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03/25/2026

Among the Aka people of the Central African rainforest, fathers hold or stay within arm's reach of their infants for nearly half of every 24-hour period—around 47% of the time, the highest level of direct paternal proximity ever recorded in any human society.

This is not a modern experiment in equal parenting. It is a centuries-old way of life, documented by anthropologist Barry Hewlett who lived among the Aka for years. Infants are rarely apart from human contact; they are held, carried, soothed, and surrounded by attentive caregivers all day long. Care is not rigidly divided into “mother’s work” and “father’s work.” When mothers are away hunting or gathering, fathers step in fully—holding, feeding, comforting. Roles shift fluidly. Care flows wherever it is needed.

In some cases, Hewlett observed fathers allowing infants to suckle on their ni***es for comfort when mothers were absent. The practice is not nutritional in the way breastfeeding is, but it provides soothing and connection—skin-to-skin reassurance that calms a fussy baby when the primary caregiver is unavailable.

Just pause and take that in.

In much of the modern world, nurturing is often treated as secondary, feminine, or optional for men. Fathers are praised for “helping” rather than expected to be primary. Many babies spend significant time alone in cribs, playpens, or daycare, learning—sometimes through tears—that comfort is not always immediate. The Aka remind us of something older and perhaps wiser: human beings did not evolve in isolated nuclear households with one exhausted parent carrying the full emotional weight. We evolved in webs of touch, responsiveness, and shared responsibility.

The Aka are hunter-gatherers. Their lives are mobile and resource-limited. They have no accumulated wealth to hoard, no rigid hierarchies to defend. Kinship—brothers, sisters, aunts, uncles, grandparents—is their most essential resource. Food is not stored; everyone contributes. Women and men both hunt with nets, both gather, both care for children. This egalitarianism extends to infancy. Fathers are not “babysitting.” They are parenting. When the camp is quiet, fathers hold infants for long stretches. When families are on the move, fathers carry them alongside mothers. Infants are almost never laid down unattended; they are passed from caregiver to caregiver, held skin-to-skin, soothed quickly when they cry.

The Aka are not performing a progressive social experiment. They are living a pattern many small-scale societies share: children thrive when care is abundant, flexible, and communal. Babies are not expected to cry alone and learn that no one is coming. They are answered. They are held. They are kept close.

Modern societies have drifted far from this. In many places, parents—especially mothers—are expected to meet ancient human needs inside systems never designed for them. Daycare ratios stretch caregivers thin. Work schedules pull parents away for hours. Cultural messages often frame close, responsive care as optional or even indulgent. Yet research consistently shows that infants flourish with physical contact, quick responses to distress, and multiple attentive adults. The Aka have known this for generations. They have not forgotten that the first year of life is not a time to teach independence through separation—it is a time to build security through presence.

The Aka fathers’ involvement is not perfect or universal across all forager groups, but it stands out as an extreme on a spectrum. Cross-cultural studies show hunter-gatherer fathers generally provide more direct care than fathers in farming or industrial societies. The Aka are the outlier at the high end, with fathers holding infants for hours each day in camp settings and remaining nearby even during economic activities. Their infants are held by someone—father, mother, sibling, grandparent, aunt, uncle—nearly all waking hours.

This is not romanticizing a “primitive” life. The Aka face hardship: disease, hunger, conflict. But their childcare reflects a deep cultural logic: a baby’s survival and well-being depend on being surrounded by responsive adults. That logic once shaped most human societies. It still shapes the Aka.

And perhaps most striking of all, they remind us that for the vast majority of human history, babies were not expected to cry alone and learn self-soothing. They were held. They were answered. They were kept close.

Maybe the question is not whether Aka fatherhood is extraordinary.
Maybe the question is why so much of the modern world drifted so far from what once was ordinary.

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The EDS diagnostic criteria are being rewritten for the first time since 2017, and honestly, it's about time.

If you've got hypermobility or EDS, there's a good chance you already know how frustrating the current system is. The Beighton Score, the thing most doctors use to decide if you're "hypermobile enough," only looks at a handful of joints. Your thumbs, your pinkies, your elbows, your knees, and whether you can touch the floor.

But what about your shoulders? Your hips? Your ankles?

