Cindy Brown M. S., LPC, NCC, CCTP

08/02/2024

It is important to know how to regulate your own body in order to help your children regulate their bodies.

05/04/2024

Very true!

We may not realize when we violate our own boundaries if we grew up in an environment where boundaries were rarely respected. It may be difficult for us to identify when we might start to feel small, neglected, or resentful because we may have become desensitized to these experiences.

Repeated experiences in our lives start to feel normal to us even when they are not good for us.
As children, if we were not given healthy permission to say no, then we may have difficulty to be okay with saying no in adulthood. If we never learned to take up space, then we may be later challenged to express our opinions and thoughts in a room full of people. If there was no room to talk about our emotions growing up, then it might be hard for us to name what we are feeling and acknowledge it.

The good news is that we all have the power to change. Our brains create new patterns and behaviors through neuroplasticity. It takes more work on our end initially, but with consistent practice, these behaviors become automatic to us. However, the first step is understanding ourselves better. How were your boundaries violated and neglected in the past? How does that impact your ability to set boundaries for yourself?

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Take care of your mind and body. Love, Nawal ♥️

04/05/2024

This is a good resource to living well.

Its not really about which practices you use to help regulate your nervous system..

Its about consistently showing up for yourself and reminding yourself that you are safe that makes the difference!

Often times a lot of weight is put on the actual practices, yet the expect practice that is helpful will vary from person to person and may change throughout our healing journey.

Learning to show your body that it is safe, and that the calm you feel in these moments is not a threat will help to slowly reprogram your nervous system over time.

Finding what works for you can be difficult when you don’t know where to start, and I feel you because I’ve been there

4 years ago I had no idea what to do or what practice could even benenfit me.

If you’re feeling the same, please know you’re not alone 💕

Comment ‘REGULATE’ to learn more about my 10 day nervous system challenge that can help you learn daily practices and the why behind them so you can see what works best for you ✨

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Sending love,
Carly

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04/05/2024

So very true!

Have you ever stopped to consider the strange dichotomy between our hopes for our children in the future and how we want them to behave today?

Today is all about compliance. We want children to always do what we (and others) tell them to do, to not question us or complain, to be subservient and easy to control. If we think about our goals for them when they're in their twenties and beyond we want the complete opposite for them. We want them to aim for the sky and smash glass ceilings, we want them to be true to themselves, with a strong voice that they're not afraid to use to question injustice. We want them to respect themselves and know that respect should be earned, not demanded. We want them to be inquisitive, to explore the world, to try out different things. We want them to stand up for their beliefs. Basically, we want them to be completely different to the easy to control little child that is easier to parent. No wonder our 'job' is so hard. We have our goals and expectations confused and muddled and so rarely do we stop to admire a so-called 'stubborn' and 'willful' child for their amazing grit and resilience, or to celebrate a tween who answers back when they perceive an injustice has occurred.

The more I write about parenting, the more come back to the idea that it really shouldn't be about trying to change our children, but instead, changing the expectations we have, which are largely inherited by a misinformed society whose beliefs are still entrenched in outdated authoritarian views of childhood. I think it's about time we shift this train of thought, don't you?

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04/05/2024

Hugging is a wonderful thing to do. Hug someone you love.

Not everyone is a hugger, but if you ask, and they accept, do it!

Physical connection has many benefits…remember to connect before you correct. Sometimes someone just needs some understanding and connection 💗

Amanda P. (a hugger)

03/05/2024

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03/05/2024

So very true!

Let's raise a new generation of children who don't believe they need to hustle for their worthiness, knowing they are loved for their unique contributions to the world and their imperfections.

When children know nothing can separate them from their parent’s love, they will grow up self-assured, with the capacity to love others with that same depth.

02/19/2024

The power of feeling understood.

02/14/2024

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02/14/2024

02/14/2024

The key to healthier relationships is teaching clients how to establish boundaries.

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