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Join us on 3/5 for a free webinar to support the “should I stay or should I go” choice point.I am a licensed psychothera...
02/26/2026

Join us on 3/5 for a free webinar to support the “should I stay or should I go” choice point.

I am a licensed psychotherapist and the author of “Mend or Move On.” Together with verified divorce coach, Dr. Stefanie Huff, we will:

✔️answer your questions
✔️talk about what “toxic” really means
✔️discuss when repair is possible
✔️help you learn how to stay safe during separation
✔️cover the mindset traps that keep you stuck

Bring your questions, leave with answers.
We’re here to support you.

Register (for free) here:
https://www.figurelifeout.com/Q&A?utm_source=ig&utm_medium=social&utm_content=link_in_bio

Order my book “Mend or Move On” here:
https://a.co/d/0bZ1XYRP

See you on March 5!

❤️Kate

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02/26/2026

Why your healthy partner becomes the target for your familiy’s hatred & rejection:

Toxic family hates when you choose a healthy partner because it threatens their dysfunctional machine that has been running for generations — and ultimately works for them. Your partner’s health threatens the system by acting as a mirror for the deep dysfunction the family refuses to see and own. This is why your healthy partner becomes the target for your family’s hatred and rejection.

Here’s the sweetest part, though: you choosing a healthy partner indicates your health and drive towards something more stable, safe, and positive than your family ever taught you. This is why changemakers and cycle breakers so often develop healthy relationships outside the family that the family itself could never cultivate.

💬If this is you, if you’ve chosen a healthy partner, drop a 🔥 in the comments. Cycle breakers, change makers, I see you!

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📖 FOR HELP with your most unhealthy relationships, including Family, read “Mend or Move On.” LINK in BIO.

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02/25/2026

The person who harms you will tell you many lies to keep you stuck, small, compliant, and trapped in a relationship that is unhealthy:

➡️They’ll tell you you don’t deserve better
⭐️)You do.)

➡️They’ll tell you it’s all your fault
⭐️(It’s not.)

➡️They’ll tell you you must silence your voice
⭐️(You mustn’t.)

➡️They’ll tell you this is just the way it is
⭐️(It doesn’t have to be.)

➡️They’ll tell you things will never change
⭐️(You must be the change maker)

🔥Share this with someone who is breaking free🔥

📖Read “Mend or Move On” for help.

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02/24/2026

Emotional intelligence is sometimes the product of unhealthy, checked out parents who didn’t model healthy relationships… so you go out there and build a totally different (better) paradigm for yourself.

Relatable? Drop a 🔥 if this is you.
Tag or share with a cycle breaker in your life.

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📖⭐️The book to help you with your most challenging relationships… “Mend or Move On.” LINK in BIO and everywhere books are sold.

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02/23/2026

Manipulation & Gaslighting: HOT TOPICS! But do you know what they really mean and why they’re so harmful in relationships?

I am Kate King, I’m a licensed therapist.
Manipulation (and gaslighting, which is a subset of manipulation) can be the most toxic element in a dysfunctional relationship. They deeply and profoundly mess with the trust between people, as well as a person’s trust with their Self. This hijacks their nervous system and makes them feel deeply unsafe in a way that they may not be able to put their finger on — which results in further unsafety, because they can’t figure out why they’re unsafe. Do you follow?

MANIPULATION is when someone nudges you toward a belief or an action that you wouldn’t have normally chosen for yourself, but that ultimately benefits their needs & agenda. It’s when they mess with your mind to coerce you into choosing something or directing your energy in a way that suits them rather than you.

GASLIGHTING is a form of manipulation.
It is when someone messes with your mind to the extent where you no longer believe that your reality is real. It is a profound state of confusion used to benefit the ends of another person. The thing you perceived as real, they convince is not. And they convince you that what they say, think and believe is more real than what you say, think, or believe.

There are many forms of manipulation. Gaslighting is just one of them. No form of manipulation in relationships is ever healthy or safe. Your nervous system will tell you that at a deep level. When trust is derailed in such a way because your mind has been messed with by the agenda and coercion of another person, it’s difficult to come back from that.

📖For help navigating your most complex, messy relationships, read “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

6 major misunderstandings between estranged parents and their adult children, from the perspective of an almost 20-year ...
02/23/2026

6 major misunderstandings between estranged parents and their adult children, from the perspective of an almost 20-year licenses therapist:

➡️Adult children OWE their parents something (loyalty, gratitude, etc)?
🔥No, a child owes their parent nothing.

➡️Maintaining “family” is more important than honoring health, safety, wellbeing
🔥No, your health, safety, and wellbeing are the most impure pretext at any cost.

➡️No contact is the adult child disrespecting their elders
🔥No, making distance is about safety and protection. It has nothing to do with disrespect.

➡️No contact & estrangement is betrayal
🔥No, it is self-protection and self-preservation.

➡️Grandparents have a “right” to access their grandchildren
🔥Wrong. Parents are the gatekeepers for their children. It is healthy to protect your children from those who harmed you.

➡️The adult child’s spouse is the issue
🔥No. The issue likely long precedes the spouse. They are likely the recipient of unfair and unhealthy projections from the family system.

