03/15/2026
So this is a picture of a sweater being sold at target….. interesting, huh? I don’t know if I’ve ever seen apparel with this particular phrase. What do you think about it?
I snapped a picture because it took me back to getting trained in Grief Recovery.
Go back in time with me, if you want. I got divorced 13 years ago. Leading up to that I had gone to therapy every week for four years and I felt transformed.
What I learned afterwards, when dipping my toe into the dating world, I learned I was drawn to the emotionally unavailable man. I am not judging just noticing.
What my friend said to me though is “oh wow there’s a pattern operating and you need Grief Recovery!!!”
I had been searching for something to do professionally that was exactly Grief Recovery. But I didn’t think or believe my situation could be a grief topic.
Well at the certification training, the relationship that I needed to work on was my dad. We had not had a great relationship and he had died 20 years before.
It was quite the experience and what I thought I had worked through was still sitting inside of me waiting to be resolved. I was honestly stunned.
He taught me that being in relationship with someone emotionally unavailable was my familiar. And I declared that I had had my last relationship with the emotionally unavailable man.
And as things go, I realized that I literally had the same pattern living inside of me. I was not any more emotionally available as a woman.
I was someone who could not feel her feelings, could not name her emotions, did not live in that world. I thought if I let myself cry, I would never stop crying.
I was one who didn’t do emotions.
So this experience did a lot for me, but one thing it’s done is allow me to become a very safe coach when I work with clients who don’t do emotions.
Downside, when we don’t do emotions, they’re still living inside. Upside, there’s a very safe and easy way for us to process them to take care of that.
If you happen to need a safe person and a safe process to unload some emotion out of your backpack, I’m happy to talk.

