Doorish Counseling

09/20/2025

There are no manuals for the construction of the individual you would like to become. You are the only one who can decide this and take up the lifetime of work that it demands. This is a wonderful privilege and such an exciting adventure. To grow into the person that your deepest longing desires is a great blessing. If you can find a creative harmony between your soul and your life, you will have found something infinitely precious. You may not be able to do much about the great problems of the world or to change the situation you are in, but if you can awaken the eternal beauty and light of your soul, you will bring light wherever you go. The gift of life is given to us for ourselves and also to bring peace, courage, and compassion to others.

JOHN O'DONOHUE

Excerpt from his book, Eternal Echoes
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County Kerry, Ireland
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09/02/2025

When we over-identify with emotions, we suffer more. But mindfulness and self-compassion help us relate to our feelings without becoming them—holding them with care.

Next time a strong emotion comes up, pause and say: “This is a moment of suffering. May I be kind to myself. And then rest in the kindness.” Notice the shift.

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Drawing, painting or sculpting with clay can have major benefits for our mental well-being and help reduce anxiety and stress.

04/15/2025

Grief is the experience of being changed by loss. It says to us, "There was a 'before this happened' and an 'after this happened.' I will move forward, but I will never be the same."

Writing about our difficult emotions, including grief, can help us move forward in healthy ways. When we put our difficult experiences into language, research shows that it has an organizing effect. It allows us to see not only the difficult parts of the experience, but what we might have learned or gained, and it helps us to process it.

Grief changes us. It rewrites us. And we in turn rewrite our lives with it.

04/12/2025

03/29/2025

Recently, green card and visa holders have been facing tougher scrutiny at airports. Immigration attorneys give tips on how reduce the chances of running into problems while traveling.

03/25/2025

03/15/2025

Most relationship problems aren’t meant to be solved, they’re meant to be managed. Dr. John Gottman’s research shows that 69% of relationship conflicts are perpetual, meaning they won’t go away no matter how much you try to “fix” them. Instead of letting these differences create distance, successful couples focus on understanding each other and creating a dialogue around their recurring disagreements.

One key? Approach conflict with curiosity, not criticism. By listening, validating emotions, and making space for each other’s perspectives, you build a foundation of trust and connection, even when you disagree.

03/12/2025

Here's a secret: self-compassion does not make you weak or lazy.

There's a misconception that you need to be tough on yourself to maintain focus as you move toward your goals. On the contrary, research shows that self-compassionate people aim just as high as self-critical people do. The difference is that self-compassionate people don't fall apart when, as sometimes happens, they don't meet their desired result.

Instead of expecting your disparaging inner critic to be waiting in the wings if you fail, turn instead to offer yourself words of kindness and support while you work your way toward your goal.

03/07/2025