Gift of Grit Counseling, LLC

10/31/2025

We didn’t just lose her—we lost the version of us that existed before. Grief didn’t break us, but it changed everything. This is a piece I’ve written for couples navigating child loss, and the quiet ways it rewrites connection. If that’s you—or someone you love—may this offer a bit of steadiness in the storm.

Grief and Child Loss can stress a relationships significantly. Read further to see how we can unburden the unimaginable.

10/31/2025

Grief work is imperative in relational work. You cannot move through a loss without acknowledging it and its impact on you and your relationships.

10/29/2025

Listen, Linda. If you’re looking for a therapist that is perfectly organized, that’s not me. However, if you’re looking for a relational, EMDR-certified, trauma-trained, grief warrior of a therapist who sometimes forgets paperwork, I’m exactly that. I may not get every detail done perfectly, but I am as real as it gets. And I get real results. Can every professional you work with say that they get real results with their whole, vulnerable chest?

10/27/2025

When your partner is in a state of disrepair, that’s not your moment to defend your position or decisions. That’s your chance to repair by putting on your customer service associate hat. Let’s think about this for a second, if you called the customer service line because your toaster wasn’t toasting your morning slice of bread, you’d never expect them to say to you, “Yeah well, maybe it’s not toasting but let’s take the perspective of the toaster for a moment. Maybe it’s tired. Maybe it feels like you don’t press its buttons the way it used to.” … See how silly and invalidating that sounds? Try it this week. Wear your best customer service hat when your partner expresses their frustration and just see what happens.

10/23/2025

My co-therapists are lazy, y’all! If you need a therapist with black cat energy, I’m your gal.

10/22/2025

When your inner sass slips out mid-session 👀✌️ Therapist brain: empathy first. Mouth: ‘Have you considered a TV in the bedroom?’ Reminder: all situations are hypothetical. I would never actually share a client’s real information or story. This is not a substitute for therapy. 🫣🪑➡️

10/20/2025

Why am I showing you a grainy concert video of Stevie Nicks singing ‘Landslide?’ Because I’m a millennial and I want to. And also, because it relates to the idea of life and love and things changing rapidly in our world. You can handle the seasons of your life. I know you can. I believe in you. Check out my very vulnerable blog post at the link in my bio to see what Stevie Nicks song ‘Landslide’ taught me about love.

10/20/2025

When the ground shifts beneath us, what does true love look like?

“Landslide moments” in relationships can feel like everything is crumbling, and they can also be the very moments that transform us most deeply.

Read the full post here 👉 https://www.giftofgritcounseling.com/post/landslide-moments-in-love

long-term relationships are both mirror and teacher. They offer us the chance to grow, to grieve what we will never get from our parents in childhood, and to be tenderly seen and truly known by one person better than anyone else. Relationships are not one big decision (despite what they made it soun...

10/17/2025

Requests (“Hey honey, can you please pick up dinner on the way home for me? It would help me so much!”) are vulnerable, present-based and action-oriented. Complaints (“You are such an inconsiderate jerk. I wish you would just pick up more around here.”) are often past-oriented, not specific, and they require no tenderness from you. Leading with request is a risk to your heart, AND I know you, wise adult that you are, can tolerate that level of vulnerability and risk.

10/14/2025

Often, the rules we learned about relationships aren’t conducive to long term success. The culture at large isn’t well equipped to helping us having real, intimate, fun and enjoyable partnerships. Let me know your thoughts in the comments about which common relationship rules you break and how it’s helped you and your person have a better life together.

10/13/2025

Here's my latest, sassy, no nonsense open letter to the partner who is being 'dragged' into couples therapy. There's some tips in there on how to make couples work work for you, even if you're coming in kicking and screaming.

Dragged into couples therapy? A no-nonsense therapist unpacks shame, defensiveness, and the cycle you’re in—so you can show up, break patterns, reconnect.

10/10/2025

Sometimes you need a couples therapist who will dare to disrupt the harmful patterns taking place. Most of the time, I do it more skillfully than this, I promise!