10/29/2025
Healing doesn’t come from shame or blame. It comes from awareness, understanding, and compassion.
The key to staying regulated? Meeting your needs.
The key to meeting your needs? Knowing what they are — and being able to meet them yourself, while vulnerably asking others to meet you there.
💫 Join Billie on November 9th for a deep dive into your unique subconscious personality needs. https://square.link/u/m5a6CgsU
I’ve always felt a lot of shame by that story floating around social media — the one that says, “When you get bumped in life, what spills out is what’s inside of you.”
When I got bumped in life, I yelled, shut down, blamed, criticized, and avoided. Yep, I sure did — and sometimes still do. Healing isn’t about perfection; it’s about loving awareness. Patterns are hard to break. Now, when I yell, blame, criticize, or shut down, I can recognize what's happening beneath the surface and I am able to repair and ask for what I need.
This isn't a free pass for unkind behavior -- it's an invitation to understand what's underneath. Because when we can meet the need behind the reaction, we no longer have to act it out.
The more I’ve learned about attachment theory and emotional patterns, the more compassion I’ve gained for myself. I understand now why I yell, shut down, or avoid. There’s always a need or maybe even a belief underneath our reactions.
When we can get to the root of what’s happening inside, we can separate ourselves from our behaviors. We can start to see what’s driving us. Our subconscious mind is a needs-meeting machine — it will do whatever it has to do to get our needs met.
Healing doesn’t come from shame or blame. It comes from awareness, understanding, and compassion.
The more grace we can offer our own triggers, the more grace we naturally give others.
The more we understand, voice, and meet our own needs, the more we make space for others to do the same.
The key to staying regulated? Meeting your needs.
The key to meeting your needs? Knowing what they are — and being able to meet them yourself, while vulnerably asking others to meet you there.
💫 Join me on November 9th for a deep dive into your unique subconscious personality needs. https://square.link/u/m5a6CgsU
Let’s uncover what’s driving you beneath the surface — so you can meet your needs with clarity and compassion.
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