01/27/2026
Perimenopause is being marketed like a symptom scavenger hunt.
Hot flash. Weight gain. Brain fog. Sleeplessness. Irritability. Hormones. Supplements. Protocols.
After 21 years walking with women in this threshold, here is what I know:
Much of what gets labeled as “symptoms” is grief that hasn’t been felt.
Grief for the body changing.
Grief for the roles shifting.
Grief for the years lived for others.
Grief for loss of fertility (even when you never wanted children)
Grief for the children about to leave the house.
Grief for what never happened.
Grief for who you had to be to survive.
Grief that seems too silly to be sad about but keeps popping up.
We live in a culture that does not know how to grieve with the body.
So we analyze it. Medicate it. Manage it. Override it.
Grief is an invitation into deeper alignment with yourself and how you will now show up.
If you let yourself feel it, move it, breathe it, shake it, cry it, sweat it, walk it, lift it, sound it through your body, this phase becomes a passage that it’s meant to be …instead of a problem.
Women who learn how to grieve through their bodies move through this threshold with far more ease than women who try to control this process.
