Beyond Boundaries Counseling RGV

10/02/2025

Peach is seriously the drama AND the comedy of this household. She’s gone from anxious little chaos gremlin to feisty, sassy queen of playtime. Honestly, she thinks everyone exists to throw her toys. (And… she’s not wrong.)

She’s also finally learning that cuddles aren’t a trap and that sometimes Mom needs to write her therapy notes without being tackled. Big brother Vader has been her Yoda, teaching her the sacred art of boundaries — aka when to zoomie and when to chill before Mom loses her mind.

From shredding everything in sight to becoming the sweetest snugglebug-in-progress, Peach is proof that rescue dogs are just glow-up stories waiting to happen. Proud of our little gremlin-turned-goddess.

10/01/2025

My only agenda is love.

In my work with folks healing from religious trauma, racism, and all the other isms, I don’t tell anyone to hate their religion, culture, or family. I help them sort through what’s toxic and harmful — and what’s still rooted in love, connection, and belonging.

Hate always shows up in the comments. Some of it is laugh-out-loud wild, some of it is ugly and violent. I try to remind myself that for many people, their fear feels like love. They believe they’re protecting their children, their communities, their faith. And fear dressed up as love still comes out as hate.

But here’s the thing: the foundation of most religions is love. Even though I’m not religious anymore, I grew up in it — and like most of us who’ve walked through that fire, I kept the pieces rooted in love and let the rest burn away.

So yes, I see the comments telling me I’m a freak, that I should hide, that I deserve harm. And I respond the only way I know how: no arguments, no defensiveness, no shame. Just love.

To those of you who hate me, who wish me gone: I love you still. Big hugs 🫂
To those of you who show up here with kindness, humor, and solidarity: thank you. You remind me that love always multiplies louder than hate.

That’s the agenda. Love. Period.

09/24/2025

It's no surprise this post pulled in the usual suspects: mockery, threats, performative outrage. Honestly? None of this is new. I came out as a q***r woman as a teen, was forced back into hiding for a time… but never again. Flag on my porch, voice turned up, unapologetically myself. The hate is old and honestly… boring. 🥱

That doesn’t mean it doesn’t sting. It’s disorienting to put something tender into the world and have it met with contempt. But I’ve been here before, and I know where I stand: I’m spreading messages of love and acceptance — yes, even toward the people who’d rather see me silenced or harmed.

And to my LGBTQ+ fam: if you have to hide yourself for safety, that’s not weakness. That’s survival. That’s wisdom. Protecting yourself is always valid.

Even if you don’t know me or don’t like me, I still choose love anyway. Not because I’m some angelic being above it all, but because I’m just another human who refuses to let hate be louder than love.

Virtual counseling in Texas Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist specializing in mens and womens mental health cognitive behavioral therapy LGBTQ inclusive Trauma trained PTSD ADHD ASD Neurodivergent Body Positive Jessica Hope Murph LMFT-S LCDC Beyond Boundaries Counseling RGV

09/19/2025

You don’t have to keep doomscrolling to prove you care.

Protecting your nervous system isn’t ignorance, it’s strategy. Drinking in every headline is like chugging saltwater when you’re already dehydrated — it makes you worse, not better.

You’re allowed to stay grounded. You’re allowed to unplug. You’re allowed to let the big stuff find you through people you trust instead of drowning in the feed.

Your impact isn’t measured in hours spent scrolling — it’s in how you show up when it counts. 💜

09/19/2025

Today's mission for me is spreading love in small meaningful ways as much as possible. Join me? ❤️💛💚💙💜

09/16/2025

Yall... I am still shocked that so many people still dont know these things. No judgment...even many therapists dont know these things and I literally thought it was common knowledge. (Full research backed details in comments) Here I go:

Things I didn’t realize not everyone knew (but absolutely should):

Emotional abuse is trauma.

Spanking a non-consenting human (of any age) is abuse.

Not everyone likes s*x — and that’s not unhealthy.

Kids should never be forced to hug, kiss, or shake hands with adults.

Forcing eye contact isn’t respect, it’s control.

Children aren’t robots — they don’t have to drop everything the second they’re told.

Being related doesn’t mean anyone automatically owes you time, energy, or resources.

And while we’re at it:

Love without safety isn’t enough.

Kids don’t need to “earn” basic care or affection.

Forgiveness is optional.

Boundaries = self-respect, not disrespect.

I know some of this might feel spicy, especially if you grew up with the opposite messages. But here’s the deal: respecting autonomy, consent, and boundaries isn’t just a “therapy thing.” It’s a healthy human thing.

09/09/2025

New Blog Post: AI -not your therapist- -also not useless- https://wix.to/o8jq9hj
Unpopular opinion: AI isn’t a therapist. But dismissing it altogether? That’s like burning down the library because of one bad book.
For some people, AI helps with executive dysfunction, emotional processing, communication, even safety anchors between sessions. It’s not flawless — but used wisely, it can be a real support.

09/04/2025

RGV Mental Health Resources ✨
Community list of affordable, affirming care in the 956: low-cost clinics, q***r & neurodivergent-friendly therapists, survivor services, recovery programs + more.

🔎 More details + links in FB group:
🤝 Providers: comment or DM to be added.

