Neurodiverging

04/09/2026

Are you, like me, someone we could lovingly label "consistently inconsistent?"

When I was hosting our open house for the Aligned Momentum Circle on Monday, one of our attendees had a great question which boiled down to:

"I’m worried I'll join the Circle and then I won’t stay consistent."

If you're worried about the same thing, here's my response...
..Humans are not machines. We are inherently inconsistent because we are adapted to respond to a set of inconsistent environments. So, we're inconsistent on purpose, by natural design, and that's not something we need to shame ourselves about.

How does that apply to the Circle?

One of the core assumptions inside this space is that your consistency will fluctuate.

You are not expected to show up perfectly or maintain the same level of engagement all the time.

The focus is actually on what happens when you don’t show up, or when things fall off.

How do you return? How do you re-engage without shame? How do you adjust instead of abandoning the process entirely? That’s a big part of the work.

So if you're concerned that you “might struggle with consistency,” that’s actually something this space is designed to support, not something that disqualifies you.

Comment "Momentum" and I'll send you the link to learn more about the Aligned Momentum Circle. Early bird enrollment closes Friday night.

04/07/2026

Looking for your next big move toward more regulation and momentum?

Allow me to introduce The Aligned Momentum Circle, my year-long coaching and community space designed for adults who want consistent support while they build regulation, self-trust, and steady momentum in their lives.

Inside the container we focus on three things:

Coaching - Monthly group sessions with me where we apply these ideas to real situations in your life.

Practice - Simple daily and weekly rhythms that help you integrate and values-based action.

Community - A space where members share reflections, ask questions, and support each other’s progress.

The goal is not to force change through discipline. The goal is to create an environment where new patterns can emerge naturally through practice and relationship.

If this kind of support feels meaningful to you, enrollment is now open through Friday, April 10th.

You can read more about the container and see whether it feels like the right fit here: https://learn.neurodiverging.com/aligned-momenum-early-bird

DM me with any questions or just to chat :) And wherever you are on your journey, I'm glad you're here!

Embody Regulation. Stay Energized and Forward-Focused. A circle for neurodivergent adults.

04/02/2026

When was the last time you woke up as a completely different type of person than you were last month?

Let's imagine: on April 23rd, when you wake up, you'll be someone who meal plans, puts the dishes away, never again experiences social anxiety, and confidently chases the dream job (or the paid artist retreat)...

Seems wonderful, but pretty unlikely, wouldn't you say? Not impossible, but not the most common thing either.

And yet, most transformative coaching programs last just a few weeks or (maybe) a few months! Is that really enough time for significant change?

I've been in the neurodivergent coaching space since 2020. I've offered plenty of programs, with plenty of amazing client results. There are always folks who blow it out of the water in just a month.

And, there are always folks who need more time to process, more time to test small changes, more time to adapt their learnings to find what works for their unique lives, or simply more accountability and support.

In the coaching programs I've personally plunked down money for, I've been both of those people! Sometimes change is super quick, and sometimes the most meaningful changes started showing up months into the process of doing the work.

It can take time for coach and client to notice patterns clearly. It takes time to build trust with other people. It takes time to experiment with new behaviors and see what actually works for your life.

But when the support of the coaching container disappears too quickly, many people lose the space where those experiments were happening, and then life gets in the way and they're not able to keep making progress on their own. I've seen it happen so many times, and it's so deeply frustrating for all of us, because they were doing it! And they would have kept doing it if they'd just had more support time.

That frustration led me to design something different: a coaching and community container where neurodivergent adults can practice regulation, self-trust, and values-based action over the course of a full year.

NO intense pressure or strict productivity systems - we're modeling consistent reflection, shared learning, and supportive accountability instead.

Over the next few days, I'll share a little more about what that space looks like and the kinds of changes people tend to experience when they stay in this work long enough for it to settle into their lives.

Early bird spaces are available now. If you think this might be a thing you've been looking for, press reply and tell me: What's one recurring life challenge that you'd LOVE to get solved in this kind of container?

Let's have an honest conversation about what support could look like for you, without any weird sales energy.

03/18/2026

When I was a kid, I built these wooden 3-D dinosaur models. The were finicky and took forever for me (an undiagnosed dyspraxic), and I loved them. I was generally thrifty and saved most of my money, but I felt barely a speck of guilt at plopping down money on a dinosaur.

This picture's from Amazon, but I swear I had almost that exact pterosaur* over my bed for years. I painted it teal. The stegosaurus lived on my bookshelf next to my Tamora Pierce novels, and the parasaurolophus lived in my trophy cabinet with many other special objects that were not trophies. I think I had a triceratops too, but sadly don't remember where in my room it spent its life.

Another big piece of this story of child Danielle: I was constantly late with homework, messily dressed because I didn't have a laundry system, forgot to eat breakfast unless my younger sister made and handed me a bagel in the morning... so I got told I was lazy, unmotivated, distracted, just not trying, basically every day.

So, I grew up believing it! "I, Danielle, am unmotivated, because I must be, because everybody says so." This story didn't start to shift for me until I got my autism diagnosis (the first of many neurodivergent labels, actually - I think we're up to 6ish now?) when I was about 30. That's 30 years of believing I was an unmotivated person, because it was what I was told by almost every adult in my life over and over again.