A lot of people we've worked with score low on the Beighton because their hands aren't particularly flexible, yet their shoulders sublux weekly and their knees hyperextend every time they stand still. The current criteria basically ignore some of the biggest, most problematic joints in the body.

Then there's the whole hEDS vs HSD split. If you got told you "only" have HSD and not hEDS, you'll know exactly what that means in practice. Doctors who've never heard of it. Insurance that won't cover treatment. Being told it's "just" hypermobility when you're in pain every single day.

The Ehlers-Danlos Society has confirmed that new diagnostic criteria will be published on December 1st, 2026, in the American Journal of Medical Genetics. The second phase of publications, covering treatment and management pathways, is expected to follow in early 2027.

So what's expected to change?

The Beighton Score isn't going anywhere, but there's likely to be a secondary assessment for people who don't meet the current cutoff but clearly have generalised joint hypermobility. That could include shoulders, ankles, forearms and big toes.

There's also talk of a potential blood biomarker for hEDS, a 52 kDa fibronectin fragment, which could mean an actual objective test for the first time. It still needs to be replicated in larger studies, and we don't know if that'll make it into the final criteria, but the fact it's even being discussed is significant.

And the hEDS/HSD distinction? It looks like it may be redefined. Early findings from the Criteria Review Study suggest that hEDS and HSD exist on a shared biological spectrum with overlapping features, and the same biomarker shows up in both conditions. Some experts have suggested the two could be recombined, because the current split doesn't reflect what's actually happening clinically. These are still preliminary findings, but the direction of travel is clear.

Now, I'm not going to pretend everyone's optimistic. A lot of people in the community are understandably cautious. The 2017 update left a lot of people worse off, particularly those who had existing diagnoses pulled or who couldn't meet the new, stricter criteria. There's frustration, and it's valid.

But if the new criteria genuinely expand which joints are assessed, and if HSD gets taken as seriously as hEDS, that's a step in the right direction for a lot of people who've been told their symptoms don't count.

We'll break it down properly when it drops in December.

03/13/2026

My Eminem phase wasn't a phase, it was undiagnosed ADHD.

While everyone else my age was into Britney & NSYNC, I was obsessed with Eminem. This is my bedroom wall at 12 years old.

Meet my first cat, Smokey. He hated me. This photo was evidence from the hallway (so not to spook him), that he actually set foot in my room. LOL.

Anyway, the day I heard 'My Name Is" on the school bus in 6th grade, my brain latched onto rap & never let go.

And like a lot of ADHD kids, I didn’t just listen to music; I played the same songs on repeat. I lived in the music. Constantly. My whole life. One track, over and over, for hours or days at a time.

At the time I thought it was just a weird habit. Now I know it was regulation.

I wasn’t even old enough to see 8 Mile (2002) when it came out, but I was so obsessed that my cousin literally pulled me out of school early so we could go to the first showing on opening day.

Which… was definitely an interesting experience for a very sheltered, middle-class white girl. 😅 Because I was listening to music about crime, poverty, s*x, drug use, violence, and a lot of misogyny; none of which had anything to do with my life.

By the time I graduated high school, though, I was a little embarrassed by the Eminem phase. He caught a lot of cultural hate back then. People dismissed him as a “woman-hating ju**ie who just complains about his mom.” So, Eminem faded into the background and I found dozens of new favorites.

Anyway, people were always shocked when they got in my car.

Because nothing about me matched the stereotype. I was a chronic rule-follower: the kind of kid who felt like I’d been in trouble since the day I was born, so I became a total goody-two-shoes.

I didn’t drink until my 21st birthday, didn't go to my 1st part until 22, & never smoked w**d. Oh, and never left the burbs.

Yet somehow I was always the one white girl blasting rap.

Most people assumed I was pretending at first. But every single person who called me a “poser” retracted it after talking to me for a few minutes. I had favorite artists, knew the lyrics, had favorite verses, and strong opinions about what I liked and didn’t.

For a lot of neurodivergent people, music is also a form of stimming. We know music = dopamine; t brings us to life (i.e., regulates our nervous system). Pattern, predictability, sensory regulation, and rhythm give the nervous system something stable to hold onto.

But why rap? I've gotten that question hundreds of times and could only ever shrug.

