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⭐️ I empower individuals to enhance their mindset, mobility, and strength, 💪🏻drawing from my own journey as a survivor of childhood trauma. ⭐️

12/28/2025

Stranger Things… The empathy lens (why some people “missed” it)

When someone says “It wasn’t obvious” about Will, that often says less about the writing and more about how they process other people’s emotions.

Empathy isn’t just kindness, it’s a skill. And like any skill, some people haven’t practiced it much.

What empathy actually is

Empathy is the ability to:
• Notice non-verbal cues
• Pick up on emotional subtext
• Sit with discomfort without needing it explained bluntly
• Understand feelings that don’t mirror your own experience

If you struggle with empathy, you tend to rely on:
• Explicit statements (“He didn’t say it”)
• Stereotypes (“He didn’t act gay enough”)
• Your own lens (“That’s not how I would feel”)

So anything subtle? You miss it.

From early seasons of Stranger Things, Will consistently shows:
• Emotional sensitivity
• Difficulty fitting into traditional masculinity
• Deep attachment and longing that isn’t reciprocated
• Discomfort with conversations about girls
• A sense of otherness that mirrors how many q***r kids feel

None of that required a label.
It required emotional literacy.

If you’ve never had to:
• Hide who you are
• Feel unsafe being honest
• Navigate longing in silence
• Be “different” without language for it

…then you may not recognize those feelings in others.

If you didn’t see it, that doesn’t automatically make you homophobic, but it might mean you’re not used to noticing emotional nuance, especially when it doesn’t reflect your own life.

Lack of empathy doesn’t just affect media interpretation.
It affects:
• Friendships
• Romantic relationships
• Parenting
• Leadership
• Mental health awareness

If you miss subtle emotional signals in a TV character, you may also miss them in:
• Your kids
• Your partner
• Your friends
• Your clients
• Yourself

That’s not a moral failure, it’s an opportunity to grow.

Empathy isn’t about agreeing with someone’s experience. It’s about being able to see it…. even when it’s quiet, uncomfortable, or unfamiliar.

11/23/2025

Pilates isn’t magical anatomy—it’s biomechanics.

When we understand what’s actually supposed to fire, we stop demonizing muscles that are literally doing their job.

My goal is always to teach you what you should feel, where it should initiate, and how to stabilize the rest of the chain so the movement becomes intentional instead of confusing.

10/24/2025

Did Joseph Pilates intend Pilates (Contrology) to be a form of strength training? In short, yes.

In the early 1900s, when Joseph Pilates was creating his method, people didn’t say ‘strength training’ — they said ‘body conditioning’ or ‘physical culture.’ Pilates called his system Contrology, and described it as ‘the complete coordination of body, mind, and spirit’ that develops the body uniformly.

In today’s terms, that means functional strength training — focused on balanced, controlled resistance rather than brute force

💬 From Your Health (1934):
“Your exercises should be performed to derive all the benefits of physical development… control, strength, and endurance.”

In that era, people said things like “muscle control,” “body development,” “physical culture,” or “body conditioning” — all meaning what we’d call strength and resistance training today.

09/15/2025

Real growth starts when we pause and look within. 🧘🏼‍♀️

Understanding racism, and bias against LGBTQ+ people isn’t just about seeing obvious acts of hate. It’s about recognizing the subtle stereotypes, assumptions, and inherited beliefs many of us never questioned because we’ve never had to. This is why white folks are referred to as privileged.

For white folks and for anyone raised inside systems that privilege some identities over others, it can be uncomfortable to admit how much we’ve absorbed, even if we don’t mean harm.

The work is to notice, learn, and choose something better every day. ✨

What’s one way you’ve caught yourself unlearning a bias lately?

07/25/2025

There’s a lot happening in the U.S. right now that feels heavy—especially for women, minorities, and LGBTQ+ communities. The news isn’t just headlines; for many, it’s personal. It’s a reminder of the battles we’re still fighting to simply exist, be safe, and be heard.

But here’s the thing: constant exposure to these stories can re-traumatize us, leaving our nervous systems in overdrive. It’s okay to want to stay informed, but you don’t have to sacrifice your mental health to do so. I limit my exposure to 30 minutes a day and only share/post in my stories.

Here are some trauma-informed practices to help you stay engaged without burning out:

1. Curate your news intake. Follow trusted sources or newsletters that summarize key updates once a day rather than scrolling endlessly.

2. Set boundaries with social media. Notice how your body feels when you read certain posts—tight chest? shallow breathing? That’s your nervous system asking for a break.

3. Engage in mindful action. Choose one thing you can do—sign a petition, donate, or share a resource—then give yourself permission to step back.

4. Balance with grounding activities. Move your body, breathe deeply, or go outside. Even five minutes can regulate your nervous system.

5. Talk about it. Safe conversations with friends or community can make the weight feel less isolating.

It’s not selfish to protect your peace. We can’t advocate for change if we’re running on empty. Staying informed and taking care of your mental health can exist together.

Share below tips on how you stay informed without feeling overwhelmed.

07/04/2025

“Independence Day?” Let’s talk. 🇺🇸💔

Today marks the anniversary of a promise — of liberty, justice, and freedom for all. But in 2025, too many of us still live in a country where:

⚖️ Women’s bodily autonomy is under attack
📚 Black and Brown communities face systemic erasure
💼 LGBTQ+ rights are being stripped away
🗳️ Voter access is being suppressed
💊 Healthcare is not a human right — but a privilege

So while fireworks light the sky, many of us feel more like we’re watching rights burn away.

This post isn’t about being ungrateful. It’s about being awake.
Because love for your country doesn’t mean silence. It means speaking up when it’s off course.

🖤 Let’s celebrate each other. Let’s fight for true independence. Let’s redefine freedom together.

05/02/2025

I am looking for 20 people who want to test my app for free for 20 days. It would require you to utilize the app off and on for the 20 day duration and provide feedback at the end. You will need a gmail email account to participate. Raise your hand if you would like to help 👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻

Edit; I have 6 spots left

12/26/2024

You are what you consume. Most people claim that their primary goal is to be happy first and foremost. This goal is simply not achievable when you primarily focus on negativity. Nobody can be positive and happy all the time. That’s unreasonable to think.
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However, it is not best for anyone’s mental health and overall well-being to focus primarily on things negative in nature. By increasing your cortisol levels continuously has a negative impact on overall health, not just mentally but physically as well. So your overall goal should be to find balance. If you scroll past positive content and do not react to it (even just a like) then your algorithm will show you less of that. Engaging in both positive and negative content will help balance what shows up in your feed, and remember, you are what you consume. Just as you are who hang out with. ✌🏻

12/13/2024

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