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Dr Colette Lord: Trauma Therapist Colette Lord, PhD - EMDR Therapy for trauma/complex PTSD & Transgender Affirmative Therapy. Page is

Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID/OSDD) is a diagnosis that consists of these types of symptoms:🧠Memory problems🧠Disre...
11/24/2025

Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID/OSDD) is a diagnosis that consists of these types of symptoms:

🧠Memory problems
🧠Disremembered actions
🧠Trance
🧠Depersonalization
🧠 Derealization
🧠Somatoform symptoms
🧠Manifestation of self-states

Memory problems involve memory loss that's more severe than normal forgetfulness.

An inability to recall large parts of childhood and/or losing time in the present.

Disremembered actions are when a person finds evidence of actions they must’ve taken but have no memory of having done those things.

May find new clothes in the closet, writing or artwork they don't remember creating, etc.

Trance symptoms are an involuntary escape from reality.

May look like going away in their mind when something upsetting happens or staring off into space, losing awareness of what's happening around them.

Depersonalization symptoms involve a sense of detachment from self.

May watch themselves as if the’re another person or feeling detached from themselves.

Derealization symptoms involve a sense of detachment from the people/things.

Perceptions may change with the world being seen through ,fog or their sense of time may slow down or sped up.

Somatoform symptoms involve experiencing physical symptoms that have no medical cause.

May have pain or seizures for no known reason, changes in their ability to walk or see, or having no feeling in their body for no known reason.

The most well-known symptom of DID is the manifestation of self-states in DID, when there is a sense of having independent or separate sides/parts of self.

May be experienced as hearing voices that correspond to these different sides or feeling like one changes from being an adult to a child or teen.

There's a lot of myths & misconceptions about the diagnosis of Dissociative Identity Disorder & those who carry the diagnosis.

And if you are an EMDR therapist interested in learning more about recognizing DID and working with it, check out the link in my bio.

Holiday reminders:Do not pressure, harass, questions, or judge those who choose not to have contact with their family.Th...
11/21/2025

Holiday reminders:

Do not pressure, harass, questions, or judge those who choose not to have contact with their family.

This is typically an incredibly painful choice they've had to make.

It is already going to be difficult enough to manage the holidays without getting grief from others.

It is not too much to expect family to use your correct name and/or pronouns

It is not too much to expect your partner to be accepted and treated with respect

It is not too much to expect to not have your weight or what you eat commented on or critiqued

You get to decide who you hug or talk to

Bring items that can help you ground or soothe yourself

Remember you can leave at any time, not matter what your family thinks

You don't have to be with your family if it is harmful for you, you have a choice

Don't expect to heal old wounds or for your family to have changed

11/20/2025

My heart goes out to all sexual abuse survivors struggling right now with the constant new about the Epstein files. You all deserve so much better!

A common occurrence around the holidays when we return home, and are faced with our families, is that we find ourselves ...
11/19/2025

A common occurrence around the holidays when we return home, and are faced with our families, is that we find ourselves returning to ways of being and interacting that were more common when we were younger.

This can often include less healthy ways of communicating or handling our emotions.

Be kind and compassionate with yourself this holiday season if you recognize this happening.
This is not necessarily a sign you are regressing or reverting. Our families exert a strong pull to old, established patterns.

The more you can be aware of this, the more prepared you can be going into this situation and come up with a plan to protect and take care of yourself.

If you are in the process of figuring your gender or sexual identity and you know that your family will not be okay with it or will be toxic, to protect yourself it is perfectly okay to revert to presenting and acting as you did before.

Only you can know what is right, safe and healthy for you. You have every right to be seen and celebrate with people who affirm who you truly are. And only you know your family and if this can be done safely.

If you are returning to an abusive, toxic or neglectful home situation, this can pull for old ways of coping such as people pleasing or making yourself small.

It might pull for more aggressive ways of behaving or use of unhealthy coping (alcohol, drugs, self-harm, food, etc).

If you have a dissociative disorder, you may be triggered to disconnect from yourself or switch into parts of self that used to dominate when you were growing up.

Regardless, you can go in prepared, know what types of things might trigger you.

Look back at what has come up in the past, what’s been triggering and what other, healthy coping strategies you may have.

Are there people or subjects to avoid, ways to get a break, things you can bring to help you through?

Talk to your therapist, talk to your partner, get support.

Sadie stayed dry this weekend. Did you?☔️🐾🌧️💜
11/17/2025

Sadie stayed dry this weekend. Did you?

☔️🐾🌧️💜

Window of Tolerance This term was originally coined by Dr. Dan Siegel, to describe the optimal zone of arousal in which ...
11/15/2025

Window of Tolerance

This term was originally coined by Dr. Dan Siegel, to describe the optimal zone of arousal in which a person is able to function most effectively.

When you are in this zone you are able to effectively able to take in and process information and respond to the demands of everyday life without too much difficulty.

When we are outside this zone it is difficult to take in information, think rationally and make healthy decisions.

When a person is experiencing hyper-arousal, they are in a state of fight or flight. Their system is revved up and they may be experiencing anxiety/panic or anger, racing thoughts, and hypervigilance.

When a person is experiencing hypo-arousal, they are in a state of freeze. Their nervous system is in shut down and they may be experiencing emotional numbing, mind going blank, dissociation, or paralysis.

When there has been chronic traumatic experiences and stress our window of tolerance shrinks, so that it take less to throw us into hypo or hyper-arousal.

Therapy, self-care, mindfulness practices and yoga can all help widen the window of tolerance so that you can handle more without overwhelming your system.


