02/12/2026
If you're like many other women in their middle years of life, you used to keep everything in your head, but now you need phone alarms for things that are already written in your planner. Familiar places feel strangely overwhelming. Simple tasks feel heavy. Even a small decision can feel like too much - even on your best days.
And underneath it all? A quiet dread and fear of 'losing it'.
You likely feel mentally exhausted. You second-guess decisions you once would have made easily. You snap at people you love (and then feel guilty). You cancel plans because you’re too tired—or afraid you’ll feel “off” and someone will see right through you not having it all together. And when night rolls around, your mind spirals. During the day, you track schedules, anticipate everyone’s needs, and carry a constant low-level fear:
What if this is just who I am now?
But here’s the thing… it’s NOT just you.
You’re likely in the “sandwich generation,” caring for kids and aging parents. Like many, you were taught from a very young age to power through, to pull up your bootstraps and to be reliable and heaven forbid - not complain. To take care of others first. Rest wasn’t modeled as strength. And emotional needs? Sadly, those were never part of the conversation either.
Meanwhile, the invisible labor hasn’t decreased. Even in supportive households, it's women who often carry the emotional coordination, scheduling, planning, and anticipating everyone else's needs. And to this day, the world still rewards productivity—not nervous system regulation.
On top of that, there’s pressure to age “well.” Stay fit. Stay youthful. Stay positive. Stay productive. Stay informed —oh, and then there's the current state of the world...
It’s no wonder everything feels heavier right now!
But here’s what I want you to know: this season CAN feel steadier. Lighter. And even more grounded! Emotional reactions can become manageable instead of explosive. Energy can return—not the frantic pull up your bootstraps and push-through kind, but sustainable energy. The kind that makes life feel enjoyable again. And that unnamable fear? It can soften, too. You may not go back to who you were at 35—but you can absolutely become someone wiser, more regulated, more self-trusting.
In my most recent blog post, I share 3 strategies I use inside my 1:1 coaching program to help women feel lighter and less mentally and emotionally overloaded during perimenopause.
So, let’s uncover what you really need to know about feeling steadier and less fearful in this season.
(And from someone who's been in and climbed out of these depths, let me reassure you — you’ve got this.)
You can read the full blog post here and walk away with some strategies you can start putting into practice today! https://www.sacredseedsintegrativehealthcoaching.com/post/when-everything-feels-heavy-understanding-the-hidden-mental-and-emotional-weight-of-perimenopause
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, why can’t I handle what I used to? If that sounds familiar, I hope you will pause what you are doing and read what I have to say here — these may just be the lifechanging words you need to hear today.If you're like many other women in their middle years of...