✨ Recursos de Salud Mental en el Valle ✨
Lista comunitaria de servicios accesibles y afirmativos en el 956: clínicas de bajo costo, terapeutas inclusivos, apoyo para sobrevivientes, programas de recuperación y más.

🔎 Más detalles + enlaces en grupo de FB:
🤝 Proveedores: dejen info en comentarios o mensaje.

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Queer/ND
STEP • BBCRGV (Jessica Murph) • Serene Solutions • Katherine Iracheta

Low-Cost
Buckner FAYS • Hope Family Health • El Milagro • OLLU-RGV Clinic • UTRGV Training Clinic • Catholic Charities

Psych
Fig Tree • Proginosko • Growing Generations

Students
UTRGV Counseling (free)

Families
Garcia’s Family Wellness

Veterans
Beacon of Hope • TTBH Veterans • Garcia’s

Women
Women’s Emotional Wellness Center

Survivors
Mujeres Unidas • Friendship of Women • Safe Haven (Buckner)

Substance Use
PDAP • TTBH • South Texas Behavioral

Disability
Down by the Border • RGV Autism Awareness • Texas Parent to Parent

Community
NAMI RGV • STEP Support • Hope Warm Line

Directories
Psychology Today • Inclusive Therapists • Headway • Open Path • BetterHelp (subscription; short sessions)

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08/30/2025

Meet Peach & Vader 🐾
Peach is our spicy rescue girl who came to us full of bitey chaos energy. Vader is her patient big-brother type who just wants to cuddle.

When Peach plays too rough, Vader has started modeling calm: he wags his tail, avoids eye contact, and basically says “not today, sis.” And the coolest part? Peach is beginning to copy him.

This is how dogs teach each other self-regulation. It looks messy, but it’s progress. And honestly? It’s the same for us humans.

Sometimes our feelings come out too big.

Sometimes we need someone calm to model a reset.

And sometimes we learn by watching each other, not by being told.

Rescue life is teaching me daily: growth is messy, but healing happens in relationships. 💙

08/16/2025

Mental Health Resources – Rio Grande Valley
Care does exist here—it’s just not always easy to find. This guide is local, inclusive, and copy-friendly so anyone in our community can use it.

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🏥 Free or Low-Cost Care
• Community Counseling Center (McAllen) – Youth/family counseling, ages 0–17
• Buckner Children & Family Services (Mission) – Crisis intervention + counseling for youth/families
• Diocese of Brownsville Catholic Social Services – Counseling + emergency help, no insurance needed
• El Milagro Clinic – $40 consult, then free counseling by referral
• Hidalgo County Mental Health Coalition – Community resource guide
• Methodist Healthcare Ministries (Mission) – Sliding-scale counseling
• Tropical Texas Behavioral Health (TTBH) – Outpatient + 24/7 crisis line (877-289-7199)
• UTRGV Counseling & Training Clinic (Edinburg & Brownsville) – Free counseling for community (ages 6+)
• Hope Family Health Center (McAllen) – Donation-based counseling + integrated care

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🏳️‍🌈 LGBTQ+ Affirming / Advocacy
• South Texas Equality Project (STEP) – Advocacy + community hub
• STEP’s RGV Resource Guide – Directory of affirming services

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💊 Psychiatrists & Medication
• Dr. Quickson Ndlovu (Rio Grande City & McAllen) – Therapy + med management (in-person & virtual)
• Growing Generations of South Texas (Rio Grande City) – Individual & family therapy

Virtual Options (TX-wide)
• Beyond Boundaries Counseling RGV – Queer-affirming, trauma-informed virtual therapy (ages 11–65; insurance, superbill, private pay)
• UTRGV Student-Wellness Resources – Local + virtual supports

Spanish-Speaking Support
• Catholic Social Services & Community Counseling Center (McAllen) – Bilingual support
• El Milagro Clinic – Affordable bilingual care
• STEP’s RGV Guide – Language filters

📞 Crisis & Community Safety
• NAMI RGV (new chapter) – Support groups + advocacy
• Women Together / Mujeres Unidas – Hotline 1-800-580-4879 | Family Justice Center 956-630-4878
• Family Crisis Center RGV – Shelter + crisis counseling (San Juan & Brownsville)

08/08/2025

Would your therapist say this? No? Tragic.
Mine does. (It’s me. I’m the therapist.)
Feral, licensed, and still somehow professional.

If you haven’t found the right therapist yet — don’t give up.
They exist.
They might not scream Big Daddy metaphors at you…
but they’ll meet you where you’re at, without flinching.
Yes, I actually yelled this in a session today:
“COME ON, BIG DADDY, LET THAT F*CKIN’ DICK SWING!!”

Before your brain runs away with it —
✅ Everyone was of age
✅ Nothing unethical happened
✅ It was 100% a therapeutic moment… just wrapped in my signature unfiltered delivery

Because here’s the thing: my approach isn’t cookie-cutter.
I mix science, humor, blunt honesty, and a little chaos to help people break patterns, get unstuck, and step all the way into their power.
If that means I have to shock your system with a perfectly-timed Big Daddy metaphor?
Consider it done.

Jessica Hope Murph, LMFT-S
Beyond Boundaries Counseling RGV
📍 Serving all of Texas via telehealth
🌐 www.bbcrgv.com
📧 murphlmft@bbcrgv.com
📱 956-309-7891