Dynamic Counseling - Colorado Springs

12/19/2025

Before we panic or shame ourselves or our kids, we need a better framework. One that looks beyond “screen addiction” and asks a deeper question.

What need is the screen meeting?

Many parents are asking the same question late at night.Is my teenager addicted to screens, or is this just how kids are now?Your teen seems glued to their phone. Their mood shifts when the WiFi drops. They disappear into gaming, scrolling, or YouTube. Conversations feel shorter. Eye contact rarer.....

12/18/2025

https://www.dynamiccoloradosprings.com/post/why-does-grief-feel-stronger-at-christmas

For many people, grief does not soften during the holidays. It sharpens.You might notice it the moment the decorations come out. Or when the music changes. Or when someone asks an innocent question like, “Are you going home for Christmas?” Suddenly the loss you have been carrying quietly all yea...

12/16/2025

https://www.dynamiccoloradosprings.com/post/avoidant-attachment-and-the-fear-of-being-a-burden-when-letting-others-care-for-you-feels-scarier

Avoidant attachment is often misunderstood.From the outside, avoidant individuals can look strong, self sufficient, and emotionally steady. They do not ask for much. They do not need anyone. They manage their own pain quietly and often pride themselves on not inconveniencing others.But under the sur...

12/12/2025

What Does Love Require of Me? Why Niceness Isn’t the Same as Love, & When Love Requires Discomfort

As clients are seeing more family members during the holidays, I find ourselves coming to this question more often: What does love require of me? It’s a good question, and one we should ask more often. You may bristle at the word “require”, and that may be something different to explore. This ...

12/06/2025

https://www.dynamiccoloradosprings.com/post/boundaries-with-behaviors-not-people

How Healthy Limits Let Us Honor Dignity and Refuse Harm Many people grew up believing that boundaries are walls. The idea is that if someone hurts you or overwhelms you, the solution is to cut them off or to pull away in order to feel safe. While there are absolutely moments when distance is appropr...

12/02/2025

….because sometimes the most festive thing you can do is not lose your mind.

12/02/2025

https://www.dynamiccoloradosprings.com/post/why-we-feel-loss-around-the-holidays-how-the-body-holds-trauma-memory-and-anniversaries

The holidays are supposed to be a season of warmth. They are marketed as a time of connection, family, nostalgia, and celebration. Yet for many people, this same season brings a surprising heaviness. Old memories resurface. Grief feels sharper. Anxiety creeps back in. We find ourselves irritable, ex...

11/20/2025

It is incredibly tempting to reduce our partner’s behavior to one simple label. When we feel hurt, overlooked, or disappointed, the mind grabs for the easiest explanation. Often that explanation becomes this: they’re selfish.

It is incredibly tempting to reduce our partner’s behavior to one simple label. When we feel hurt, overlooked, or disappointed, the mind grabs for the easiest explanation. Often that explanation becomes this: they’re selfish. It feels tidy. It gives us a clear villain. It gives us a story where ...

11/18/2025

Many people move through life feeling weighed down by guilt. They replay moments from the past and tell themselves they should have done something different or that an outcome was somehow their fault. In therapy this kind of guilt shows up often. It sounds familiar and it gives a sense of clarity. Yet much of what we label as guilt is actually grief in a different form.

Many people move through life feeling weighed down by guilt. They replay moments from the past and tell themselves they should have done something different or that an outcome was somehow their fault. In therapy this kind of guilt shows up often. It sounds familiar and it gives a sense of clarity. Y...

11/12/2025

I posted recently on true guilt and false guilt, but this article tackles what I think is an even more difficult and complex emotion: shame. In my practice and life, I notice that it is at the core of our stuckness, our wounds, and our healing.

I posted recently on true guilt and false guilt here. This article tackles what I think is an even more difficult and complex emotion: shame. In my practice and life, I notice that it is at the core of our stuckness, our wounds, and our healing. Shame lies under every struggle for emotional freedom....

11/10/2025

We often forget that before we are thinkers, consumers, or professionals, we are mammals — social, tactile creatures whose bodies are wired for co-regulation. Just as dogs curl against one another for warmth or monkeys groom to soothe and bond, human nervous systems are designed to settle through touch and proximity.

In a culture that prizes independence and personal space, many Americans are starving for something our bodies cannot live without: safe, comforting touch. Drawing on the insights of somatic therapist Peter Levine, this piece explores how touch regulates the nervous system, why children thrive throu...

11/08/2025

Holding Grief and Gratitude in a Life Marked by Trauma