RES Counseling Services CO

07/04/2025

🇺🇸 “It is for freedom that Christ has set us free.” — Galatians 5:1

As we mark Independence Day, I’m reflecting on two freedoms:

External Freedom — the liberty we celebrate today.
Internal Freedom — the healing Jesus offers inside, as we engage in parts work through IFS.

🔹 Managers gripping control?
🔹 Firefighters numbing with habits?
🔹 Exiles carrying old hurts?

This 4th of July, let’s invite the Spirit‑led Self to meet these parts and bring true healing.

🗽 Freedom isn’t just a holiday—it’s a journey inward, in Christ.

💬 Which part in you needs God’s freedom today?

07/03/2025

🌿 “Why do I do the things I don’t want to do?” (Romans 7:15)
Even Paul wrestled with parts of himself pulling in different directions.

In Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy, we learn that we are not fragmented or faithless—we are beautifully complex, created with many Parts, each trying to help us survive in a broken world.

✝️ And at the center of it all, God placed a Self within us—calm, curious, compassionate.
A reflection of the Spirit within.
The Self leads not by force, but by grace.

🔹 Managers try to protect us through control, perfectionism, or criticism.
🔹 Firefighters distract us from pain—sometimes with overwork, addiction, or withdrawal.
🔹 Exiles are the young, wounded parts carrying our deepest hurts and fears.

But God doesn’t abandon any part of us.
🕊️ Through therapy and prayer, we can invite the Holy Spirit into these inner spaces—to bring healing, connection, and peace.

💬 What part of you needs God’s love today?

07/02/2025

🌿 Ever feel like part of you wants to rest… but another part says, “Keep going!”?
Welcome to the world of Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy — where every part of you has a voice, and all parts are welcome.

IFS teaches us that we’re not “broken” — we’re beautifully complex.
We each have an inner system made up of Parts (like the inner critic, the perfectionist, the people-pleaser, the protector) — and at the core, a calm, compassionate Self who can lead with clarity and care.

✨ In IFS, we get curious instead of judgmental.
✨ We build relationships with our parts instead of pushing them away.
✨ We learn that even the parts that seem “problematic” are trying to help in their own way.

🧠 Healing starts when our Self shows up with compassion.

💬 Ready to meet your Parts? Let’s get curious together.

05/28/2024

This day is close to my heart as a military spouse and the child of a veteran. Both my father and my husband have served alongside those who have lost their lives in service to our country. Every year our family spends a few quiet minutes of reflection and to give thanks to those who gave their lives to ensure our country is free and safe from those who would threaten it. It is a sacrifice that too many have given. On this Memorial Day, please spend a few moments in gratitude and remember the fallen.

05/26/2024

Spending time with your protective parts will help them trust you enough to let you in to heal the parts they are protecting 💜

03/30/2024

Family Friday
This reminder about acceptance of our kiddos is so good!
Thank you to our friends at The Post Institute

03/30/2024

Part 2….

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03/30/2024

100% this👇🏻

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03/03/2024

02/16/2024

10/18/2023

I love the word no! When someone says “no” to us, we need to believe them and respect their decision. If they change their mind later, that is their decision but should not ever be because we continued to pursue them and disrespected their decision. “No” is a complete sentence.

Same with boundaries.

If someone sets a boundary with you, it is because they have made a decision about what they can control in their life and are inviting you to be a part of their life as long as you respect that boundary. Being in any kind of relationship with others is agreeing to respect their personal space, values, beliefs, ideas, and what they will allow into their lives. The same goes for you in your relationships with others! If you decide that a certain kind of behavior is not something you want in your life, around your family, around your kids, etc., you get to decide that and can communicate that to those around you. If there are people in your life that refuse to acknowledge and respect the boundary you have set, then they do not deserve the closeness of a relationship they once shared with you. There may be actions others take that require you to remove others from your life to protect your own peace and wellbeing. That doesn’t have to be the answer every time but sometimes that is a necessary step to take. People who care about you will respect your boundaries and will also have boundaries of their own that you must respect to maintain healthy relationships. Boundaries are necessary. Boundaries are healthy.

09/06/2023

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