. You stay in jobs out of fear and security, praying for a better position but not preparing yourself professionally to grow. Overcoming your fear of money and seeking financial advice could change this.

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👉 The Power of Action:

Throughout my career, I’ve noticed that everyone wants to solve their problems without lifting a finger—without changing the personality traits, habits, or characteristics causing the problems.

People expect miracles without putting in the effort to support their desires with action.

They believe it takes a miracle to achieve something they could make possible if they simply showed interest and took steps to improve.

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Conclusion:

God is not a servant you can demand results from without changing yourself. Action, guided by tools and knowledge, is what will transform your life.

If you’re ready to take action and leave stagnation behind, I’m here to help.
As a coach, my mission is to provide you with the tools and guidance you need to create sustainable results.

Learn how to create the circumstances you desire in your life.

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Call to Action:

Do you identify with any of these situations?
📩 Contact me for a personalized consultation or join my programs designed to transform your life from the ground up.

👉 Write “Ready to act” in the comments or send me a direct message.

11/01/2024

Discover How Emotional Wounds Trap You in Cycles of Suffering

Within every person with complex trauma lies a wound that seeks to repeat itself. These wounds are programs that the mind creates to justify painful events. The more intense the pain, the deeper the thoughts that shape a difficult reality for the individual.

The wound drives the repetition of patterns, reliving the painful event. It manifests in actions and behaviors, making it hard to heal. People often don’t understand why they act the way they do, keeping them stuck in cycles of suffering.

Emotional wounds can manifest in many ways, such as:

• Deep feelings of emptiness
• Getting easily offended
• Difficulty handling uncomfortable emotions
• Yelling, fighting, irrational fears
• Personal or professional stagnation
• Relationship failures
• Betrayal or lack of trustworthiness
• Addictions or compulsive behaviors
• Poverty and financial limitations
• Autoimmune diseases
• Inability to connect emotionally
• Anxiety and depression
• Inability to protect loved ones
• Tendency to lie
• Domestic violence and mistreatment
• Insensitivity to the pain of others
• Inability to see yourself as the valuable being you are

These wounds take on many forms. For the mind, which gets used to them as part of its identity, recognizing and healing them becomes very difficult. The mind is designed to protect us from pain, making it challenging to access these deep wounds. Healing requires courage and the willingness to feel and confront what we’ve hidden.

Are you ready to heal your childhood wounds and transform your life?

10/28/2024

Healing Trauma Without Labels❤️‍🩹

You know, the first time I invested in a coaching service here in the U.S., I spent the first six sessions crying my heart out. You have no idea how relieved and safe I felt not to be labeled with depression or quickly tagged with a diagnosis that suggested I had a problem. For the first time, I felt the value of not being judged and simply having space to release my pain.

When I began psychological therapy, I didn’t allow myself to show much emotion during the sessions. First, because I sensed there was no understanding of my humanity or my emotions of sadness. I’ve heard stories from clients who share the same feeling of not sensing that professionals create space to simply listen without labeling. One client, for instance, was referred to partial hospitalization just for crying. For crying?

The difference between treating trauma and pathologizing it lies in how the symptoms are approached.

As a trauma-trained facilitator, I’m clear that:

• Traumatic experiences leave behind erratic and intense emotions. Trauma is not a mental illness; it’s a consequence of an experience.
• My job is to create a safe space where the person feels supported and secure, never judged for how they feel or present themselves.
• Trauma responses can influence behaviors, but once healed, these behaviors can improve.
• Traumatic experiences alter a person’s inner reality and their perception of the world, but once the memory is healed, perception begins to change.
• Showing emotions is an expression of our humanity; intense emotions don’t signify a problem. They are everything a person has had to repress from not knowing how to process their pain.
• Wounds and trauma are healed through love and compassion, not through medication or by creating mental health labels.
• Making space for safety in each session contributes to the client’s healing process.
• A trauma facilitator impacts the session positively or negatively, depending on how they show up.

Trauma is what happened to you; it doesn’t define you. So, I won’t lead you to identify with labels or assume you’re one thing or another.

10/19/2024

"A definitive symptom of childhood trauma is trying to get a difficult person to be good to us."

Well if that isn't the truth, I don't know what is.

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