11/15/2025
Anger: what’s your relationship with it?
I often have clients tell me: “I’m not an angry person.”
I get the fear of expressing toxic anger (anger that hurts others and blows up bridges.) The problem is that suppressed anger does just that: explodes in an unmanageable way that creates pain OR you turn your anger towards yourself (negative self-talk, drinking/eating addiction/drugs/even physical illness).
Think of anger as an essential color in your rainbow that needs to be expressed. What would your world be like if red didn’t exist? It’s a current to your life force. When you’ve got it online, you’ve got more power, self-respect and you own your boundaries. 💥
What about frustration or irritation? This last month I found myself eating handfuls of cashews out of frustration. I thought, “What’s really going on?” I realized I was trying to distract myself not just from my frustration but also from what was no longer working from me. 🔥
Irritation, frustration: those are signals that something needs to shift. 💫
It’s might be a boundary that’s being crossed (either you with yourself or someone else with you).
It might be you need alone time to clear out and recalibrate and return to your magic (with my system, I need space to myself or I get grumpy as F$CK).
Or it can be an indication that something’s off and needs a tweak (or a cut). ✂️
Consider all of these emotions as a fire that’s white hot in the center: their purpose are to create clarity. If you attune to these sensations as truths of what keeps you on YOUR path, then anger, frustration, and irritation aren’t feelings to be fixed or hidden - they’re to be listened to.
There’s more I can say about what to do if you’ve got chronic anger/frustration and how to healthily express anger. But this is my love note to you right now. ❤️
I’m curious what your relationship is with anger?