This week is Transgender Awareness Week, which culminates in Thursday’s Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR).TDOR was e...
11/14/2025

This week is Transgender Awareness Week, which culminates in Thursday’s Transgender Day of Remembrance (TDOR).

TDOR was established by trans advocate Gwendolyn Ann Smith as a vigil to honor Rita Hester, a transgender woman who was killed in 1998.

This Day of Remembrance is when we remember the trans and gender diverse individuals lost to violence over the past year. As the visibility of trans folx has increased and the current administration has disproportionately targeted this community, so has the violence against them.

Participate in TDOR by attending or organizing a vigil on November 20 to honor all those whose lives were lost to anti-transgender violence this year.

It is so incredibly important that this week of awareness ends with the Day of Remembrance, because awareness and visibility without active protection of civil liberties, activism and action, leaves trans and non-binary folx more vulnerable.

I am tired of saying how each year has seen an unprecedented number of deaths of trans and gender diverse folx.

Visibility and awareness are important first steps, as lack of awareness leaves much too much room for misunderstandings, bias and prejudice. And our BIPOC trans women and femmes are the ones suffering.


It is well past time to demand justice for trans and gender diverse people in life and not just honor them in death.

It is time for those of us in positions of power and privilege to use those resources to up-lift others and fight for their rights and safety.


Healing is not about never being triggered again.This is because bad things, scary things, and worrisome things continue...
11/13/2025

Healing is not about never being triggered again.

This is because bad things, scary things, and worrisome things continue to occur in our lives.



(Just look around at the world right now)

If we are healing, we acknowledge this fact of life. It is natural to react to such things.

Otherwise we are practicing toxic positivity.

Healing is being able to respond to our triggers with compassion and healthy coping skills.

11/11/2025

Words of wisdom. ♥️

Previously I posted about dissociation as a symptom or subjective experience. Today, I want to go over the types of Diss...
11/10/2025

Previously I posted about dissociation as a symptom or subjective experience.

Today, I want to go over the types of Dissociative Disorders that we diagnose:
Depersonalization / Derealization Disorder
Dissociative Amnesia
Dissociative Identity Disorder

Depersonalization Disorder:
This involves a sense of detachment from self.

It may be experienced as being an observer of yourself, or of your actions, feelings, and thoughts.

Derealization Disorder:
This involves a sense of detachment from the people & things around you.

Things may seem foggy or dreamlike, time may slow down or sped up, & the world may seem unreal.

You may experience only depersonalization or derealization or you may experience both.

These symptoms may last only a few moments or may come & go over many years.

It is estimated that 1-2% of the population experiences a Depersonalization/Derealization Disorder.

Dissociative Amnesia
This involves memory loss that's more severe than normal forgetfulness & that can't be explained by a medical condition.

You can't recall information about yourself or events & people in your life.

These symptoms can be specific to events in a certain time, such as during a traumatic event.

More rarely, it can involve complete loss of memory about yourself.

This may sometimes involve travel or confused wandering away from your life (dissociative fugue).

An episode of amnesia usually occurs suddenly & may last minutes, hours, or rarely, months or years.

It is estimated that 1-2.6% of the population experiences a Dissociative Amnesia.

And although it is true that these dissociative disorders are rare, they occur at rate equal to or higher than the rate of Schizophrenia in the general population.

Dissociative Identity Disorder
This is a big one and I will be posting more in coming posts

In the song Defying Gravity, from the musical Wicket, Elphaba (the Wicked Witch of the West) sings:I'm through accepting...
11/08/2025

In the song Defying Gravity, from the musical Wicket, Elphaba (the Wicked Witch of the West) sings:

I'm through accepting limits
'Cuz someone says they're so
Some things I cannot change
But till I try, I'll never know!
Too long I've been afraid of
Losing love I guess I've lost
Well, if that's love
It comes at much too high a cost!

To me this speaks so much to the healing process as we begin to unlearn and let go of the toxic messages we learned about ourselves and our limits. And I think that’s why this musical moves so many of us.

Intersex Day of RemembranceNovember 8th is a day to raise awareness about the human rights issues faced by intersex peop...
11/07/2025

Intersex Day of Remembrance

November 8th is a day to raise awareness about the human rights issues faced by intersex people.

It is dedicated to remembering victims of abuse, celebrating progress, and advocating for bodily autonomy, legal protections, and an end to harmful medical practices.

The date is also significant as it’s the birthday of Herculine Barbin, a 19th-century French intersex individual whose story highlights the discrimination and medical violence intersex people have historically faced.

Intersex is the ‘I’ in LGBTQIA+

Not all intersex folks identify as intersex.

Intersex folks can hold any gender identity or sexual orientation.

Up to 2% of the population is intersex.

Intersex differences can include variations in chromosomes, genes, external genit-lia, internal reproductive organs, hormones, or secondary s-x characteristics (like body hair).

Historically, doctors were taught to determine the s-x of an intersex infant based on the length of the part of their anatomy that would be classified as either a p-nis or a cl-toris.

So, a child was categorized as male if this body part was longer than an inch.

Doctors often recommend surgery to make intersex children's genit-ls appear more traditionally male or female.

This still happens today.

These surgeries are NOT medically necessary, they're strictly cosmetic.

These surgeries are painful & done on very young bodies without their consent.

This is a human rights violation. The medical procedures themselves can lead to trauma, as well as the further harm caused when these surgeries don’t align with the child’s identity.

There is a movement fighting for intersex rights to self-identify & not have surgeries before they can possibly consent

More information on legislation in your state can be found at www.interACTadvocates.org

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