Coaching and Energy Healing with Taruna Barber, PhD

11/17/2025

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We often say, “I'm going to treat myself,” and we mean by eating cake with extra icing, by booking a weekend away; by buying a new pair of shoes.

We talk about indulgence as if it’s the only language our tired hearts understand. We throw glitter at the ache, sugar at the silence.

But rarely do we say, “I'm going to treat myself kindly.” With soft mornings and no guilt. With patience when I forget, and grace when I fall short. We forget that gentleness is a gift too; that rest is not earned like a badge, but granted. Not in exchange for doing, but simply for being.

Maybe the real treat is not the cake, but the way we speak to ourselves after a long day. Maybe it's not the getaway, but the way we stand our ground and keep our faith when things get hard.

Maybe kindness is the sweetest thing we keep forgetting to serve ourselves: keep forgetting to treat ourselves to.

Yes, treat yourself to the cake, and the holiday and the shoes.

But make sure they're not a substitute...
for treating yourself with love.

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Becky Hemsley 2025
Beautiful artwork by Claudia Tremblay

This is a newer poem, but there are more like this in my collections 'Letters from Life' and 'Words to Remember'

09/11/2025

Most people don’t realize this: your emotions are not the problem—it’s the way you handle them that determines your peace or suffering. When you avoid, suppress, or react impulsively, emotions take control of you. But when you learn to process them mindfully, they become your teachers.

Here’s a simple but life-changing practice:

1️⃣ Pause – Stop running. Take a moment to simply acknowledge, “I am feeling something right now.” Awareness is the first step to healing.

2️⃣ Name It – Identify the emotion. Is it anger? Sadness? Fear? Joy? Naming your feeling takes away half its power. It shifts you from being overwhelmed to being observant.

3️⃣ Feel It – Don’t judge or suppress it. Sit with the emotion. Let it exist without resistance. Remember, what you resist, persists. What you accept, transforms.

4️⃣ Ask Why – Gently explore: “What triggered this? Why does it matter to me?” This step turns pain into insight and helps you understand yourself better.

5️⃣ Release – Breathe deeply. Write it down. Speak it out. Cry if you must. Releasing is not weakness—it’s cleansing. It’s giving your soul permission to breathe again.

6️⃣ Shift – Once released, redirect your energy toward something constructive or calming—walk in nature, meditate, paint, read, or help someone. This step turns wounds into wisdom.

✨ Remember: Emotions are not enemies. They are signals. They are waves passing through you. You are the sky, vast and unshaken. Don’t drown in the storm—learn to let the storm pass.

💭 Master your emotions, and you master your peace.

09/11/2025

07/23/2025

When you don’t know something is supposed to be hard or impossible

In the early 1940s, a graduate student named George Dantzig walked into his statistics class a bit late. On the board were two problems, which he assumed were part of the assigned homework. Without knowing their origin, he took them home and worked on them over the next few days. They were difficult—but not impossible. He turned them in as requested.

Weeks later, Dantzig’s professor, Jerzy Neyman, appeared at his doorstep to deliver unexpected news: the problems he had solved weren’t standard homework—they were two of the most well-known unsolved problems in statistical mathematics. Researchers had been struggling with them for years, and no one had produced valid solutions—until now.

Dantzig's modest approach and unawareness of the problems' fame allowed him to tackle them without the mental barrier of thinking they were impossible. This rare combination of talent and innocence led to one of the most famous academic stories in mathematics. His work was so sound that it was later published and accepted as part of his doctoral thesis.

The story has since become a legend in academic circles, highlighting not just Dantzig’s brilliance, but also how powerful a shift in mindset can be. When problems are approached without the weight of expectation, even the “unsolvable” can sometimes be solved.