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📖For help with your unhealthy family relationships, and others, read “Mend or Move On.” Order here: https://a.co/d/0dQeM2Ta

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02/22/2026

A major misunderstanding between estranged parents and their adult children is that estranged parents often feel their children OWE THEM gratitude, loyalty, (and more…) for giving them life and parenting them.

“I gave you life, I sacrificed so much, so you owe me…”

💬💬Modern adult children… comment your thoughts and feelings about this…

📖✨FOR HELP navigating your most challenging family relationships, and others, read “Mend or Move On.” Order here: https://a.co/d/0dQeM2Ta

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02/21/2026

They want to be understood, but they don’t care about understanding you—your thoughts, feelings, experiences — OH, unless it serves them in some way. Then they’re super interested in understanding you…

Add this to your list of warning signs in unhealthy relationships. Once you know, you can more easily sidestep those relationships doozys and instead find connections that support and nourish you.

⭐️📖FOR HELP with your most challenging relationships, read “Mend or Move On.”
Order here: https://a.co/d/0dQeM2Ta

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02/20/2026

There are 7 traps people get stuck in when a toxic relationship is involved. I’ve seen this repeatedly in my clinical practice, and I explain it in depth in my book “Mend or Move On,” but here’s a quick rundown:

⭐️1. BUY IN
When you follow the narrative that’s given to you without questioning it - you buy in to the expectations, pressures, and obligations that you were fed like “this is just how we do things in this family” or “this is what a wife does for her spouse.”

⭐️2. COMFORT
When you’re so comfortable with the dysfunction that it has become normal and you would rather stay in the familiarity of the “known” than risk the unfamiliar “unknown” - even if it could be healthier.

⭐️3. POWERLESSNESS
When you surrender your voice and personal agency and allow yourself to be made small, compliant, and submissive. This often happens within dynamics based on power and control.

⭐️4. FALSE OWNERSHIP
Often this happens with scapegoats - one person carries all of the blame for the relationship issues and believes it is completely on them to fix/change themselves to make the dynamic better. (Psst: it’s never ALL on one person)

⭐️5. UNHEALED TRAUMA
Unhealed trauma influences the way you participate in a relationship. As long as you’re relating through the filter of your unhealed wounds you’ll project that shadow material into the dynamic and perpetuate those unhealthy patterns.

⭐️6. AVOIDANCE
This happens when someone is unwilling to admit or acknowledge that there is a problem, and they avoid doing the work to identify, own, and heal it. Hard conversations are not had, courage is not accessed, and healing cannot happen.

⭐️7. CODEPENDENCY
When you’re so blurred with another that you lack knowing where they end and you begin - and you’re only ok if they’re ok. You have lost your autonomy and independence by blending with another.

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Want a deeper dive into these 7 Traps?
📖Read “Mend or Move On” for the full download. LINK in BIO & everywhere books are sold.

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02/19/2026

Toxic relationships are like an invisible cage—you can’t feel the bars until you press against them, and only then does it become evident how trapped you’ve been.

Especially in relationships based on manipulation and control, your smallness and compliance is what disempowers you and fuels the unhealthy dynamic.

At first when you push against the bars, they will resist and push back. That’s the design of the dysfunction. But if you keep pushing, you’ll realize that you can free yourself.

Keep pushing, get the support you need.
You deserve freedom.

🔥 Send this to someone who’s breaking free.

📖For help with your most challenging relationships, read “Mend or Move On.”
Order: https://a.co/d/03hYhTcu

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02/18/2026

I’ll get personal with you today… I’m a licensed therapist, AND I have estrangement in my family. I have fostered repair with certain family members who I was no contact with, and I have not been able to with others.

There’s one defining factor that made a repair possible in my experience: we both came to the table with accountability, curiosity, and compassion. We both did our own work, owned our parts in what went wrong in the relationship, and showed up without blaming or accusation. This made repair possible.

On the flipside, the people who I remain no contact with— and will likely remain no contact with long-term because there seems no evidence of change— proved unable to take accountability, release their blame, release their narrative about me as the villain, refused compassion and curiosity, and insisted on keeping their hearts closed and attached to their narrative.
With that kind of perspective, healing is not possible.

I share my personal experience to let you know you’re not alone. I also blend my personal experience with my clinical knowledge and research in my new book “Mend or Move On.”

Estrangement and no contact is tough.
It’s complex, and nuanced.

In some cases, there is no repair possible, but in others it is. The piece about willingness to listen, grow, and change makes all the difference.

⭐️⭐️⭐️

📖For help with your most challenging relationships with family and other others, read “Mend or Move On.”
Order: https://a.co/d/03hYhTcu

02/17/2026

No contact is a big deal. If you chose this path you know you couldn’t take it anymore — whatever was happening in the relationship: the harm, cruelty, dysfunction… you said no. That doesn’t make you dramatic, selfish, or punishing. It makes you strong, empowered, and knowing of your worth.

💬drop a ❤️if this hits home.
Tag someone who’s walking the healing path.

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📖 For help with your most challenging relationships, read “Mend or Move On.”
Order: https://a.co/d/03hYhTcu

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