Jesse Wretlind

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08/01/2022

It is possible to heal...

05/29/2022

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01/14/2022

Before I knew what a Shame Spiral was, I just called it “spiraling”. Spiraling happens when we feel like we’ve done something wrong, or we’re not good enough. Instead of working through those feelings, they take control and drag us down the rabbit hole of unworthiness. On the way down we find judgment, self-loathing, and so much shame.

But it's so important that we stop the spiral before it really gets going. Stop and remind yourself that mistakes happen and you can still be a good and worthy person. Have a solution-based mindset instead of giving in to those feelings that are full of self-loathing and isolation.

Learn how to stop the spiral.

I'm also talking about this over on my "b-l-0-g" and I made some worksheets for my "s-n-o-e-r-t-a-P"

11/26/2021

Rocky Mountain Crisis Partner peer line
1 844-493-8255 and then press *
We are open 7 AM to 12AM every day, including holidays, and we serve the state of Colorado.

… just in case you would like to speak to someone try a WARMLINE …. Someone is waiting for you….your peers are thinking of you

11/25/2021

Acts of Compassion for Yourself 💯

Created by the brilliant community at

Whatever lies ahead here are just a few suggestions about what we can do practically to offer compassion to ourselves. ⁣
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Give yourself permission slips. So often we live by other people’s standards and rules. It’s easy to fall into the trap that we should be/do/have everything like everyone else. Personal permission slips provide the freedom to say screw that, I’m living my life honouring my whole self. ⁣
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Deep breathing - Yep you’ll hear it a lot from us because it works. Why? Because it helps regulates your nervous system, slow down and focus on the moment. ⁣
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Celebrate the wins - Acknowledging the things you can do and focusing on them will help change your mindset to one where you feel you can try new things and acknoweledge with love what you didn’t manage because you also have a list of things you did. ⁣
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Laugh more - Find things that make you laugh. It’s so important to get the giggles when things feel tough, give yourself a break and lighten the load. ⁣
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Say no when you’re at full capacity - Don’t wait till you’re brimming over. You don’t have to be rude when saying no a great way is “That sound’s like a great opportunity, thanks for thinking of me but right now I have full plate and can’t commit to anything else right now”. ⁣
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Receive - So often we focus giving but also pay attention to when you stop yourself receiving. A good start is accepting compliments over brushing them off. ⁣
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Seek joy - Pay close attention to what lights you up, when you know what it is do more of it. ⁣
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Rest - Don’t treat it as punishment, rest because you’ve set time to. ⁣
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Forgive yourself - Write a letter to past you and offer forgiveness. You have grown and didn’t know then what you do now.⁣
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Allow the feels - Let yourself feel it and find helpful ways to express it. Journals, creatively, talking, walking, whatever works for you. ⁣
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Boundaries - They can be difficult but so worthwhile.