FLR Tantra - Female Led Relationship - Dancing with the Mystical Feminine

01/27/2026

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Sacred Alchemy

Understanding and honoring the female or**sm

For men who want to deepen their connection with their partners, understanding the female or**sm is not just about technique or performance—it is about embarking on a journey of empathy, patience, and reverence for the complex, multifaceted nature of female sexuality.

The female or**sm is often misunderstood as a singular event, a predictable crescendo similar to the male experience.

For women, however, it is a deeply personal and dynamic process intertwined with physiological, emotional, psychological, and even spiritual dimensions.

By approaching this sacred aspect of intimacy with curiosity and care, men can become true allies in their partner’s pleasure and foster a bond that transcends the physical and touches the divine.

The female or**sm is part of the sexual response cycle, often perceived as the peak of arousal. However, this view can oversimplify a process that for many women is neither guaranteed nor uniform.

Not all women regularly experience or**sm, and some may not know what it feels like or how to cultivate it.

This reality is not a failure but a reflection of the complex interplay between a woman’s body, mind, and life experiences.

For some, or**sm is a fleeting moment of release; for others, especially those who embrace ta***ic or Taoist perspectives, it can be a gateway to deep ecstasy—a dissolution of boundaries where joy radiates through the entire being and connects her with her partner and the universe itself.

To understand this, men must first recognize that a woman’s pleasure is sovereign. Her or**sm is not something to be "given" to her but something she discovers and allows within herself.

This journey often begins with self-exploration, where she learns to connect with the sources of her body’s pleasure.

As a partner, it is your task to create a safe, nonjudgmental space for this exploration. Encourage her to share what feels good without pressure or expectations.

Be aware that her ability to experience pleasure may be shaped by her history—family dynamics, cultural conditioning, past relationships, or even trauma.

These factors can lead to internal permissions or restrictions that determine how freely she can surrender to sensation.

Your patience and presence can help her feel empowered to reclaim her desire.

The physiological and the emotional are deeply intertwined in female sexuality.

A woman's body responds not only to touch but also to the emotional climate of the moment. Stress, insecurity, or unresolved tensions can cause her nervous system to tense up and limit her ability to become aroused or reach or**sm.

For example, unchanneled sexual energy or a fight-or-flight response triggered by past experiences can manifest as physical or emotional disconnection.

Societal pressure complicates this further – women are often bombarded with messages about how they "should" look, act, or behave in bed, leading some to prioritize a partner's pleasure over their own.

Over time, this can desensitize the body, resulting in difficulties achieving or**sm or even anor**smia, a condition where or**sm is absent.

As a man, it is your responsibility to approach intimacy with mindfulness and compassion and understand that her or**sm is not a goal to be reached but a shared journey.

Here are the key ways to support her:

❣Create emotional safety: A woman's ability to open to pleasure depends on feeling safe and valued.

Listen to her without judgment, validate her feelings, and show genuine curiosity about her desires. Avoid pressuring her to "perform" or achieve or**sm, as this can create tension that inhibits arousal.

Instead, let her know that her pleasure is a priority and that her experience—whether it includes or**sm or not—is enough.

❣Honor the wisdom of her body: Every woman's body is unique, and what works for one may not work for another.

Take time to learn her body through slow, attentive touch. Ask for feedback and observe her responses—her breathing, movements, sounds.

In ta***ic practices, this is akin to worshiping the divine feminine, where every touch is an offering. Be patient, as arousal in women often builds gradually and requires sustained stimulation and emotional connection.

❣Support her healing: Many women carry wounds from past experiences, from societal shame to sexual trauma.

These can create a dissociation between what she desires and what her body is capable of. Encourage her to explore her sexuality at her own pace, whether through self-pleasure, therapy, or open communication with you.

If she speaks of pain or fear, listen with empathy and avoid trying to "fix" her. Your role is to hold space for her healing, not to rush it.

❣Embrace the spiritual dimension:

In ta***ic and Taoist traditions, the female or**sm is a sacred act, a merging of energies that transcends the physical.

Engage in practices like eye gazing, synchronized breathing, or heart-to-heart connection to deepen intimacy.

These practices align your energies and create a shared field of trust and vulnerability.

By viewing her pleasure as a spiritual offering, you invite her to expand into full-body ecstasy, where or**sm becomes a radiant, all-encompassing experience.

❣Let go of performance metrics: The pressure to bring her to or**sm can cause anxiety for both of you.

