Horse and People Project

02/01/2026

Too cold to stop and re-shoot the video! So here it is, noise and all.

01/29/2026

5star book review from a stranger!

01/17/2026

Book launch! 👀

01/17/2026

Book launch!!!!

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01/16/2026

Thanks Alaska!! For buying my book

01/14/2026

Don’t Blame the Mirror
If you don't like what you see.

This was a hard lesson for me to learn, and my horse Cisco was a master teacher. He was the most beautifully challenging horse. Without him, I wouldn't have learned the lessons I needed to learn. But at first, I blamed him for everything:
“Bad boy.”
“That’s naughty.”
“You’re dangerous.”
Eventually, with help, I realized something humbling: the problems I thought were his were often mine.

Blaming the mirror comes naturally to us. We blame:
The other person in the argument.
The colleague not pulling their weight.
The other driver.
The child.

It's often hard to turn the mirror and see the truth; it's hard to look at our own role and what we contribute.

When Cisco became aggressive, I learned to slow down and ask a different question, not to blame myself, but to become aware: What was I contributing to this interaction?

Once I stopped blaming the mirror and started changing my own clarity and consistency, everything shifted.

The reflection was telling me the truth all along. Where in your life might the mirror be showing you something worth noticing?

01/05/2026

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12/29/2025

The beginning…so fun going thru old pictures!

12/29/2025

The Carrot Is Optional
I used to think the carrot was the leverage I needed to lead my horse. When he hesitated, didn't follow, or seemed unsure, my instinct was to reach for a treat. A carrot, a handful of grain; something tangible (and edible!) to CONVINCE him to do what I was asking.

Unfortunately, this never worked for long, AND he got into the habit of not doing what I asked unless I gave him treat. Not the relationship I wanted. Not the leader I was trying to be.

When respect and connection is missing, we reach for the carrot. Bribing is what we do when we are unsure of our ask, or insecure about our ability to lead and draw others in.

With horses, a bribe often looks like this: "if you come closer, I'll give you this." With people, its not very different. How often have we said "if you finish this, you can have that," or "if you behave...if you listen to me...if you follow me"

The word "IF" becomes the focus of the issue, with the carrot (bribe) replacing true authority and leadership. But true leadership is based on connection, not bribes.

Where is your life are you offering a carrot instead of true connection and a better relationship?

For the full blog, visit https://www.horseandpeopleproject.com/post/the-carrot-is-optional-moving-from-bribing-to-true-connection

12/11/2025

Clarity vs. Control

We often mistake leadership for control: holding all the reins, managing every detail, keeping everything tightly contained. But real leadership has far less to do with force and far more to do with focus.

True leadership is about clarity.

It’s about knowing what you’re asking for, why it matters, and communicating it in a way others can actually follow. A clear ask creates direction. A clear intention sets the tone. And when your energy matches that intention, people feel the difference. They feel grounded, not pressured.

And just as important as the ask is the release.

Great leaders know when to step back and trust the process. They know when their job is done and when it’s time to let others carry the momentum forward. Control tries to push; clarity invites collaboration.

This week, practice leading with a clear vision, aligned energy, and the confidence to let go when the moment calls for it.

You don’t need a tighter grip, you need a clearer signal.

12/08/2025

Excited to announce the launch of my refreshed website! After over five years, it was time for an update, and I am thrilled with the results. A big thank you to Loebig Ink for their fantastic work in bringing my vision to life.

Check it out: https://www.horseandpeopleproject.com/

The Horse and People Project provides individuals and groups the opportunity to interact with horses for better self-awareness and to improve communication and leadership skills. A unique outdoor activity!

12/04/2025

The How Matters as Much as the What

You can have the right intention and still get the wrong result if your energy, tone, or timing is off. Most of us learn this in our relationships with people, but it becomes unmistakably clear when working with horses.

With horses, you can’t hide behind your words. They read your posture, your breath, your tension, the pace of your steps. You might be asking for something simple, but if your energy is anxious or your timing rushed, the response you get will reflect that. They’re not reacting to the request, they’re reacting to the delivery.

People are the same, just a little better at pretending they aren’t.

Leadership, communication, partnership—they all rely on aligning intention with presence. The right message delivered with the wrong tone becomes the wrong message. The right action taken at the wrong time becomes the wrong action. Good intentions alone don’t guarantee good outcomes.

This week, pay attention not just to what you’re asking for, but how you’re asking.

Your presence speaks long before your words do.