David Flowers Couples Teletherapy

03/05/2026

I can usually take any two people who are deeply committed to relationship therapy and willing to do the work to make things better and help them get the relationship they want. But seven qualities in particular seem to make therapy work better and faster and I feel hopeful the more of these signs I'm able to see in a couple early on.

https://davidflowerstherapy.com/signs-that-relationship-therapy-may-be-successful

02/27/2026

Are you with someone like this? Many women who come to therapy are convinced their partner is a narcissist. Most of the time it’s not true. But if this truly describes your partner, don’t even come to therapy with them. Get away from them as soon as you can. And be very careful about how you do that. Make sure you have somewhere safe to go.

02/27/2026

I mean it’s comedy, but there’s an excellent point he’s making here. Especially in light of couples therapist Stan Tatkin’s observation that to choose a life partner is to choose a particular set of unresolvable problems.

02/09/2026

With Valentine’s Day coming up in five days, I show couples how to resolve the perennial Hallmark Holiday issue by thinking in a different way.

Matt and I had a lot of fun on this one.

With Valentine’s Day coming up in five days, I show couples how to resolve the perennial Hallmark Holiday issue by thinking in a different way.

01/05/2026

Anybody out there wanna go deep today?

Here is a 25-minute training I did for the Michigan Mental Health Counselors Association on couples therapy. This video was made for other therapists, specifically other couples therapists, but I think could be extremely enlightening and helpful for people who find these communication impasses in their relationships.

Specifically, this video takes on one of the most confusing things beginner couple therapists often run into, which is that one partner often thinks the relationship is a complete disaster, and has very little hope for it, while the other partner thinks everything is great, that things are fine.

How can two people in the same relationship, living in the same house, have such radically different perspectives? It took me years, but I figured out the answer to this question and, once I did, I was able to take gigantic leaps in my work with couples.

If you want to skip the intro stuff, start at four minutes 30 seconds.

David Flowers LPC talks with therapists about what he has learned as a Couples Therapist.

12/11/2025

“In a true partnership, both partners view it as their responsibility to ensure the other’s emotional well-being.”

12/01/2025

I always use a real-life bird story with my couples, so this is perfect!

11/03/2025

I haven't been posting these regularly, but this one from last month is probably my favorite so far.

Most couples talk about everything BUT their relationship. Then, when problems come up, there can be anxiety around simply having a conversation about something important. In this video you will learn three questions couples can ask and answer daily to a) make real conversation a normal part of the relationship, and 2) stay in emotional contact with each other.

Most couples talk about everything BUT their relationship. Then, when problems come up, there can be anxiety around simply having a conversation about someth...

11/03/2025

10/18/2025

This is doubly true in couple relationships, where you have two people, each with their own triggers and blind spots.

10/07/2025

Sorry for my huge logo. It used to be when I posted a blog link, it automatically featured the photo for that particular post. Not sure when that changed.

You might be on this page right now because you're just exploring my site. More likely, you've heard about discernment counseling, or someone told you to look it up online, and you're curious. After all, it's a fairly new process used in the field of relationship counseling, and most people aren't f...