03/06/2026
YOU DON'T HAVE TO DIE ALONE!!!
This might sound like a strange topic to find on this page, but please allow me to explain.
Many of you know I have been a life long volunteer....in MANY arenas...not for accolades, not because I had funding or was part of a special group, but because it just felt like the right thing to do.
What most of you don't know is that I'm also a volunteer first responder for my beautiful community. And sometimes you see things you really wish you could unsee.
When that happens, you have 2 choices....Suppress it, ignore it, self medicate, meditate, self destructive hobbies, feelings, etc.......
OR you ponder what could we do better to prevent having to encounter this again? Then be part of the change.
Most of my life I was in the first group, I've spent the last couple decades in the latter...........I might not have all the answers, but I DO have the desire.........and I don't believe the "I'm only one person thing."
Anytime someone is trying to do better, change is always good.....no matter how imperfect it might look....and the best part about that is that it's contagious and sometimes inspires others to ponder what we could also be doing better in our communities...
We might not be able to change the world....but we CAN change ourselves and contribute to a happy healthy community no matter where we stand, whatever our life experiences may be!
There are MANY ways to do that and this post is not about that.....I'm sure I've preached many of the ways before so I don't want to waste your time. :)
What I DO want to do is offer myself to be an ear, a shoulder to my community and help in any way I can, if you aren't already aware this is my desire.
Even if I haven't met you, I CARE!
I want you to think about....what does it take for someone to die alone?
I know this is a question that people with loving families never consider....but think about it for a moment.....how does that make you feel? I've even seen people JUDGE and BLAME those people without ever even caring to understand the actual circumstances surrounding their situation.
Sure.....maybe there are a few people here and there that think they truly want to be alone.....but in my experience that is very rare...and when it does occur...it's due to trauma.....which a little love could help with!
Yes, I'm suggesting that LOVING our neighbors, rather than judging them, might contribute to EVERYONE'S overall well being.
Most people WANT connection, yet fear it. They WANT someone to talk to, but they've been walked away from so many times that they quit trying in hopes of protecting themselves from further heartbreak.
They WANT to ask for help, but they've been screwed over so many times they are afraid....perhaps even traumatized....and don't know who to trust anymore.....if anyone.
I know these feelings......being unloved, uncared for, neglect, abandonment........scared to even be seen......... which is WHY I've always made myself available for everyone, everywhere at all times.
It was my life's mission decades ago to never allow someone to feel that way.......at least in my presence...
The good news is, there ARE people who care............but we also might keep to ourselves for some of the same reasons you do.......and of course life causing us all to be so distracted with work and whatever it takes to pay the bills and keep your family fed....keeping up with the enormous rising costs of living makes it difficult for people to be more present for others...but what if we could all make a small difference in our communities by being present for those who may need a little help or intention?
What about those who may be suffering an illness, but have no one to talk to...no one to even know what they want done when they transition to the afterlife...? What if they had someone to call? Do you have 15 minutes a week to check in on your neighbors? a text, a phone call, email, drive by...?
What if there was someone they could trust that they could call on.....?
I've known a couple people in my life who died alone....and NO ONE SAW IT COMING. One was not found for 6 days, dog standing at her side....the other wasn't found in her home till a month later, after the cats had already fed off her for their survival. :(
If you knew there was a possibility of that happening...would you want that for your beloved pets? What would happen to them and who would know what to do?
I was not aware they had any medical conditions that they should be checked in on every once in a while or I most certainly would have...in fact I wasn't aware that they needed any help at all!
I DO know they were traumatized, fearful......yet beneath that they really wanted to reach out to someone......like most of us....they just wanted to feel safe and loved.
Sometimes the loneliness of solitude is safer than taking the risk of reaching out again. They felt the typical available "services" in their community wasn't enough....or flat out weren't even there for them.
How would you feel if this happened to your next door neighbor?
Would you wonder if you could have done better, been more friendly, listened more, asked more questions???
Would you wonder if you should have checked in or attempted to know them better so this didn't happen to them and their pets...?
I get it...if you have families, you probably never entertained these thoughts......which is why those of us who are are empathic or compassionate enough to know how it feels, need to speak out on these topics so we can express how important it is for SOMEONE to advocate for them.
No one dies alone because they CHOSE to.....they died alone because no one cared enough to check in on them, call them, befriend them, send them a meal, etc.....
On that note, I can't thank those of you who DO go above and beyond for your community. Everywhere I've lived...it's always the same faces.....and YOU are the REAL HEROES! You don't help others for paychecks, bragging rights or youtube videos.....you do it because it's right, without ever asking for attention and applause, despite how inconvenient it might be at the time.....like those of you who fed my animals during my injuries these last few months........they didn't ask for a paycheck, a reward and didn't even want what I Wanted to give them.....they simply knew that help was needed. And they stepped up.
I personally feel it's our duty....all of ours duties in our respective communities....not just your own church, or your own group, kind, beliefs....neighbors are neighbors and for those of you who discriminate who you make yourself available due to religion, I would like to remind you, the bible didn't say to love your neighbor only if they vote the same way you do, look the same or go to the same church you do. It said simply:
LOVE YOUR NEIGHBOR AS YOURSELF. PERIOD.
I don't have all the answers.......yet..............but I have ideas, desires and feel the need to let you know that if you need someone to talk to, if you need something I can help with (time permitting) DO NOT HESITATE TO REACH OUT! I will do everything I can at any time I can!
I am not asking you to reach out so I can push herbs or "cure" you or "change" you. I respect all beliefs and situations and want only to help you in the way that YOU know you need. I will NEVER tell someone what THEY NEED....we have enough of that going on in the world! I want you to know that there is a safe space with someone who DOES CARE. RESPECT AND LOVE YOU.
In my decades in this field I have adhered to a strict code of confidentiality and will continue to do so. I check in on all my neighbors that I KNOW need to be checked in on....but how could I know to check in on those that never expressed their need....?
WE ARE NOT MEANT TO DIE ALONE!
Sure.....sometimes life happens, but in general, especially when it's a medical condition, there is some time before diagnosis and the afterlife.....depression, ptsd, grieving, stress etc... also count as needs.
I am offering to be there, at least as an ear to those who don't have one. I know that sometimes an ear or a smile is all one needs to turn things around.
The power of ONE PERSON showing they CARE can literally change lives. I know this because I lived it. I found that person who cared while living on the streets, disabled....no friends, no family, no income, noone to care.....then a stranger did.....and that's why I'm here today. I've had many angels in my life and giving back is what makes my heart sing.
No cell phone towers here so phone calls are sketchy, but please feel free to get my number off google maps and TEXT me so we can schedule a time to talk.
If you also want to be there for your community in this manner, SHARE THIS POST ( I know it's long, sorry lol) and tell your neighbors how they can contact you if need be. Or write your own...just offer yourself....Serve without a paycheck.....to the people who are often neglected, overlooked, ignored, judged......
Thank you so much for hearing me. I love you...ALL! And I know what REAL LOVE is.....this is no fake love and light, say one thing do another kind of hands off "love"....it is action. And always has been.
And you don't even have to love me back. :) I serve people who judge me all the time...lol
I have a few ideas moving forward making "teams" more available for their community so if you have any suggestions, please feel free to share. Or if you are local and want to discuss this with me and allow me to share my ideas about tackling this issue, please reach out.
Blessings and Love to ALL! And don't forget to make sure your loved ones KNOW how much you care. Lives are born and die in an instant....Be a Blessing to ALL you encounter!
