Improving Selfhood

11/04/2023

Loving yourself can feel extremely selfish…

It has been embedded into our minds, family dynamics, and society for ages that being self-serving is a bad quality. Think about it, do you want to be friends with someone who is “selfish?”
Of course not! Well at least not according to the negative connotation that we give to the word itself.

This mentality has begun to shift now that we encourage self-love and self-care more often.

The word selfish means to “lack consideration for others, to concern oneself with personal profit or pleasure”.

While this can feel uncomfortable, it is not inherently wrong or bad.

Loving yourself, serving yourself, and caring for yourself are extremely important for becoming your healthiest version.

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07/04/2023

Let self-love lead in your life 💞🧡

Let self-love guide your decisions. Let self-love preface your words. Do as many things as possible from the position of loving yourself and considering your best interest.

That is how you experience more joy. That is how you improve your relationships. That is how you experience more self-fulfillment. That is how you come home to yourself.

If you are having a hard time loving yourself this week, I am sending you a lot of mine.

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30/03/2023

What you need to know about self-love:

💞 loving yourself is not selfish or arrogant. Only excessive/unrealistic confidence and grandiose views of ourself begin to cross into the unhealthy end of the spectrum.
🧡 self-love requires minimal comparison to others. Notice how I did not say to “eliminate” comparison. I am not one who believes in entirely closing ourself off from the opinions of others nor the progress or success of others. If we did that how else would we experience feelings of inspiration and motivation?
💞 a lot of people mock the “self-love” topic as if it were a cliché or some trending buzzword. It is not any of those things. It is here to stay. It is imperative to living a healthy, fulfilling life.
🧡 our capacity to love ourselves, forgive ourself, and to extend grace to ourselves directly correlates with our capacity to love others.
💞 you cannot truly love yourself if you loathe your body! Learn to appreciate your body and all that it is capable of, even if it is one small trait or characteristic at a time!
🧡 it can feel uncomfortable and/or awkward to look inward and love yourself. Especially if you have a negative inner critic (like most of us do). Especially if you endured childhood abuse and trauma. Especially if you have had a critical parent or significant other. The list of reasons goes on and on. Let’s all work hard to not let this stop our efforts.
💞 self-care picks up where self-love leaves off.
🧡 self-love requires disconnecting from harmful and abusive relationships, friendships, jobs, etc.
💞 lastly, self-love requires ongoing effort.

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30/03/2023

28/03/2023

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Self-love can sound like such a cliché, but with a world full of people suffering from self-hate, we need it more than ever.

How are you loving yourself today? I am cleaning my spaces and nourishing my body with healthy, yummy foods.

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26/03/2023

When is it sustainable to build or change habits? 💭

Part of the answer lies in between intrinsic and extrinsic motivation.

Are you dieting so you can fit into a dress from 3 years ago?

Are you saving money so you can buy other people gifts?

Are you putting on makeup more often to impress your crush at the bar on Friday nights?

If you answered yes to any of these or can think of other examples like them, you are rooted heavily in extrinsic motivation. This means you set goals, form habits, and make changes for an external reward.

Are you investing in a charity because you believe in the cause?

Are you eating certain foods because they make you feel good, energized, or healthy?

These are examples of intrinsically motivated actions and habits. They are more likely to stick because you are performing them for deeply personal reasons.

The truth is, you can find yourself intrinsically and extrinsically motivated at times, too. Losing weight so you can feel better and so you can come off of certain medication is an example of both types of motivation packed into one goal.

Reflect on your own goals and habits to see what motivates you!

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26/03/2023

Have you ever tried mindful eating?

A great way to raise your level of self-awareness is by becoming consciously aware of your human experience.

Mindful eating is another great way to connect your mind and body.

How do you participate in mindful eating?

🧡 eat without distractions
🧡 focus on textures, temperatures, and sensations
🧡 be present
🧡 be non-judge mental about the foods you are eating
🧡 stop eating when you feel full
🧡 chew thoroughly
🧡 eat slowly

What are other ways you incorporate mindful practices into your daily life?

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26/03/2023

FYI: it is absolutely okay to seek feedback from the people you love and value.

My personal hot take is that it is awful advice to tell people not to care what other people think. There are times when this is great advice but it is not 100% applicable in all situations.

Our concept of self is heavily reliant upon:

1) how we view ourselves 2) our ideal selves
3) how others view us
4) how we interpret their opinions of us

That is why I believe the better advice is to rely upon the opinions and feedback of those you love and value. Base your self-concept in that versus the opinions and feedback of people who do not have meaning in your life and only based their opinions of you on one interaction or someone else’s perception!

When on a journey to improve yourself, it is important that you only change the things YOU WANT TO.

If we changed ourselves every time someone had a negative opinion of us, we would whither away.

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24/03/2023

Life hack: self-awareness is the first key step to healing your trauma.

It is hard to know the affects that trauma have had on our lives if we are unable to look inward for the answer.

Before I began working on raising my self-awareness, I was floating through life on auto-pilot. I had a bad habit of disassociating with the things that hurt me the most. When I learned to begin bringing my pain, triggers, and bad habits into my conscious awareness I truly started understanding myself better and how I relate with other people.

I am by no means perfect, nor have I mastered this skill, but striving to live life in the present moment as often as possible is important for me.

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