01/20/2026
The “Amorphous” Fear: When kids sense a storm but don’t have a map. ⛈️🧭
When a family member is sick, we often think we’re protecting our kids by keeping the details vague. But as Abigail Gellene-Beaudoin, LCSW explains, kids are master “gap-fillers.”
They notice that Mom is acting different. They see that Dad is stressed. They feel the tension in the “Internal Weather” of the home, but without definitive information, they start to fill the blanks themselves—often with stories that are much scarier than the truth.
This is Anticipatory Grief. It doesn’t always look like sadness; it often looks like:
📍 Increased Opposition: A desperate search for control in a world that feels chaotic.
📍 Anxiety & Clinginess: Fear of what else might change.
📍 Acting Out: Externalizing the “amorphous” stress they can’t yet name.
Moving from Overwhelmed to Attuned means recognizing that their “behavior” is actually a request for information and security.
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