12/17/2025
This past Saturday, I had the honor of serving as a small group leader at “Finding Hope in Darkness: Surviving the Holiday Blues,” hosted by the Metropolitan Dallas Alumnae Chapter of Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Inc. and facilitated by Kinnect Wellness Network. I’ve participated for the past three years, but this year was different. This was the largest turnout we’ve ever had, and it was a powerful reminder of how present grief is right now.
It was so good seeing familiar faces serving on the panel and as fellow group leaders, especially my dear friend Shavon Swain, who co-led my group. Her presence was exactly what I needed. Grief had been tugging at me heavily that morning and throughout the week, and being held in community while holding others mattered deeply.
In just the past week or so, people I care about have lost parents, spouses, and coworkers. Others are living with anticipatory grief. Holding space in that room was an honor, and it was also heavy. Holding others while trying to hold yourself is not easy.
This gathering exists to bring healing and visibility to emotional pain that is often carried in silence, especially in Black and Brown communities during the holidays. Your presence and your voice matter.
If you are grieving a person, a relationship, a season of life, or a future you hoped for, I see you. This time of year can feel unbearable. Your grief, exhaustion, tears, numbness, and quiet all make sense.
A few gentle reminders. You do not need to be cheerful or productive right now. Let grief be what it is today. Anchor in your body with slow breaths and a hand on your chest. Create small rituals like lighting a candle or saying a name. Lower the bar. Survival is enough. Ask for support or allow yourself to receive it.
If all you can do is get through the day, that is not failure. That is resilience.
Holding space for others is sacred work. Holding space for yourself is too. You are not invisible. Your grief is not too much. Your love did not disappear. It transformed.
I am holding you in mind and in heart.