11/14/2025
As the holidays get closer, many couples start to feel that mix of excitement, pressure, extra plans, and shifting expectations. A little intention now can make the season feel lighter, more connected, and a lot more enjoyable. Here are simple ways to move through the pre holiday weeks together with more ease and teamwork.
1. Holiday Preview Night
Try one small holiday tradition early. Light a festive candle, bake a simple recipe, or watch part of a favorite movie to ease into the season together.
2. Holiday Anchors
Choose one thing that helps you both stay grounded. A morning check in, a short walk after dinner, or ten minutes of quiet before bed.
3. Joy List
Write down three things each that bring you joy this season. Let those guide how you spend your time before the busy moments take over.
4. Expectations Conversation
Ask each other what you are looking forward to and what you hope to avoid this year. A simple check in now prevents stress later.
5. Code Word for Overwhelm
Pick a funny word or inside joke that means I need a moment. It helps you stay connected when emotions run high.
6. Micro Traditions
Create a tiny tradition that feels special. Hot cocoa after errands, a cozy drive to look at lights, or a gratitude moment before Thanksgiving.
7. Energy Planning
Talk about what kind of support each of you needs this week. It keeps you moving through the season as a team.
8. Slow Moments
The season can feel loud. Make space for quiet pockets of connection. Reading together, sharing a warm drink, or sitting in stillness.
If you and your partner are seeking deeper support or want to strengthen your connection this season, Ustina is an EFCT certified couples therapist. Learn more at www.utscounseling.com