I Love What I Doula, LLC

I Love What I Doula, LLC Full spectrum doula + infant care specialist. I believe anything sacred should be treated with compassion, love, openness, awareness and respect.

I support and guide women as they walk the path from womanhood into motherhood and through a life changing experience by reconnecting them and their families to the sacred side of birth and postpartum. As a full spectrum doula, I'm prepared to support my clients if circumstances change part way through a pregnancy, as I'm ready to support clients through loss as well as a full-term birth. My umbrella of support include:
Birth Doula
Postpartum Doula
Sibling Doula
Bereavement Doula ( free service with option for in-person or virtual support)
Adoption Doula.

✨ Merry Christmas from your doulas ✨This year has been filled with the most incredible families. Thank you for inviting ...
12/25/2025

✨ Merry Christmas from your doulas ✨

This year has been filled with the most incredible families. Thank you for inviting us into such sacred spaces and trusting us as part of your birth team. Walking alongside you through pregnancy, birth, and the tender postpartum season has been nothing short of inspiring. Every journey has left a mark on our hearts.

2025 was also our first full year as a duo, and wow… what a gift it’s been. Rita and I learned so much about each other, about this work, and about how to support families while growing, learning and honoring what matters most to us-our own families. Sharing on-call days, long nights, big emotions, and so much joy together has been truly special.

From the bottom of our hearts, thank you to our community for the continued support, collaboration, and referrals. We are endlessly grateful.

✨ 2026 babies… we’re ready for you. ✨

With so much love,
Rita & Michelle 🤍🎄

12/22/2025

Cervical checks are optional and understanding them changes everything.

Cervical checks during pregnancy and labor are often presented as routine, harmless, and necessary.

A cervical exam only measures one moment in time: dilation, effacement, and station right then. It does not tell you when labor will start, how fast it will progress, or how close you truly are to meeting your baby. Someone can sit at 3 cm for days… or move from 3 to 8 cm in an hour. Both are normal. Labor is not linear, and cervixes do not follow rules.

While a single cervical check may seem small, repeated exams come with real considerations:

Increased risk of infection, especially after the waters have broken. Each vaginal exam introduces bacteria, and research shows infection risk rises with the number of checks performed.

Discomfort or pain, particularly for those with a history of trauma or sensitivity.

Psychological impact — being told “you’re only a 2” or “not very far” can increase fear, doubt, and tension, which can actually slow labor.

Cascade of Intervention — cervical findings are often used to justify interventions, even when labor progress and baby are otherwise normal.

Studies show that routine cervical exams in late pregnancy do not improve outcomes and do not accurately predict when labor will begin. In labor, progress is better assessed by behavioral signs (movement, vocalization, focus), contraction patterns, and how the birthing person is coping, not just a number.

Why the number can lie:
Dilation is not a countdown.
It’s not a progress bar.
And it’s definitely not a predictor.

A cervix can soften, open, and move rapidly when the body feels safe, supported, and undisturbed. That’s why two people with the same dilation can be in completely different phases of labor and why relying too heavily on checks can be misleading.

Education changes the conversation
This isn’t about fear.
It’s about choice.

Ask:
What happens if I decline?
Are there other ways to assess progress?
Can we wait?

When you educate yourself, you stop making decisions out of pressure, fear, or the desire to “be a good patient.” You start making decisions rooted in understanding, confidence, and trust in your body.

Informed choices reduce fear.
Reduced fear supports physiologic labor.
And confidence changes birth.
You don’t need to refuse everything.
You don’t need to accept everything.
You just need the information so you stay in charge of your birth.

12/18/2025

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12/17/2025

Ask for the gentle c-section!
A gentle c-section consists of a few different components:
1. A clear drape to see your baby being born
2. Immediate skin to skin (as long as mom and baby are stable)
3. Delayed cord clamping
4. Slower delivery to mimic the slow squeeze of a vaginal birth
These are all things you don’t have to give up when it comes to having a c-section so talk to your provider about your options for a gentle c-section 🤍

12/15/2025

No one prepares you for postpartum.

They prepare you for labor.
They prepare you for birth.
They prepare you for the baby.

But postpartum?
That part is quiet. Lonely. Heavy.

It’s loving your baby more than you ever thought possible, while barely recognizing the woman in the mirror.
It’s bleeding, aching, leaking, and healing
while the world expects gratitude and smiles.

It’s crying in the shower so no one hears you.
It’s missing your old body and feeling guilty for missing it.
It’s wondering why everyone asks about the baby
but no one asks if you slept… or ate… or feel okay.

Postpartum is not weakness.
It’s not failure.
It’s not something to “bounce back” from.

It’s a season of becoming.
A birth of a mother.

Postpartum deserves more grace than we give it.

12/13/2025

Our "Birth is more than a healthy baby" mug celebrates the parent the support they need and the story that unfolds beyond the delivery.

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12/12/2025

People love to talk about the glow, the excitement, the miracle of growing a tiny human and yes, pregnancy is beautiful.
It’s wild to feel a little kick and know that life is forming inside you.
It’s magical to imagine their face, their name, their future.
It’s a love you’ve never felt before.

But let’s be real… it’s also hard.

It’s the aching back, the clothes that don’t fit, the hormones doing gymnastics.
It’s crying because you’re starving but also because you’re full.
It’s being exhausted at 2 PM and wide awake at 2 AM.
It’s feeling like a goddess one minute and a stuffed burrito the next.

It’s beautiful…
and uncomfortable.
Magical…
and overwhelming.
A blessing…
and a challenge.

But that’s the thing about growing a baby:
You don’t have to pretend you love every second.
You can be thankful and tired.
Excited and uncomfortable.
Glowing and struggling.

Both can be true.

And through all of it, the good, the hard, the hilarious, the emotional. You’re doing something incredible.
Your body is building an entire human from scratch.

That is beautiful.
That is hard.
And that makes you amazing. 🤍

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