I have never liked a single song because of what it’s about. Not once in my life.

Lyrics matter to me; but not for the story. What I loved was the mechanics: the metaphors, the rhyme patterns, the absurd wordplay, the way the sounds lock into the beat. Rap is basically poetry on steroids. Plus, some of it is so ridiculous that it’s hysterically funny.

The content went in one ear and out the other.
The linguistic gymnastics absolutely did NOT.

Years later I learned there’s actual neuroscience explaining why rap hooked my brain so hard.

Neuroscience (lite) time!

Linguistic and computational research shows hip-hop is a structure-rich, unusually dense form of language, packed with internal rhymes, multisyllabic rhymes, imperfect rhymes, rapid syllable rates, and layered metaphors...far beyond what you hear in any other form of music. Instead of simple end-rhymes every few lines, rap often stacks rhymes continuously inside the bar, creating extremely high rhyme density.

That matters because the brain processes music by detecting patterns and predicting what comes next. Every rhyme you anticipate and then hear land creates a small prediction-reward moment. Dense rhyme structures keep the brain in a rapid loop of expectation → surprise → resolution, which increases attention and emotional intensity.

Hip-hop also sits in a rhythmic sweet spot. Strong, syncopated beats engage motor and timing networks in the brain. Reviews of music and attention show that rhythmically intense music, including rap, hip-hop, and rock, can raise arousal and override distractions, which help regulate attention in ADHD.

Meaning, it's neurological catnip.

Which explains why 12-year-old me felt way more alive listening to Eminem than to the pop music all my friends loved.

Which brings me to one of the most awkward moments of my adult life.

In 2012, I dated someone who was really excited to share his favorite song with me; the kind of song that helped him through difficult times. Deep emotional connection. Beautiful songwriting. Meaning & junk.

Then he asked what mine was.

I froze.

I can never think of things like that on the spot, so I spent days listening to music trying to decide what to send back. Seriously days. I couldn’t pick one. Either it was too dirty, only one verse was great, only the beat was good, I just liked the chorus, or the chorus ruined it. 😂

Meanwhile the song he shared was this slow, acoustic, emotional, soul-baring crap that I genuinely tried to listen to… but my brain kept drifting no matter how hard I focused. It took me five tries to get through it because my brain kept tuning it out.

He explained the meaning, the emotional depth, the life experiences behind it.

I felt terrible. When it came time to explain the one I finally picked, all I had was:

“Real G’s move in silence like lasagna is the dopest thing I’ve ever heard.” 😭
(To be fair… that line was new at the time.)

Needless to say, this was one of many moments where I was perceived and made to feel shallow and immature.

Turns out I was just listening to music completely differently.

Not for autobiography.
Not for moral lessons.
Not for emotional storytelling.

For pattern recognition, rhythm, metaphor, humor, and the cognitive thrill of language doing impossible things inside a beat.

Essentially, this motherf*cking b*tch-ass loser idiot made me feel like I wasn’t enough because I was smarter than him. My self-esteem is actually pretty high (for a late-diagnosed ADHDer lol), so very few people in my life have ever made me feel insufficient.

Now I realize my childhood brain was craving information-rich stimuli because I was cognitively advanced. I needed high-information-density music: language, rhythm, humor, emotion, and pattern recognition all firing at once.

Say what you want about Eminem. He is not perfect, but he is objectively one of the best lyrical geniuses to ever live.

The point I want to finish with is: Neurodivergent brains naturally move toward what supports them.

A few days ago I shared that I was obsessed with swings from the age of two. I didn’t know why. I just liked it.

That confusion is incredibly common for late-diagnosed people. I spent most of my life not understanding what my body was trying to tell me… what my brain had known since day one.

That’s why the cultural pressure to conform can legit wreck our lives:
Sit still.
Be quiet.
Pay attention.
Do it this way.
Follow the instructions.
Look at me when I’m talking to you.
Don’t interrupt.
Wait your turn.
Stay on task.
Just try harder.
Finish what you started.
Slow down.
Stop overthinking.
Act your age.
Don’t be so sensitive.
Act normal.

Our nervous systems know what we need long before we have the language to explain it.

Support us to be who we are, because there is no such thing as normal. Just humans forced to be something their brains were never built for.

03/03/2026