The Branch Counseling PLLC

12/10/2025

Keeping the peace with self blame
This is a classic response I took on when responding to emotionally immature folx
Just want to give a shout out to all the daughters navigating mid life who learned to keep the peace by taking the blame and are now burnt the F out
When I first adapted this response I had little choice in my life and if you do this too I bet you might say the same. The difference is now in mid-life I have more choice and continuing to take the blame is just one of them (and it’s not wrong, it’s protective)
It’s not easy to face the emotional backlash of others but the truth is today I’m older, stronger, more capable of caring for myself, more understanding of my needs and just plan ol’ don’t have to put up with this crap
Learning to care for myself in the face of others unloving actions is the most powerful act I can take
Everyone isn’t mad at you but it makes total sense that it feels that way. And it can be different

12/08/2025

12/01/2025

I’m a bit fed up
You’ve taken the HRT, got the shots, tried the pellets and still feel exhausted, depressed and anxious
Don’t let yourself or doctors reduce your lived experience to taking a prescription
We’ve spent our lifetime holding family together, fixing problems and learned early on no one was coming to save us
You’ve been running on adrenaline, caffeine and cortisol for years and now that you’re 40 we can slap a label on ya and give you some cream and send you on your way
No girl, I see you, it’s time to carve out time to breathe, rest and reflect. There is space for you to decide what you want life to be not how life will shape you
Sure some things might slip through the cracks if you pause but if you don’t pause you might crumble
Today feels good and I’m feeling a bit more bold so I’m going to take this moment and go with it. Know I’ve got space for you to join me on the ride
Now accepting new clients who are ready to embrace midlife and build the most secure connections and community, the one from within
All my love babes 💃🏻

11/30/2025

I went rock climbing
I was terrified
I scrambled the boulders
I tested my limits
I trembled
I listened
I rappelled
I learned
I’m still learning
I had fun
I met new friends
I felt loved and cared for
I did something new
I’m tired as hell
I’m alive

11/27/2025

Besos and Birthdays
In lue of thanksgiving My SIL, her sister and some gal pals are celebrating her 40th birthday this week
Before we embarked on our visit to Guanajuato City we set intentions that would support our needs
Exploration•Delight•Receive•Open
It was so powerful to name our journey and then walk the path together. Throughout the day we wove in recognition of these intentions for ourself and each other. Living the lessons
So we ended our path today at the kissing ally ( a famous legend of Guanajuato City). Kind of a symbolic love letter to each of ourselves that what we need matters
For most of my life I have lived in self denial. No you don’t need that, no that’s too expensive, no one will like that. But birthdays remind me that I was given the right to take up space, enjoy and celebrate. HBD 🎂

11/04/2025

So what’s self support?
Self support is the action of providing care to one’s self with no agenda
No: fixing, stopping, trying, changing
News flash you don’t need fixing or changing. You need connection (aka love but I know that hits hard for some, including myself but that’s for another day)
When I look back at my hardest times it’s not what happened that’s the worst it’s that I felt alone
I learned early on to ignore my feelings so when they tried to show up I labeled them as bad. The truth is they aren’t bad they are alone and they need support
You can offer support in Sooooo many ways but what matters most is that it’s not pushy or trying to control an outcome
Go on a walk to walk - not to calm down
Take a breath to breathe - not to control
Copeing skill to be with - not to get rid of
We need room and space to be human not restricted
Stay tuned ima start to share videos of how I self support with breath and movement

04/11/2025

Perfectionism goes far beyond wanting to make the most beautifully, perfect xyz…….its if I don’t I won’t be accepted, I won’t have belonging, I won’t be able to get a job, I won’t find someone to love me, I’ll be seen as a fraud, people will think I’m not enough. Perfectionism in its extremes will steer us clear of ever taking chances to grow, be seen or connect authentically with ourselves and others. This might blow your mind…..while perfectionism can be a huge pain in the 🍑, have you ever thought that it’s just trying to protect you from being too vulnerable? If you really want to work on perfectionism you have to get to know it and understand it. With an open heart, ask yourself, what would happen if perfectionism wasn’t there? The answer is what needs your help the most…..Remember perfect is an illusion, we’re all human and it’s about time we all have the chance to be and do just that. I love you all 💕 #

01/23/2025

Long weekend of IFS training. Learning this material is so awesome! I know I’m into something because I’m excited about it. Learning about Internal Family Systems and the Body this weekend. My trainer Rina was a part of a study that demonstrated the IFS is an evidence based approach for treating RA. This hits home as I have lived with autoimmune issues since I was 29.

10/28/2024

A health relationship is not one that has eliminated conflict. It’s a relationship that can learn to lean in and repair when conflict arises. My dad and I don’t see eye to eye on a lot of topics but we both can listen and reflect on what each person is saying with open hearts. As we traverse the political parts of ourselves in the upcoming weeks I want to share my hope to prioritize the relationships in front of us first. I truly believe that the most impactful change that can ever be made is in prioritizing the people that we love and who love us back.

10/11/2024

Inclusion, one of my 3 core values. Denying parts of ourself denies us a full chance at healing. All parts of you are welcome with me. 🌈 ❤️💛💚💙💜

10/01/2024

For the longest time I thought I wasn’t ready. I kept learning, preparing, collecting evidence that would validate my readiness. What I realized is that no matter how much I did I never felt ready. So then I though, what if I have been ready all along I just was afraid to try. I’m more willing to live along side my fears because trying to eliminate them is just an illusion. You just might be more ready now than ever.

09/27/2024

A tactic used to control or manipulate an overwhelming relational situation. However it’s also a form of neglect and abandonment. I’m sure we all have been on both the giving and receiving end of this strategy. Once I understood the impacts it had on relationship development I started to reflect how I treat others and what I’m willing to accept. We all do the best we can and now we can do better.