Jonathan Olvera Counseling

02/12/2026

“The quality of your relationships determines the quality of your life.”

This quote captures something powerful and true.

How are your relationships right now?
Are they bringing connection, support, and growth — or could they use a shift?

It’s important to remember: the weight doesn’t fall entirely on the other person. The quality of your relationships is influenced by the energy, communication, and self-awareness you bring to them.

Small internal shifts can create meaningful external change.

At Jonathan Olvera Counseling, we help individuals and couples build stronger, healthier relationships through greater attunement to self and other.

If you’re ready for a shift, let’s start the conversation.

01/23/2026

A classic insight from social psychology: we judge ourselves by our circumstances and others by their character. Or in other words, when it’s me, I offer grace: “I was overwhelmed, hungry, tired—of course I lost my temper.” When it’s someone else, I judge: “They’re just being an idiot.”
When I catch myself in this pattern I might try a few things. Try to understand their perspective. "What's going on that I don't see?" Try to see their situation. "If I were having their day, how might I act?" Look for positive intent. "What might their healthy intent be, even though the impact hurt?"
Truly curiosity is the best way to evade this common mistake. Slow down to try and understand what you might be missing before making judgement.

12/09/2025

In relationships, most of the moves you make with your spouse come from a healthy intent—wanting to connect, be understood, support, or calm things down.

But sometimes those same moves create the opposite outcome:
• You try to help, and it feels dismissive.
• You seek closeness, and it feels like pressure.
• You try to “fix it,” and they feel unheard.

In couples counseling, we slow these patterns down so you can see the good intention behind each move and learn new ways to reach for each other that actually work.

If your relationship feels stuck in this cycle, support is available.
Schedule your session today.

09/18/2025

Relationship Tip – Repair, Don’t Perfect
All couples argue. Conflict is normal—perfection isn’t the goal.

What matters most is how you repair afterward.
A simple, heartfelt “I’m sorry… can we try again?” can turn tension into understanding and bring you closer together.

At Jonathan Olvera Counseling, I help couples build the tools to move from conflict to connection.

09/15/2025

90 minute sessions for couples. Open availability some evenings and afternoons.

This is an initial consultation where we will get to know each other briefly and decide if we're a good fit to work together. I'll ask you more about what is bringing you to counseling and share about myself as well as answer any questions you might have for me.I look forward to meeting you.

09/11/2025

Relationship Tip
“Did you hear that?” I asked the husband sitting in front of me.

His wife had answered his question—but with a different tone. Something in his words had landed differently than he intended. So, we slowed things down. She shared what she heard, and he took a moment to validate her experience before trying again, more clearly.

Moments like this can turn misunderstanding into connection.

At Jonathan Olvera Counseling, I help couples build the skills to listen, understand, and communicate with care.

09/04/2025

One of my favorite things to remind couples in session is: “Let’s slow this down.”

When you’re stuck in the same painful cycle, it’s easy to run on autopilot. Slowing down gives you the chance to pause, stay curious, and really seek to understand each other. That shift can be the first step toward breaking the cycle and building connection.

At Jonathan Olvera Counseling, I help couples move from patterns of conflict to patterns of understanding.

This is an initial consultation where we will get to know each other briefly and decide if we're a good fit to work together. I'll ask you more about what is bringing you to counseling and share about myself as well as answer any questions you might have for me.I look forward to meeting you.

08/28/2025

Healthy relationships are built on many small moments not huge uncommon gestures. A smile, a gentle touch, or saying “thank you” often carries more weight than big speeches.
Do these small things often to help your partner know they are the one for you.

08/21/2025

A simple question can transform your conversations:
“What did you hear me say?”

Here’s the key—when your partner responds, resist the urge to correct right away and say 'that's not what I meant'. Instead, pause. Reflect back what they heard, validate their experience, even if it wasn’t what you meant. Only then, ask if you can try sharing your message again, more clearly.

This small shift can break patterns of misunderstanding, reduce conflict, and open the door to deeper connection.

At Jonathan Olvera Counseling, I help couples build these kinds of tools so communication feels safer, clearer, and more connected.

01/08/2025

Post Holiday blues is a thing.

The post-holiday blues refers to the short-term feelings that individuals experience after the holidays, including sadness, loneliness, or disappointment. Here's what to know about what can trigger the post-holiday blues, how to manage or prevent those feelings, and when to seek help.

03/24/2024

"We have 1000 friends on social media, but no one we can call to take care of our cat."

In this first episode in a series on the possibilities and costs of living beyond human scale, Brené and Esther Perel discuss how we manage the paradox of exploring the world of social media and emerging technologies while staying tethered to our humanness.

12/01/2023

Holidays aren't always bright and joyous. It might be a good time to talk to an experienced grief counselor.

Question? Call (469) 454-8632 Navigating the Journey of Grief Compassionate Counseling to Get You Through Grief Therapy in Richardson and Online throughout Texas Schedule Your Free Consultation Name *Email *Phone Number *Message / Comments * Call me now More About Me Grief is a human reaction from A...