Positive Points Life Coaching and Organizing

11/21/2023

“Things turn out best for people who make the best out of the way things turn out.” —John Wooden According to the numbers, most of us are in debt, hate our jobs, and are busier than ever. To make things worse, the places we tend to search for pleasure take us further away from it. No […]

10/06/2023

“I have reached the pinnacle of success in business." In other people's eyes my life is a success.
However, aside from work, I’ve had little joy.
At the end of the day, wealth is just a fact I’ve gotten used to.

Right now, lying on my hospital bed, reminiscing all my life, I realize that all the recognition and wealth I took so much pride in, has faded and become meaningless in the face of imminent death.
You can hire someone to drive your car or make money for you, but you can't hire someone to stand sick and die for you.

Material things lost can be found again. But there is one thing that can never be found when it is lost: Life.
Whatever stage of life we are currently at, in time we will face the day the curtain closes.
Love your family, spouse, children and friends... Treat them right .Cherish them.

As we get older, and wiser, we slowly realize that wearing a $300 or $30 watch both give the same time.
Whether we have a $300 or $30 wallet or purse, the amount inside is the same.
Whether we drive a $150,000 car or a $30,000 car, the road and the distance are the same, and we reach the same destination.
Whether we drink a $1000 or $10 bottle of wine, the hangover is the same.
Whether the house in which we live is 100 or 1000 square meters, loneliness is the same.
You will realize that your true inner happiness does not come from material things of this world.
Whether you travel first class or economy class, if the plane crashes, you go down with it...

Therefore, I hope you realize, when you have friends, brothers and sisters, with whom you discuss, laugh, talk, sing, talk about north-south-east or heaven and earth,... this is the real happiness!!
An indisputable fact of life:
Don't raise your children to be rich.
Educate them to be happy.
When they grow up, they will know the value of things and not the price. "

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Update **** apparently Steve jobs didn’t write this - however it still has some incredibly powerful truths I think we can all take something from!

08/28/2023

It took me awhile to understand what the term "emotionally unavailable" really meant, and I still think it can be kind of confusing.

When this term is being thrown around, it means you're not able or willing to be really present to your own feelings. You're not willing or able to let them come up, and/OR you're unwilling to sit in them to feel, process, learn from, communicate, and move through what's showing up in your emotional world. Which means you're not really able to be honest with other people about your true feelings or responses to events.

It's not a choice; it's often a pattern learned in our family of origin, and there's usually shame associated with the feelings, which is why we avoid them.

One symptom of emotional unavailability is to be constantly looking for the next fun or distracting thing in order to avoid sitting with or working through internal conflict or discomfort. We might see this in other people... or we might begin to notice it in ourselves. We're afraid of the feelings or thoughts that start to creep in, so we do anything to stay busy to avoid them.

Again, distraction is needed and necessary at times.
But if we ALWAYS reach to distract ourselves from our deeper feelings and worries (or always look to "cheer someone up" instead of holding space), it's a sign that we might be disconnected from our sense of Self and our genuine experience of the world. We may be disconnected from our own intuition and feelings, which it makes it harder to connect in a genuine way not only with ourselves, but also with the people we care about.

Does this sound like you?

08/21/2023

Focus on things that matter and things you can control. Let go of the rest

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08/17/2023

Reflecting on Martin Seligman’s work, there are three types of happy lives that he defines - The Pleasant Life, The Good Life, and The Meaningful Life (Seligman, 2002).

Each type offers a unique perspective on what it means to live a happy, fulfilling life.

The Pleasant Life is about savoring and appreciating life's simple pleasures and joys, reveling in everyday moments that bring us happiness. It's about gratitude for the present and truly experiencing every moment (Lyubomirsky, 2007).

The Good Life, on the other hand, entails using your unique strengths and skills to enhance life. It involves being engaged and absorbed in your daily activities and work, making a significant difference through your contributions (Csikszentmihalyi, 1990).

The Meaningful Life is about connecting to a purpose bigger than yourself. It's about using your skills and strengths in service to a cause that you believe in, contributing to something that transcends your individual life (Frankl, 1959).

So, which life resonates with you the most? Let us know in the comments below!

Remember, there's no right or wrong answer. Each path offers its own sense of fulfillment and happiness. What's important is that we continue to explore, learn and grow in our journey toward living our happiest life. 🌱

07/28/2023

07/26/2023

Self-Esteem Infographic

07/26/2023

I LOVE THIS ANALOGY:
You are holding a cup of coffee when someone comes along and bumps into you or shakes your arm, making you spill your coffee everywhere. Why did you spill the coffee?

"Because someone bumped into me!!!"
Wrong answer.

You spilled the coffee because there was coffee in your cup. Had there been tea in the cup, you would have spilled tea. Whatever is inside the cup is what will spill out.

Therefore, when life comes along and shakes you (which WILL happen), whatever is inside you will come out. It's easy to fake it, until you get rattled.

So we have to ask ourselves... “what's in my cup?"

When life gets tough, what spills over? Joy, gratitude, peace and humility?
Anger, bitterness, victim mentality and quitting-tendencies?

Life provides the cup, YOU choose how to fill it.
Today let's work towards filling our cups with gratitude, forgiveness, joy, words of affirmation, resilience, positivity; and kindness, gentleness and love for others.

Source: Austin Tang

06/03/2023

Post-concert amnesia is not normal forgetting.

03/27/2023

6 useful tips to help you organize your life, prioritize your goals, find more time, get more done, and enjoy your days.

01/04/2023

“You know, it was you. It was you who really changed my life.”