12/21/2025
My name is Andrea Johnston, and I am a licensed therapist.
In narcissistic family systems, children donât get to be children. They adapt to survive. Most are placed into one of two roles:
The Golden Child
Rewarded for compliance, achievement, or emotional attunement.
Safety and connection become conditional â be good, be successful, donât disappoint.
The Scapegoat
Criticized, blamed, or emotionally targeted.
They often carry the weight of family dysfunction despite being deeply perceptive and emotionally aware.
These roles are not flaws.
They are survival strategies formed in environments where emotional safety was inconsistent or absent.
Many adults unknowingly continue to reenact these roles in relationships, work, and self-worth.
Understanding the role you were assigned isnât about blaming the past â
itâs about gaining insight.
And insight is where healing begins.
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