Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby Marriage counselor, psychologist and coach dedicated to your love, happiness and success. Access advice, articles and podcasts at www.GrowingSelf.com.
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"Like" to keep updates in your newsfeed! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby is the founder and clinical director of Growing Self Counseling and Coaching, based in Denver, Colorado. She's the author of "Exaholics: Breaking Your Addiction to an Ex Love," and the host of The Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. Learn more about Dr. Bobby and her practice at www.growingself.com.

We set goals for our careers, finances, health, and personal growth, yet somehow expect our relationships to thrive with...
12/16/2025

We set goals for our careers, finances, health, and personal growth, yet somehow expect our relationships to thrive without the same care, structure, and attention.

If 2026 is the year you want:
• More emotional closeness
• Fewer recurring conflicts
• Better communication
• Deeper trust, intimacy, and teamwork

Then it’s time to start intentionally setting couple goals with your love!

The strongest couples I’ve worked with don’t wait until something is “wrong.”

They ask brave questions before resentment builds.

Questions like:
👉 What do you need from me that you’re not getting?
👉 Where do we feel disconnected right now?
👉 What kind of relationship do we want to be building together this year?

Relationship growth isn’t about perfection.
It’s about willingness.
Willingness to be honest.
Willingness to be a little uncomfortable.
Willingness to grow together.

If you and your partner are willing to have courageous conversations about time, money, s*x, connection, and the future you can design a relationship that thrives in 2026.

So tell me, what are your couple goals for the new year?? Let me know in the comments!

🎧 Check out the full episode on Achieving Couple Goals on the Love Happiness and Success Podcast.

📌 Save this post to revisit with your partner.
💬 Share it with someone you love.
✨ And remember: strong relationships aren’t found, they’re built.

There comes a moment in every growth journey when the dream you once poured your heart into no longer feels like home. T...
12/12/2025

There comes a moment in every growth journey when the dream you once poured your heart into no longer feels like home.

That doesn’t mean you made a mistake. It means you’ve grown. Some dreams are meant to launch us forward, not carry us forever.

Releasing an outdated dream isn’t quitting. It’s choosing alignment. It’s making room for the life that fits who you are today, not who you were when you first imagined it.

When you let yourself evolve, you open the door to possibilities you couldn’t have seen from where you started.

If you’re standing at that crossroads, here are a few grounding steps to help you move through this transition with clarity and confidence:

🌿 1. Acknowledge the chapter you’re closing.
Give yourself credit for the courage, effort, and heart you invested. It mattered even if the dream didn’t become your final destination.

🌿 2. Get honest about what’s shifted.
Pay attention to what feels heavy, forced, or out of sync. These feelings are invitations to explore what’s changed within you.

🌿 3. Listen to your present self.
Ask: What feels meaningful now? What direction feels more alive, more aligned, more like the real me?

🌿 4. Let go with compassion.
You don’t have to push it away. You can simply release it with gratitude and trust that its purpose has been fulfilled.

🌿 5. Create space for what’s next.
Give your emerging dreams room to take shape. Even small steps toward curiosity and openness can spark a new chapter.

Your evolution is not a detour. It’s the path. Trust the season you’re in, and trust yourself to grow into the future that’s trying to meet you. ✨

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “How do I keep ending up with the same kind of person?”Most people don’t choose ...
12/03/2025

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “How do I keep ending up with the same kind of person?”

Most people don’t choose the wrong partners because they “like drama” or “have bad taste.” They choose them because they feel familiar. And familiar often feels like chemistry.

Real change begins when you start recognizing the patterns that keep pulling you back toward what’s comfortable… even when it’s not healthy.

Here’s the empowering part: You can rewire these patterns.

You can learn to choose someone safe, consistent, emotionally available, and aligned with your long-term goals.

You can build a love story that feels healthy, mutual, and secure.

Start by asking yourself:
❤️ What qualities am I most drawn to?
❤️ Which red flags do I tend to rationalize?
❤️ What would it feel like to choose someone who brings peace instead of chaos?

You deserve a relationship that feels like coming home.

You don’t need to “be merry.”You just need to make it through this season with your heart intact.If you’re crying in you...
12/02/2025

You don’t need to “be merry.”
You just need to make it through this season with your heart intact.

If you’re crying in your car between errands,
if you’re skipping the party you used to go to with them,
if the lights and songs feel like too much,
I want you to know that nothing’s wrong with you.

This is what grief feels like when the world won’t slow down for it. It’s what love looks like when it has nowhere else to go.

So this holiday, give yourself permission to heal quietly.
Mute the noise.
Say no when you need to.
Let the tears come when they need to.
Make a new ritual.
Write a letter you’ll never send.
Choose peace, even when it’s small.

You’re not broken. You’re breaking open.
And I promise, that’s where the light will find you again.

That’s the real love story. And I’m here to support you.

If my words resonated with you, I hope you join me for a free Heartbreak Recovery live coaching session.

Comment “Holiday” and I’ll share the link so you can join in on the next one.

I also share a deeper look into the step by step healing process on the full episode, “How to Survive a Breakup over the Holidays” on the Love, Happiness and Success podcast.

