10/23/2017
HOW YOU CAN END R**E CULTURE
This is a list of actionable items every man can take to stop r**e culture where it starts, wherever he sees it.
- be aware of your inherent power in situations and use it to protect women, Especially by talking to other men
- stop thinking that because you're also marginalized or a survivor that you cannot inflict pain or oppress women
- talk to your friend who's "kind of a creep"
- don't talk over women
- don't use your "feminism" as a way to get women to trust you. show us in your day-to-day life, not in your self-congratulatory social media
- when you see another guy talk over a woman say "hey, she was saying something"
- learn to read a room
- don't call women crazy
- don't touch women you don't know, and honestly, ask yourself why you feel the need to touch women in general
- do you feel that any woman on earth owes you something? she doesn't. even if you're like "hm but what about basic respect" ask yourself if you've shown her the same
- don't send pictures of your p***s
- if a woman says no to a date, don't ask her again
- if a woman has not given an enthusiastic "yes" to s*x, back. off.
- if a woman is really drunk, she cannot consent to you and she Also cannot consent to your buddy who seems to be trying something. your buddy is your responsibility-so say something and intervene
- if you do the right thing, don't expect praise or payment or a pat on the back or even a thank-you from that woman. congratulations. you were baseline decent
- involve women in your creative projects, then let them have equal part in them
- don't make misogynistic jokes
- don't expect women to be "nice" or "cute" and don't get upset when they aren't those things
- don't make assumptions about women's intelligence, capabilities, or desires based on how she dresses
- apologize when you mess up Without giving an excuse. and yes, "the reason" is also an excuse
- pay women as much as you pay men
- if a woman tells you that you messed up, and you feel bad, don't put it on that woman to make you feel better. apologize without qualification and then go away
- don't punish women for witnessing your vulnerability
- don't get defensive when you get called out
- don't need to literally witness a man being horrible in order to believe that he's horrible. TRUST AND BELIEVE WOMEN
- don't use your power to get women's attention/company/s*x/etc
- if you get asked to be on a panel/team and see that it's all men, say something. maybe even refuse the spot! and tell them Why
- stop thinking about how women's pain makes YOU feel pain
- don't read a list like this and think that most of these don't apply to you
-- adapted from a post by Nicole Silverberg