Sandy Pedram, Esq., LMFT

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Sandy Pedram, Esq., LMFT

Attorney, Psychotherapist, Mediator www.sandypedram.com

01/02/2026

We cannot not choose relationship, however seasick they may make us. A baby cannot survive without love and human touch. This doesn't change as adults, even if we try to convince ourselves we don't need relationship in moments of exasperation. Peace comes with being one with and learning how to move with the current.

12/26/2025

When people wonder why Couples are my thing 🤣

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12/20/2025

There’s more than one way to grow in life

12/10/2025

What you tolerate in relationships, when you stay when you one should go, is the best measure of your relationship with your self

11/07/2025

Relationships are work ... that is so worth it

10/29/2025

TAKE UP SPACE, I have to remind individuals within a Couple when their partner is asking them if he or she understood correctly. So many clients cower and are quick to say yes when they don't mean it, out of fear of taking up too much/so much space within the relationship that they will be left without a relationship. And I get it:

"No relationship can eliminate existential isolation, but aloneness can be shared in such a way that love compensates for its pain." - Yalom & Josselson (2019)

No one wants to be alone in their aloneness. But lack of authenticity, presence, and conflict-avoidance are more destructive to the relationship, at the end of the day, than self-empowerment.

10/23/2025

Love demands democracy: for the weak to stand up and the mighty to melt

~Terry Real extrapolating on Carol Gilligan

10/19/2025

FLEXIBILITY is the most important quality to seek out in a partner when you're dating. It is the hallmark of mental health.

10/18/2025

If you refuse to face your pain, you’ll make others organize their lives around it.

Unmet shame requires endless reassurance. Unmet anxiety turns into controlling behavior. Unmet grief prevents having vulnerable conversations.

The people around you start carrying not only their lives but also the heaviness of what you won’t feel and connection turns into the management of your fear. “Please don’t leave me,” is a fear of abandonment. “Why aren’t you more on top of things,” is a fear of instability. “Why can’t you just be positive and light,” that’s a fear of emotions. Unprocessed fears become expectations and demands.

True connection requires self-awareness and ownership. When you meet your pain directly, you stop subconsciously asking others to bend their life around it. You can state your needs clearly instead of expecting them to be met in demanding, distorted, and unconscious ways. And, of course, other people can certainly help you heal. That is one of the things that makes relationships poignant and sacred, but there is a big difference between naming what you need in a clean, lucid, and embodied way and subconsciously expecting others to behave in a way that keeps you compartmentalized.

So remember your healing is not just for you. It makes you less reactive, codependent, able to release grudges, able to stay present through conflict, and just more spacious to be around. It’s for everyone. I know its scary. The thought of going closer to the pain feels like everything will fall apart. Go slow but…[go]

- Corey Muscara

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Encino, CA
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http://www.sandypedram.com/

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