Save this post for when you need a reminder that you’re not alone. ❤️

Have you ever found yourself working so hard on something… but no matter what you do, it just doesn’t move forward? 😩Her...
10/22/2025

Have you ever found yourself working so hard on something… but no matter what you do, it just doesn’t move forward? 😩

Here’s the truth (thank you, Seth Godin 🙌):
There are two kinds of struggle and knowing the difference between them changes the experience completely.

🌀The Cul-de-Sac:
You’re going in circles. You can hustle, push, and give it everything, but you’re never going to move forward.

It’s a dead end. The best thing you can do? Get out as fast as you can.

⛰️ The Dip:
This is the hard part that actually leads somewhere. It’s uncomfortable, uphill, and sometimes awful, but if you keep climbing, it gets better. The effort pays off. The pain means growth.

The secret to success, fulfillment, and happiness is learning to tell when you’re in a dip (keep going) and when you’re in a cul-de-sac (walk away).

What about you?

Are you in a Dip right now, doing something hard but worthwhile?

Or are you stuck in a cul-de-sac, burning energy on something that’s never going to change?

Tell me what you’re going through! I’ll shed some light on which situation you might be experiencing.

Anger isn’t bad. It’s not toxic. It’s not shameful.In fact, healthy anger is empowering, energizing, and allows you to t...
10/21/2025

Anger isn’t bad. It’s not toxic. It’s not shameful.

In fact, healthy anger is empowering, energizing, and allows you to take positive action to protect yourself, set limits, or say no.

Anger is information.

It’s your BFF that lives inside you telling you when something isn’t right.

It shows you where your boundaries are — or where they should’ve been. (ouch)

It says, “I deserve better.” It lets you know what you will not tolerate ever again.

And yeah… it’s energizing. 🔥

Because anger doesn’t want you to stay stuck. It wants you to take action.

Not destructive action. We do not act with anger. Our actions need to be positive and productive, and constructive.
But anger gives us the motivation to take integrity-filled, loving action.

The kind of action that protects your peace. Resets your boundaries. And honors your truth.

So next time anger shows up, don’t shame it.

Say: “Thanks for the heads up. You’re right. I’m on it.” 👏

07/19/2025

Is your laptop stealing your peace? Your presence? Your nights with your family?

Be honest.

Even when it’s shut, if it’s sitting on the kitchen counter, it’s still working — on you.

It’s saying,
“Hey… don’t forget that thing.”
“You never replied to her.”
“Shouldn’t you just check one more email?”

And guess what? That silent little screen is robbing you of the moment you swore you'd be present for.

So here’s the advice you didn’t know you needed today:
LOCK. UP. YOUR. LAPTOP.

Seriously. Stick it in a drawer. Behind a door. In the trunk of your car if you have to.

If you want to be with your people — really with them — that thing can’t be in the room.

This week on the Love, Happiness & Success Podcast, I’m joined by Sarah Armstrong — author of The Art of the Juggling Act — to talk all about how to actually find your balance when life feels like a three-ring circus.

👇 Here’s the link to check out the full podcast episode packed with simple, game-changing strategies to help you protect your peace and be fully present at home.
https://www.growingself.com/parental-burnout/

07/18/2025

Is this a sign? 👀

Let’s be real: if therapy feels like you’re just rehashing the same stuff and nothing’s actually changing... that’s not progress. That’s a plateau.

It doesn’t mean therapy didn’t help.
It means you’ve outgrown the process you started with.

And that? That’s a sign you’re ready for a new kind of support—one that moves you forward, not just deeper in.

🎙️ This week on the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, we’re talking about what to do when therapy isn’t working anymore—and how to know it’s time for something different.

💬 Drop the word SIGN in the comments and I’ll send it straight to you.

You don’t have to stay stuck. Let’s go. 🔥

07/14/2025

In a culture that undervalues platonic connection, this episode is your permission slip to prioritize it. 💛

🎧 Tune into the Love, Happiness & Success Podcast for a heartfelt and eye-opening convo with about connection, isolation, and how making friends might just change your life.

Want to Communicate Better? Start Here! 💡 Effective communication isn’t just about talking, it’s about truly connecting....
02/10/2025

Want to Communicate Better? Start Here! 💡

Effective communication isn’t just about talking, it’s about truly connecting. When you focus on the right things, your relationships thrive.

Are you ready to level up your communication game? Let’s do this! 🔥

💬 Drop “CONNECT” in the comments if you’re committed to better conversations!

📲 Follow for more tips!

Feeling Misunderstood ALL THE TIME? Here’s How to Fix It! I used to think I was a great communicator, until I wasn’t. T...
02/07/2025

Feeling Misunderstood ALL THE TIME? Here’s How to Fix It!

I used to think I was a great communicator, until I wasn’t. There were moments where I’d leave conversations frustrated, unheard, and disconnected, wondering: How did that go so wrong?

The truth? Good communication isn’t just about what we say, it’s about how we make others feel. And it’s not something we’re born knowing how to do.

It’s a skill. A skill that, when mastered, can completely transform your relationships.

Here’s how to start improving today:
✔️ Recognize the 3 types of conversations (practical, emotional, social) 🗣️
✔️ Ask yourself (or them!): Do you need to be helped, hugged, or heard? 🤔
✔️ Focus on understanding, not just agreement 💡
✔️ Shift from surface-level talk to meaningful connection 💬

Are you ready to break the cycle of miscommunication and build deeper, stronger connections? 👇 Comment CONNECT and I’ll send you my FREE Communication That Connects training!

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