12/24/2025
According to research by Cornell University, about 25% of American families are facing estrangement every year. So, if you are, you are not alone but you probably feel alone in this due to the and .
Sometimes estrangement is needed for healing and safety but not always .
Families are messy and like all relationships, they require work, communication, compassion, understanding, respect , love, forgiveness and occasional space. Not everyone will be equipped , willing , or able to rise to the challenge of introspection, taking accountability and learning new ways to interact when feelings are hurt or boundaries are crossed.
Each case is unique and requires inner wisdom and reflection before moving towards separation. If you need support or guidance after this holiday season, reach out to me.
Welcome to the pissed-off parent pushback. After years of therapists, psychology influencers and internet chat groups encouraging adult children to cut ties with families they deem harmful or “toxic,” estranged parents are now speaking out.
Laura Wellington, 59, goes by “Doormat Mom” on TikTok and Instagram, where she has almost 140,000 followers combined.
“Were you a really good parent who did the best they could and yet your child has decided to be an ungrateful little bastard as an adult?” she says in her first post last year.
She says she broke off ties with one of her adult daughters in the summer of 2024 after learning that she wouldn’t be invited to her wedding. Wellington maintains that she is a good mom and doesn’t understand what went wrong, but realized that her daughter didn’t want to have a relationship with her.
Her message is defiant: It’s not always the parents’ fault. Yes, there are abusive parents with children who are correct in cutting them off, she says, but there are also well-meaning and loving parents who are unjustly hurt. Rather than wait around for crumbs from their children, parents should get on with their lives.
Response was loud and immediate.
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