Release the need for a specific outcome and focus on the journey of connection.

Celebrate all forms of pleasure—whether it’s a giggle, a sigh, or a shiver through the body.

In Taoist sexuality, the emphasis is on the circulation of energy rather than the pursuit of climax, allowing both partners to enjoy sustained states of arousal and vitality.

To embody this approach, treat intimacy as a ritual. Set the stage with a soothing environment—soft lighting, calming music, or a warm embrace.

Start with non-sexual touches, like holding hands or massaging her shoulders, to help her nervous system relax. Communicate openly, ask what she enjoys, and share your own vulnerabilities to build trust.

If she struggles with or**sm, reassure her that the goal is connection, not performance. Over time, your attention and care can help her reconnect with her body and transform intimacy into a sacred dance of mutual discovery.

By honoring the complexity of the female or**sm, you become more than a lover—you become a partner on her journey to self-sovereignty and ecstasy.

This path requires patience, humility, and a willingness to learn, but the rewards are profound: a deeper bond, a shared spiritual awakening, and the joy of witnessing her bloom into her fullest expression of joy.

~ Tanel

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12/25/2025

12/21/2025

You may or may not be ready for this, but the truth is coming out. The return of the Divine Feminine is exponentially, expanding consciousness in every country. This will bring into balance to our world and harmony between the Divine Masculine and Divine Feminine. Purify your hearts and minds and cultivate the strength needed for our way forward. The deep imprinst of sin and guilt must be dissolved so you may cultivate a clearer sovereignty within yourself.

12/20/2025

11/27/2025

CHIVALRY for HUSBANDS~
Tonight, before the holiday rush begins, ask yourself one question:
Does the woman you love feel fully cherished by you?

A woman doesn’t remember the big gestures.
She remembers how consistently you show up for her — with presence, patience, and devotion.
That’s what chivalry looks like in the modern world.

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• lead with calm confidence
• protect her heart and emotions
• rebuild the spark through intentional romance
• create the safety she blossoms in
• restore courtship energy that never fades
If you want her to feel adored…
If you want her to trust your leadership…
If you want to be the man she brags about —
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👉 Become the man she feels lucky to love.

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11/23/2025

The story, you probably never heard…

What if Mary Magdalene didn’t die the way history told you? What if her final breath wasn’t an ending — but a doorway? And what if the truth about her death ...

10/27/2025

Underneath their fears, men want to be better than they are. It takes wisdom to inspire them.


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10/12/2025

|| Yogic Secrets of the Dark Goddess ||

Ma Kali gently tended the coals of my inner fires, stirring the flames of Agni to manifest every magical colour, permeating the very spanda or creative pulsation resonating throughout my being. At an innermost level, Agni is the fire of consciousness, Chidagni, the awareness of the supreme Brahman, the ultimate Existence in itself. Chidjyoti, the ‘light of consciousness', is the power behind the mind that illumines both sensory objects and our thought patterns, bathing them in the beauty of its eternal radiance.

The universe weaves a divine tapestry of light and energy, which has been tapped by our ancient Rishis and by Native Guides all over the world resonating with nature's beatitude. The Seers perceived the subtle vibrations, the ‘aliveness' of light, pervading the Tanmatras or root essences of sight, sound, taste, touch or smell, as well as the inner intuitive perception of one's sixth sense of Being. Our mergence into the all pervasive light allows us to experience a pure state of illumination inside and outside, ushering us through the gateway of higher consciousness.

Shakti prevails on all levels, from supreme Brahman to the minutest living organism. Every light form has its own shakti, from the rays of the Sun to the luminescence of Moonlight. Brahma Shakti is chit shakti, the power of consciousness existing as one with the Shiva principle. Ishvara as the cosmic world is the power or will of God to transform and nourish every living being. All the forces of nature represent Shakti, unfolding the goddesses lila or play. Durga's light protects and encircles us with her divine power. Kali is the pulsating, stimulating relentless energy.

As the spirit of fire, Agni personifies Jyoti or light as perception. The gift of sight is the power of fire, as seeing is our way of cognizing light. The clarity of seeing discloses the essence of everything that we observe. Kali is Charunetra, the ‘Devi with beautiful eyes', viewing the entire cosmic play through her fire of consciousness. She destroys all illusion in her role as Bhrama-nasini, ‘the one who destroys all confusion', embodying the three states of Creation- Preservation -Destruction as Brahma, Vishnu and Shiva.

