The Radiant Life Project

12/25/2025

I don’t know what’s happening for you… and it doesn’t matter, because I’m sending love no matter what.

You’re not alone. You’re doing big work. Keep going.

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⭐️📖 I have books to support your growth inside of yourself and with others. Find them at my LINK in BIO.

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12/24/2025

My book is landing in people’s hands! Khara Croswaite Brindle wrote a beautiful endorsement for me, for which I am deeply grateful.

Get your copy: https://theradiantlifeproject.com/mend-or-move-on-book -vendors

❤️🙏May it help guide and support you as you navigate your most challenging bonds.

Honored to have been an advanced reader of this book, set to release January 13th 2026! Kate King puts her heart into every book she writes, including this one! I'm quoted on the back as saying "For anyone questioning the health of their relationships, including the need for communication and boundaries, King approaches the complexity of connection with compassion and an ongoing invitation to stay curious. As an art therapist, King takes this self-help book to another level with engaging prompts for enhanced self-discovery and insight." Grab your copy at https://a.co/d/fAl73Uw

12/24/2025

As the adult of a new generation, you get to decide what you pass along to your children and what ends with you.

A cycle breaking mother has learned from her own experiences what not to do. She knows what kind of parenting harms rather than heals. She stands strong and is clear that protecting her children means shielding them from harmful, dysfunctional patterns and behaviors that may have lived in a lineage for generations.

And because of her, they won’t be passed down.

To all the cycle breaking moms out there: I see you. I honor you. The work you are doing is infinitely important. Keep going.

12/23/2025

I’ve been talking about toxic families and holiday dynamics on news stations across the country, and on many podcasts lately.

Why?
Because it’s a HUGE issue for many people who want connection with family, but can’t find a healthy rhythm and don’t know how to navigate the dysfunction that seems like a fixture in their family.

✔️Sometimes it’s continued behavior and dynamics like this that lead to family estrangement.

✔️Sometimes people endure for years and decades until it takes a toll on their mental or physical health.

✔️Sometimes repair finally becomes possible when you say “I don’t want to do it like this anymore” and start having hard conversations for the betterment of everyone.

Healthy, happy, safe, same holidays are possible.
They may require:
🫶🏻 time boundaries
🫶🏻 limits on conversation topics
🫶🏻 honest communication about what doesn’t feel ok
🫶🏻 choosing not to attend certain events
🫶🏻 standing up for yourself and your needs
🫶🏻 consciously not repeating patterns and being mindful of how you co-create the dynamics that don’t work for you

You’re in charge of You this holiday.
If you truly embody that, what looks different?
How does it feel different?
👇🏼 Share in the comments 👇🏼

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📖✨ For help navigating your most challenging family & relationships, check out my book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

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12/22/2025

The holidays can be complex for those who are estranged form their parents and families. For some, it may be the happies, freest, most healthy holiday they’ve ever experienced, being cut off from harmful family members. For others it may feel laced with grief, confusion, and loneliness. There is no right or wrong way to navigate the holidays when you’re an estranged adult child, it’s about leaning towards what feels most supportive and nurturing for you.

As a therapist, these are a few things I want you to remember as you move through this season:
*You deserve to be treated with kindness and respect in every relationship, no exceptions.
*Keep moving forward towards people and experience that bring out the light in you.
*Freedom and peace are possible for you.
*Never give up on yourself. Keep choosing You.
*Protecting your children from people who hurt you is a healthy choice.
*It’s not your responsibility to manage other people’s reactions to your decisions.
*If you feel doubtful, confused or insecure about your choice to cut ties, remind yourself of how you came to that decision. Ask the loved ones who have supported you through your journey to remind you of your drive towards health and safety.

You are not alone. If this time of year feels challenging, be extra kind and loving to yourself and surround yourself with people and experiences that support your growth and health.

