Alicia Fike

Therapist on her own healing journey
Helping you break up with your anxious attachment

04/14/2023

“Knowing that you love the earth changes you, activates you to defend and protect and celebrate. But when you feel that the earth loves you in return, that feeling transforms the relationship from a one-way street into a sacred bond.”⁣
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- Robin Wall Kimmerer⁣
from my new favorite book, Braiding Sweetgrass

04/05/2023

There is nothing in the world that infuses life into me more than helping people begin to acknowledge the beauty in the parts of themselves that our culture says are broken, shameful and should be hidden. This quote so eloquently defines the heart behind the name of my counseling practice. 🤍

03/24/2023

I still scribble I🤍CC on my notebooks.

03/16/2023

Baby Leesh & CC, 2019.

03/09/2023

One thing I’ve learned from life is that you can’t be a light for others if you are determined to keep your own light hidden.

02/27/2023

No one thing can bring us healing.

No one counselor, no one ayahuasca trip, no one self reflection journal, no move, no job change, and certainly no one relationship.

That breakup may bring you to your knees and cause you to lean back into all of the relationships the remind you who you are and the things you do to connect to yourself, but the breakup didn’t heal you.

That new job may challenge you to be your best self, to workout every morning & take that course you’ve been procrastinating on. It may take you away from the sh*tty coworkers at your old job and connect you with people whose values are aligned with yours, but the job change didn’t heal you.

Our healing is made up of all of all of these big things and not so big things that we do to find ourselves again. So if you’re struggling with your next step, do the small thing that you know connects you with your soul, the one thing that makes you feel just a little safer, and trust that it’s a imperative piece of the whole big puzzle.

02/26/2023

Circa 2019

02/22/2023

I have lived my life catching glimpses of my father. Moments where I can feel him, and hear his words unslurred by alcohol, speaking wisdom that only someone who has been through as much as he has could ever speak.

But most of the time I felt like there were so many layers of... I don’t know what, trauma, PTSD, anxiety, addiction, in between us. Like plexiglass. I want so badly to feel him, to hear him, to see him, but most of the time the glass is fogged and thick, yet even then I never doubt that he loves me. Somehow his love for me has always been able to pe*****te any layer of whatever exists between us.

I think it is because of my father that I see people for who they are created to be, not who they are currently showing the world that they are or even who they believe themself to be. I look at everyone as a culmination of all they have been through. I’ve had an awareness since I was a child that addiction isnt something people choose simply because they love a substance, it’s something they choose because they can’t bear the weight of their reality.

I realize now that my obsession with understanding anxiety, addiction, PTSD, and depression is because I have believed that one day I would find the “answer” that would bring my dad back to fully experiencing life before he loses the chance to live again. And everyday is bittersweet as I help others reconnect to their lives yet so ominously feel that the sand in the hour glass of time is always moving and I still haven’t found a way to help my dad.

My dad has taught me that those of us with the roughest edges are the ones with the most beautiful souls. Addiction, depression, anxiety are all defenses that we have to protect what we inherently know is so precious within us.

02/15/2023

Fuel ☕️

02/07/2023

There are some things that stay with us throughout our lives. Like our families, that scar on your knee that tells a story of your reckless youth, the memory of your first kiss.

There are other things that we always knew we wouldn’t hold on to. Like that boyfriend that you knew was bad for you or those drunken nights with people that you knew you wouldn’t know a year later.

And then there are those things that we thought would stay with us forever, until that moment when one day you realize that you have to let them go, or maybe they’re already gone. These are the things that we have to console our hearts through, the things that we have to grieve.

Like the dog you lost too early, or the friendship that ended that you never got answers for, the love that left that you thought never would, a loved ones health that doctors say won’t return, or the version of yourself that you no longer are because of it all.

I’ve recently had to let go of some of these things. Things that I thought would always be with me. But as we grow sometimes we have to realize when we’re fighting too hard to keep things that are no longer meant to be ours, and then sometimes we have to take the difficult step of surrendering them.

I used to think that strength was only seen in our fight, now I’m realizing just how much more is required in our surrender.

11/24/2022

When you forget who you are you end up chasing the desires that you have been told by your culture, family, friends, ect. that you should chase
And when you stand there exhausted from running a race you were never meant to run, after you’ve accomplished all the goals you are “supposed” to accomplish, you will still be unsatisfied
You’ll stand there holding what you thought you always wanted, and yet still feel empty
I’ve been there- and honestly it was when I thought that I had everything that I wanted when I first experienced true depression. Backwards, huh? But not really.
I had forgotten who I was and chased the dreams others had given me. But then I remembered… and I left all that “should have” made me happy behind for the messy, bumpy, winding road back home to myself.

Who are you under the layers of programming and acculturation?
What did you want, dream of, fear, and love when you still had the belief that you could do and be anything that you desired?

It’s when we meet ourselves in this place that we can learn what it really is that we are here to embody- not chase.

It’s also here that we can learn what desires were never ours to begin with and find the courage put them down

You didn’t come here to do things you don’t want to do all day
You came here to experience life
You came here to let this world experience you- the real you.

So in order for you to live a life full of the miracles that are here for you to experience you first have to know yourself
And then you have to remember yourself

And then you’ll forget again, and remember

And forget again, and remember

Until eventually you remember not to forget.

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