10/28/2023
This is a transformational realization.
It usually starts with something significant that hits too hard. That event adds heat inside of us that is hard to manage so we look for ways, and we look for people, to help put that fire out.
Along the way, those people we find say the things that make the flames increase in size and heat. “You just need to….” “You should….”
If only.
Over time, their voice is what we hear. Add a bit of shame to that, and you have a common occurance many survivors experience: Misdirected pain.
When the event happened, that part of you needed someone to say “This is NOT ok!” “You were not meant for this!”
When that does not happen, that part of us develops coping skills to numb because that thing that happened has too many emotions tied to it, and to feel them seems like a threat.
That part of you:
They are afraid.
They are tired.
They are innocent.
They are lonely.
They are defensive.
They are doing what they know to stay out of future pain. The intensity you feel is their survival mode. The confusion you feel is how so many people could have been dismissive of your innocense.
Your healing is not in teaching those people they were wrong about you. It is in rushing to that younger part and telling them you have good news.
It was not their fault.
You want you both to feel free.
You can’t unsee their innocense.
You are who they were waiting for.
And relief.
It is not easy, but it is worth it.
Sending peace as you welcome your hurt self home.
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