At the altar of sacrifice Kali is Agni, echoing its brilliance, hissing its fiery magic yet tending the warmth of its dying embers. Fire is a sacrifice unto itself, a sense of mysticism shrouding its powers. At the fire altar is placed our own sacrifice of both inner and outer natures, holding a deep reverence in its sacrificial act.

Cultivating the fire of awareness on every level enables one to experience sheer Ananda or bliss. In the inner Yoga, Agni reflects the fiery Kundalini force dwelling in the Muladhara holding all deeper earth-like qualities. This ‘root fire' expresses the power of our aspirations, rising from below and ascending heavenwards.

Our inner fires must be tended to with great care and a gentle fanning, to keep their forces moving throughout our being. One must prepare the ground for the fire's magnificent ascent through the body, mind and soul. There are no shortcuts to higher revelations. The search for the illumining light must begin within oneself. These inner stirrings manifest when we quieten all exterior noise, silencing all worldly distraction.

When guidance flows from the heart, its purity vanquishes the perturbed questionings of a doubting mind. The loving flow of trust in the heart's capacity to manifest higher thoughts will create the space for sattvic or pure aspiration. The gentle calming of the soul will awaken an inner intelligence, guiding the mind to read the subtle nuances of the soul.


Kali opens the doors to the spiritual heart with her blessings. She represents the highest flame of the fire which takes us from the depths of our being to the most secret chambers of the heart. Hers is the kindling power which ignites the fire to traverse its fiery path, seeking out the blue flame within the spiritual heart.

Hridaya, the spiritual heart, is the creative, unique home of the all-consuming Agni in its purest nature. The tiny flame of the supreme Agni rests in the womb of the heart. The heart carries the strains of the entire universe as the ultimate abode of both the Devatas and the soul. Goddess Kali resides in our hridaya, manifesting all time, space, aspirations and experiences.

This tiny etheric space perceived within the heart through sadhana is called Hridayaksha, the ‘heart space' or ‘dahara akasha', ‘the small space'. Ma Kali sits enthroned in this diminutive space within the heart in the inextinguishable flame of Agni. The vision of the universe within it is the eternal Soma offering of endless joy! Kali's grace unfolds as Siddhida, ‘the giver of siddhis', higher powers and mystic renderings.

Agni is represented by an upward facing triangle, indicating the striving of the soul's aspirations to higher truths. Familiarising myself with life's journey, yoked by my sadhana I learned to nurture the fierceness of Agni, sustaining its fiery flame of concentration, awareness, perception, and insight.

Kali's triangular form of Agni was realised through meditation, its varying hues and tempestuous heat purifying my lower energies through burning their samskaras, the ‘subtle impressions of my past actions'. As an upward pointing triangle one seeks her power of speech, the very tongue of the Goddess, the tongue of fire! As a downward pointing triangle, one experiences her flow of grace, through the womb of immortality!

The ageless silence of the ancient Himalayas oriented my mind to a gentle flow of Self-inquiry, bringing in its wake a deeper current of inner grace. Waves of Bhakti Yoga or sheer devotion filled my being with a sweet Soma, the divine nectar. Surrender to the Divine consecrated my life with a surge of blessings, guiding me to experience the ecstasy of their spiritual delight.

As Rakta Kali, her currents of blood (rakta) flow through everything. Seeking the flow of blood comprises her deeper nature. There is nothing through which her powerful currents do not course; yet her aim is not to consume our blood but to direct its course back to our soul, of which she is the mother. It is the very blood of life that she brings to us, the prana or cosmic life force supporting the most primal will of all life - to live forever.

The flow of the life force through Kali's grace awakens the Shakti, her electrical power, providing us a relentless spiritual energy for our sadhana. Ma Kali's Kriya Shakti, her power of yogic transformation, guides us through all the impediments of illusion, karma and our limited mindset. Her vibrant energies release a lightning force like a sword, cutting through all negativity, clearing the path for the ascension of the Kundalini fire.

The fine edge of Kali's sword energizes the celestial weapons of the Devatas, the sadhana of the Yogin and the Prana of all life. Her sword is not one of negation; it allows us to envision a reversal, revealing the beauty of eternity cutting through each transient moment. It strikes at the inertia of ignorance and death in order to release the light within us. Kali's dynamism fans the flame of Chidagni within the precincts of the spiritual heart, allowing its fire to raise our vibrational levels, creating a sacred space for the blossoming of all our sacred lotuses.

