02/07/2026
My personal story…
Why do some people stay in relationships too long and some people just seem to know when to leave?
Years ago, I unfortunately was one of those women who choose to stay in an unhealthy relationship far to long, knowing in my heart and soul that it was wrong, unhealthy, abusive, yet i stayed year after year. You could raise the question, was I broken? Was this a learned behavior from childhood? Did I not feel worthy enough to leave?
Was I trying to help and fix him because of a deep wound I had experienced?
These are the questions I would ask myself later in life as I walked through my healing journey of forgiveness.
You may have heard the word forgiveness in passing and thought you knew all about it. I thought I did. If you grew up in church, or have any kind of spiritual beliefs you may think you understand it, but it’s not until you truly surrender all of the pain, resentment, anger, embarrassment, disbelief, and any other emotion you may feel toward yourself for a mistake you’ve made or others who have inflicted wounds toward you. Some of the offenders are aware of what they’ve done, and some have no idea or even realize or care at all that they have hurt you. That was my biggest lesson of all. I learned that hanging on to something that was eating me alive from the inside out, causing physical & emotional stress and for some even autoimmune disease. In the research I have found is that this is what truly happens when we choose not to forgive another.
You see, forgiveness is not for the other person, it is for you! Forgiven forget? That’s a tough one. The offense is never forgotten, but if we trust in God, we learn how to work through the emotions that seem inconceivable. We take it day by day and forgive as many times as it takes until you are no longer tied to that emotion, and as the Bible says, forgive 7×70 a metaphor number to say as many times as it takes or is needed to bring you peace, joy, and walk in Freedom once again. My message today is that you have the power to choose to forgive someone not that they deserve it, but you do! And to be honest, does anyone deserve true forgiveness? Jesus is the only one who made the way for this to happen in your life and in mine. It happened to me! 🥰 Today I am married to my fifth grade boyfriend, a dream tgat i could have only inagined
And would have never happened had I’ve not forgiven my x husband fully. Today I walk in joy, and freedom in my life. That is a result of me, choosing not to stay in the past, living in bitterness and the “why me” victim place that will keep you stuck. Now it’s your turn to choose. Will you allow what someone else did to you to ruin your life, your happiness your physical health? I hope that your answer is no and that you feel the nudge to choose forgiveness today!
I have been walking people through this process for over 12+ years now. Began hosting Amazing Grace Retreats in 2016 helping women fun clarity, overcome struggles, and discover their true calling in the testimonies are amazing of their transformation.
Started Amazing Grace Talk podcast,
Written two books that are currently on Amazon. My calling is to walk alongside women to help them be “set free” just like Jesus did for me. Comment FORGIVENESS and I’ll send the link to check out where you are in your life with forgiveness and and get registered for the upcoming master class. Aren’t you ready to live the
