Brynn Asarch, MA, MBA, LPC

01/22/2024

11/14/2023

In the landscape of love and intimacy, conflict isn't a problem—it's actually the path to deeper connection. 🌟

It's not about avoiding disagreements, but how we engage with them. Conflicts often arise from unmet desires and unspoken needs, signaling important issues at play.

Communicating your way through conflict is an art. 🎨 lts about learning to listen with curiosity and learning to speak from a place of vulnerability. It's in these honest exchanges that we truly connect.

Conflict isn't about winning or losing—it's a journey to mutual understanding and respect. It's about finding solutions that honor both of you. ✨

Let's reframe conflict as a teacher, not an adversary. It's through these moments we grow closer, weaving a stronger, more intimate relationship fabric. 🌀

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07/19/2023

With practice, we can see that our wounded child is not only us. Our wounded child may represent several generations. Our mother may have suffered throughout her life. Our father may have suffered. Perhaps our parents weren’t able to look after the wounded child in themselves. So when we’re embracing the wounded child in us, we are embracing all the wounded children in our past generations. This practice is not a practice for ourselves alone, but for numberless generations of ancestors and descendants.

~ Thich Nhat Hanh

Art: Anna Lee IG

12/07/2022

Emotional intelligence at its finest! 💛🤣🤣

11/30/2022

…And perhaps the same is true for the relationship we have with ourself. 💛✨

11/11/2022

How you respond to bids for connection can make or break your relationship. 💛✨

Psychologists and relationship experts John and Julie Gottman have studied more than 40,000 couples to identify the secrets to long-lasting marriages. Here is their No. 1 hack for building happy and successful relationships.

09/18/2022

Grief isn't just for death. It's also for the ending of friendships, the loss of dreams, prolonged feelings uncertainty, illness, concern for the earth... the list goes on.

How to Carry What Can't Be Fixed: A Journal for Grief

09/05/2022

1. How are we going to be together in a way that works for both of us?
2. How are we going to negotiate our needs?
3. When there is conflict or hurt, how are we going to move back into loving connection?

Continuing an argument for a long time will make it challenging to reach an agreement. The longer you are under stress, the fewer mental resources you will have to spare, and the more difficult it will be to stay emotionally regulated.

So set a time limit the next time you argue. 15 minutes is the absolute longest I would recommend, but you can (and may want to) shorten that limit.

If you haven’t resolved the issue during that period, repair hurt feelings and make sure you are both ok for the time being. Agree to return to the discussion when you are both better regulated.

07/26/2022

Empowering perspective for all the aspiring relationship aficionados out there! ✌️💛

In Terrence Real's new book, the renowned marriage and family therapist argues that our society's extreme focus on individualism comes with a cost: extreme disconnection from one another in our interpersonal relationships.

06/26/2022

Marriage is a collision of two imperfect beings who often drive each other to the brink... Before you throw in the towel, try some of these ideas!

The good news is that if you are willing to put effort into rescuing your marriage, there are things you can do that can give you a fresh start. Here are 10 things to try before giving up on your marriage, based on the work of Dr. John Gottman.

06/04/2022

Follow your heart, but take your brain with you!
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04/14/2022

It’s often the little things that end up mattering most…✨

The existence of love, trust, respect, and safety in a relationship is often dependent on moments you might write off as petty disagreements.