The Dark Goddess graced me with an innate proficiency in using the fiery inner flame, raising my energy to higher planes, charring the debilitating vulnerability of body and mind, dissolving the shadows of darkness into the luminescence of Her spiritual love and Light.

By Shambhavi Chopara

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09/14/2025

Here’s an important 40 minute transmission which I like to call our evening workshop tonight. So create a sacred ambience and relax as you receive these insights.

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09/10/2025

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A woman is not something to be understood—she is something to be felt. She is not just a body; she is an entire universe wrapped in human form. She is the doorway through which life itself enters this world. She is creation, destruction, and rebirth. She is the mystery that even time bows down to.

I know woman. I know her being, her anatomy, her spirit. It is only because of the blessings of the Divine Mother that I carry this knowing. Through me, you are not just going to meet me—you are going to meet yourself.

A woman is not just physical; she is a melody, a song flowing through creation. She is the dance of the Divine in human form. She is rhythm itself, the heartbeat of life, the blessing of God woven into flesh and breath.

She is the fragrance of love, the softness of compassion, and the fire of truth. She is the silence of prayer and the roar of creation. Her essence cannot be contained—it spills into the world as nurture, intuition, and strength.

But trauma has made her forget who she is. The wounds of generations, the weight of silence, and the chains of fear have veiled her truth. She begins to believe she is only a body, forgetting she is also the soul that animates it.

She is not just a woman; she is Shakti, the divine force that keeps the universe alive. She holds the power of creation in her womb, the wisdom of ages in her heart, and the resilience of mountains in her spirit.

Her eyes carry galaxies, her smile holds healing, and her tears cleanse the earth. She is not weak when she cries—her tears are rivers that wash away pain, making space for renewal.

When she loves, she does not just give affection; she births new worlds of possibility. When she walks into a room, she shifts energy, for the Divine walks with her. She is never ordinary—every woman is extraordinary.

Yet society has told her to shrink, to be small, to silence her voice. Trauma has stolen her mirror, so she cannot see her reflection. But when she remembers, when she awakens, the world trembles with her power.

She is the first teacher, the first healer, the first home. Every child has known her warmth before they knew words. Every human carries her imprint in their heartbeat. She is eternal, even when forgotten.

Her softness is not weakness—it is her greatest strength. Her gentleness is not submission—it is the power to transform anger into peace. She can build, she can nurture, and she can destroy when necessary, for she is the embodiment of balance.

The woman is not a fragment of creation—she is the essence of creation itself. She does not only belong to man, family, or society; she belongs to the Divine, and through the Divine, to herself.

When she heals her trauma, she reclaims her throne. When she forgives herself, she becomes limitless. When she remembers her divinity, she becomes unstoppable. And when she rises, she does not rise alone—she lifts the whole world with her.

When a woman decides to rise, the whole universe rises with her. When she chooses to heal, generations before and after her are healed. This is the power of her essence, the truth of her soul, and the gift of her existence.

~ Abhikesh

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09/08/2025

The wrong man will admire your independence, not because he respects it—but because it relieves him of responsibility. He’ll watch you carry the weight of everything—your career, your healing, your peace, your pain—and silently expect you to keep going, because “you’ve got it.” He’ll mistake your resilience for invincibility, and slowly, without even realizing it, you’ll start doing life alone while standing next to someone who’s just present, but not truly partnered.

The right man, though?
He knows you can do it all—but he won’t let you.
Not because he doubts your strength, but because he honors it.
Because a true man doesn’t sit back and watch you burn out—he steps in. He builds with you, side by side.
He knows leadership isn’t about control—it’s about covering her, emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and physically.

A real man sets the tone of safety and structure in the relationship.
He creates an atmosphere where her nervous system can finally exhale.
Where she doesn’t have to fight to be heard, to be supported, or to feel secure.
He’s consistent—not just when it’s convenient, but especially when it’s hard.
Because consistency is how she knows she can relax into her feminine.
And safety is how love truly flourishes.

In a divine partnership, strength is not found in how much you can do alone, but in how much you can build together. It’s not about being needed—it’s about being present. A woman in her power still deserves to be protected, supported, and poured into.

She shouldn’t have to ask you to show up.
She shouldn’t feel like she’s “too much” for needing masculine leadership.
She should feel safe—because the man beside her leads with love, not ego.

~Conscious Souls

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