Blair Psychology - Jonathan M. Blair PhD

02/21/2022

Does your relationship have rules? It should. These rules stretch far beyond definitions of monogamy or fidelity. They speak to the fundamental values that will guide your relationship to success or doom it to failure.

Does your relationship have rules? It should. These rules stretch far beyond definitions of monogamy or fidelity. They speak to the fundamental values that will guide your relationship to success or doom it to failure.

07/26/2021

"Feelings of guilt, shame, failure, and inadequacy often have very deep roots that stem from our early childhood experiences. If left unaddressed, they can severely damage our romantic relationships in that they render us internally-focused, unreliable, and inactive when our partners need us most. When you hurt your partner, it’s not about you. It’s not a time to get defensive or blame. It’s not a time to get depressed and down on yourself. It’s a time to get out, and attend to those you hurt."

Feelings of guilt, shame, failure, and inadequacy often have very deep roots that stem from our early childhood experiences. If left unaddressed, they can severely damage our romantic relationships in that they render us internally-focused, unreliable, and inactive when our partners need us most. Wh

07/19/2021

In the same way that rumble strips on our roads keep us from falling asleep at the wheel or veering off the road, installing rumble strips in your relationship can keep you and your partner centered on a path toward relational health.

07/12/2021

Bringing up issues in your relationship is no easy task. For many couples, there’s never a good time. No matter when, how, or why things are brought up, attempts to address relational challenges are met with defensiveness and often lead to intense conflict or withdrawal. While there are fairly easy solutions to this problem, today’s post is less about helping you get it right, and more about making sure you don’t do the one thing that guarantees that you’ll get it wrong.

Bringing up issues in your relationship is no easy task. For many couples, there’s never a good time. No matter when, how, or why things are brought up, attempts to address relational challenges are met with defensiveness and often lead to intense conflict or withdrawal. While there are fairly eas...

06/30/2021

Do we really want to go back to normal? For many, back to "normal" means back to feeling overwhelmed, exhausted, and unappreciated. Let's get back to better, together with our new bibliotherapy groups! More at www.drjblair.com

06/21/2021

If the last year has taught us anything, it's that we can't do this thing called life alone. We need each other. Stay tuned for something new from Blair Psychology! As we enter a new chapter, let's strive to be .

03/25/2021

The wise listen to understand. The foolish respond without listening.

03/24/2021

"Anger is to relationships what fire is to forests. Campfires are great, and if you are aware of their dangers you can have campfires all over the place and toasted marshmallows galore. What you can't do is kid yourself about the dangers of campfires in the forest. Or about the dangers of anger in a relationship."
-Mira Kirshenbaum

03/22/2021

We all come into our relationship with emotional bruises. Unfortunately, we also pick up several additional emotional bruises along the way. Identifying these bruises and understanding how they effect our relationship can prevent unnecessary conflict, pain, and distress.

Bruises are not just physical. While not visible to the eye, these emotional bruises can be far more sensitive and more painful than any physical bruise could ever be. Failure to understand how our emotional bruises impact our relationship is a recipe for conflict, hurt, and disconnection.

03/21/2021

"I was wrong." is a sign of intelligence.
-Wise Connector

03/20/2021

Ask yourself: "What would a good partner do?"
Then do that thing. Then repeat.
FOREVER.

03/16/2021

Love without affection is
like the sun without warmth.