***** FOR HELP navigating your most challenging relationships, check out my new book "Mend or Move On" right here: https://theradiantlifeproject.com/mend-or-move-on-book

12/22/2025

The things estranged parents project blame an accusation for…

✔️your boundaries
✔️the healing work you do in therapy
✔️the healthy relationships in your life that help you see your family’s dysfunction
✔️the moments when you’re strong and clear
✔️your desire to live an independent life
✔️your efforts to break unhealthy cycles

if you’re dysfunctional, parent can’t see any of these things as healthy and positive growth, if they accuse and blame you for trying to break cycles and move your life in a healthier direction, maybe it’s not really a relationship with you that they want. Maybe it’s just control over you.

Worth thinking about…

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📖✨ For help with your most challenging relationships, find my book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

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12/21/2025

You learn how to do relationships from your parents - they’re the creators of your blueprint. So when you grow up with dysfunctional, toxic, unhealed parents, you may develop future relationships into adulthood based on the blueprint given to you by your parents that you always thought was “normal”… until you realized that it’s not normal at all to relate from dysfunction, codependency, unhealed trauma, and unhealthy patterns.

That’s where self-healing as an adult comes in. You can re-write that blueprint with intention, practice, and new levels of awareness. Therapy is great for this, as is any form of self-reflection and personal growth that resonates for you.

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⭐️📖 FOR HELP with your most challenging relationships, check out my book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

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12/20/2025

Fun interview all about relationship health vs dysfunction… how it exists in different dynamics, how it comes through over the holidays and beyond, and so much more.

Tune in for a great episode on the Francesca Luca Show all about the hot topics of *relationships*

🎧 — Listen here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6oEhPmEJZjuapspAQZBMOP?si=DZ9AqTbESzeCfBZr2nhqRw&pi=Ota1EukSTCa_A&t=538

⭐️📖 — Check out my new book on this exact topic here: https://theradiantlifeproject.com/mend-or-move-on-book -vendors

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12/20/2025

They’re in full support of your wins, but show no support along the way. This is a common dynamic in toxic relationships, and it can be hurtful and confusing.

When someone only shows up for you in the good moments of your life, but they’re scarce in the moments of your struggle or hardship, it is certainly a warning sign that the relationship may not be as deep, intimate, or close as you may want it to be.

If you can be honest with yourself, you will recognize the edges of what this relationship and the other person are capable of. You may realize the conditionality that is at play in the dynamic. It can hurt if you thought the relationship was deeper or more intimate than it truly is, especially if this person is a close family member who you wish could really be present for you.

If they are open to it conversations about how this feels for you, that could be beneficial for healing. If they are not open to it, simply being honest with yourself about the reality of the relationship may be all you need to either put the relationship in a lower category of importance in your life, or walk away from it if it is not contributing to your healthiest experience.

⭐️📖 For help with your most challenging relationships, find my new book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

12/19/2025

When you try your best to be the mom you never had, and it feels extra hard because nobody gave you a good model for what that really looks like…

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⭐️📖 For help with your toxic mom — or any other challenging relationship you may be navigating — check out my book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

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12/18/2025

They don’t cut ties from nowhere. They don’t walk away impulsively or for no good reason.

❤️‍🩹If they’re felt safe, loved, and respected they would stay.

❤️‍🩹If they’re felt there was a possibility for repair, they would stay.

❤️‍🩹If they’re felt there was hope for a healthy future together, they would stay.

Leaving relationships with family or other very close connections is incredibly difficult. It’s an impossible decision that most people do not take lightly. It is a painful path that takes strength and courage, so it is usually a last resort for people who have tried everything else.

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⭐️📖 FOR HELP with your most challenging relationships, read my new book “Mend or Move On” at my LINK in BIO.

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12/17/2025

A power-packed 5-minutes on Good Morning Washington in conversation about my new book and how to navigate toxic family over the holidays.

Interview here: https://wjla.com/good-morning-washington/navigate-holiday-family-tensions-insights-from-kate-kings-mend-or-move-on

For my new book: https://theradiantlifeproject.com/mend-or-move-on-book -vendors