But look at those model dinosaurs! Think about how much focused attention, care, and planning goes into making one of those, especially for a dyspraxic, nearsighted 12 year-old with incredibly poor visual memory and sensory challenges.

I was never unmotivated. I was undiagnosed (and therefore unsupported), constantly dysregulated, struggling with interoception difficulties, and masking my way through.

Now, I know the truth. I'm motivated. I'm the kind of person who can get things done... if I'm supported. And, I bet you are, too, simply because you're here, trying to learn, trying to implement, trying to make things change.

You're motivated, but you maybe aren't supported yet. One of the most useful questions people like us can ask is, “What kind of support can help my nervous system stay steady enough to keep going?”

Over the next few weeks I want to share a little more about what I’ve learned from working with hundreds of neurodivergent adults about regulation, support, and sustainable momentum.

Because once you start looking at change through this lens, a lot of things that used to feel confusing begin to make sense.

*I know a pterosaur's not a dinosaur technically, but "dinosaur" is a convenient word!

03/13/2026

Danielle, founder of Neurodiverging here.

I sometimes tell myself that I should be used to what being means in our world by now.

It’s been more than ten years since I was diagnosed as , and it's often felt like a never-ending cascade of other labels since then. I’ve done the therapy. I’ve unpacked the shame. I’ve learned my patterns and built systems and skills that actually work for my brain. By most external measures, I’m “good at this” now.

And yet...

A couple of weeks ago, I received two new medical diagnoses. One of them probably means being on medication for the rest of my life.

Even with all the tools, all the self-knowledge, all the compassion I’ve practiced for a decade, news like that can stir up old beliefs and fear loops I thought I’d already outgrown.

Like:
-Maybe my ambitions were only possible because my body and brain were cooperating, and now they won’t.

-What if the stress of managing this new-to-me thing sends me sliding back into old bad habits?

And that one that's always such a punch-in-the-guts:
-What if this long list of conditions and diseases means I'll never be good enough?

That’s internalized doing what it does best: suggesting that difficulty equals failure, and that support needs or limitations somehow erase capacity.

The difference now for me isn’t that those thoughts don’t show up. It’s that they don’t get to run the show.

Because I know, deep in my body, not just intellectually, that I’ve spent years building and life skills for moments exactly like this. I know how to slow down without giving up. I know how to adjust without abandoning myself. I know how to keep moving toward what matters, even when the path changes.

This is what unlearning internalized ableism actually looks like in real life. It's not toxic positivity or pretending it doesn't hurt, but trusting that needing care, medication, rest, or accommodation doesn’t cancel your agency, your dreams, or your future.

You’re not failing because things got hard again. You’re just practicing what you’ve been learning all along.

So think about it: how might your current challenges be asking for adaptation rather than abandonment of your goals?

03/08/2026

The Real Root of Executive Dysfunction:
Why You’re Not Broken, and What’s Actually Interfering in Your Process

A Live Workshop for Neurodivergent Adults with Coach Danielle Sullivan
Tuesday March 10th. 11AM-12:30PM MDT
(Begins 10AM PDT/ 1PM EDT/ 5PM BST)

Grab your ticket: https://learn.neurodiverging.com/root

03/04/2026

Our free monthly Neurodivergent Parent Affinity Group, which lives inside our free community, is happening again this Saturday, March 7th at 10AM Mountain Time US. I'd love to see you there! To join, please join the free community, head to events, and RSVP to the meeting to get the Zoom info.
All the info -> https://www.neurodiverging.com/parent-peer-support-group

02/25/2026

Go to Amy if you need help with the puberty or sexuality chats!

Learn how to talk to your autistic, ADHD, or neurodivergent child about healthy sexuality, puberty, reproduction, relationships and so much more. This course is specifically created for parents of neurodivergent children and addresses their specific (and special) needs.

02/18/2026

Are you ready to stop learning regulation and start living inside of it instead?

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02/10/2026

If you've been struggling with shame and a loud inner critic, it's time to unpack your internalized ableism. Learn more about our 6-week group coaching program designed to help you unpack your internalized ableism: https://learn.neurodiverging.com/find-your-flow. Read the rest of the article here about what internalized ableism is on our website: https://www.neurodiverging.com/what-is-internalized-ableism-neurodivergent-people-need-to-know/

02/04/2026

Wondering if our Parent Affinity Group is a good fit for you? If you're a parent who is looking for a space where people understand and support you, then this group is a good fit for you! This is a space where you don't have to explain the sensory stuff, the executive dysfunction, or the guilt that comes with being both overstimulated and head-over-heels for your kids. Learn how to join at: https://www.neurodiverging.com/parent-peer-support-group/.

12/15/2025

This time of year, there are a lot of gatherings to attend, like family dinners, getting together with friends, and parties. These events can make your loved ones feel overwhelmed. Learn how to best support your autistic loved ones by creating a positive, calm environment. https://www.neurodiverging.com/supporting-autistic-loved-ones-during-holiday-parties/