Anna Buchanan Counseling PLLC -Individual and Couples Therapy

12/07/2025

This is probably why the Let Them approach doesn’t work for everyone—especially those of living with complex PTSD. If you’ve picked up the book and felt more frustration than peace, you’re not alone.

C-PTSD creates patterns of hypervigilance and deep-rooted protective responses, and simply “letting people” act however they want can feel unsafe, dismissive, or even retraumatizing.
Stay grounded, and keep nurturing the parts of yourself that were hurt repeatedly. You deserve approaches that honor your nervous system, not overwhelm it.

12/03/2025

Good reminders for any holiday season!

11/02/2025

We don’t have to fix it. We just have to be there.

10/15/2025

Real growth doesn’t happen overnight. It happens in small, consistent moments of care....when you pause before reacting, choose to listen instead of defend, or reach for your partner even after disconnection.

These are the seeds that build trust, safety, and secure love. You don’t have to get it right every time. What matters is showing up with intention, again and again.

The good news? You can start anew the very next time you interact with your partner.

10/06/2025

10/05/2025

Though our paths are many and our stories our own, the deep longing to be seen, to be loved, and to belong is the thread that weaves us together.

10/05/2025

Though our paths are many and our stories our own, the deep longing to be seen, to be loved, and to belong is the thread that weaves us together. ❤️

09/07/2025

Healing takes time — and sometimes, it takes change too.

Healing starts from the inside, but it often shows up in the small choices we make every day. You might want to take better care of yourself, set boundaries, or try new habits — but actually making those changes can feel uncomfortable or even scary.

That’s because after hard or traumatic experiences, your nervous system is wired to prioritize safety. Feeling stuck or afraid of change is completely normal.

The key is to start small. Tiny shifts add up. One small change, one supportive habit, one new way of caring for yourself — when you're ready.
If you're feeling anxious, depleted, or on edge, know that your body is responding to chronic stress. Even if you’re doing the basics (sleep, food, movement), it might help to try body-based practices that support your nervous system.

Things like humming, cold water on your face, gentle movement, shaking out tension, or breathing slowly with your hand on your chest can send your body a message that it’s safe. These small actions can make a big difference.

This isn’t a season for pushing — it’s a season for nervous system repair. Lower the bar. Rest more. Ask for help. Be kind to yourself.

The nervous system doesn’t heal through force; it heals through consistent messages of safety, gentleness, and slowness.

If talk therapy or trauma-informed support feels right for you, I offer complimentary consultations here:

https://anna-buchanan.clientsecure.me