12/15/2025
When you’re on a trauma healing journey it’s natural to long for a quick fix. It’s easy to get impatient. Especially when you’ve been struggling for most of your life. I’ve been there. I get it.
But the problem is, most traumatic events are experiences that feel like too much, too fast, too soon. To renegotiate trauma our systems don’t need fast and forceful. That only mimics trauma. It needs slow, spacious, and supported. That’s the medicine.
That’s why in Somatic Experiencing sessions I’m not promoting cathartic release. I’m not asking you to go right into the climax of your traumatic events and hang out there. I’m also not asking you to push past your red flags (or even orange ones) in hopes that the exposure will lessen the intensity eventually.
Of course there are times to linger with the hard stuff. There are times to sit with the pain and see what it has to say. The difference here is that we pay great attention to your capacity and explore how we can slowly expand it over time - not force it.
I think most of us do force really well. We can force ourselves to stay up when we’re tired. We can force ourselves to skip a meal because we don’t have time, even though we’re hungry. We can force ourselves to smile when our insides are anything but happy. Most of us don’t need to reinforce our ability to push through.
Instead, SE teaches us to allow. To listen. To validate. To be with without trying to change. To follow those internal whispers rather than override them. I think we all could use a little more of that.
Want to learn more? Visit the RHA website to grab your free Somatic Sampler session. There’s never a bad time to begin.
